Is Comparison Destroying Your Family
While I was growing up, I constantly found myself looking at my friends and wishing I had what they had. It didn't matter what it was, I just wanted it. I wanted to have a traditional family like them, I wanted clothes like them, I wanted to be like them... My friend's lives always seemed better than mine.You'd think I would have grown out of this as I got older, but no. I was always jealous of certain people in my life. In high school, it was the girls with the perfect family life. As an adult, it was people with the perfect marriage.It never stops.
2 Ways Comparison Destroys Your Family
Comparison stays with you like a cancer. It grows as you grow and starts to infiltrate different parts of your life. If you don't take care of it early on in life, it even attaches itself to your family. Then you have to watch something that's plagued you for so long, affect your marriage and children.
Teaches Your Family They're Never Enough
If you and your family constantly compare yourselves to other families, you'll start to believe you're not enough. You'll always see yourself as second best. All of it starts to bleed into your self-confidence.As a mom, you stop enjoying the little things that make your family unique and set apart from others. You spend so much time trying to mimic other "perfect families" that you lose sight of how beautiful yours already is.
Slowly Makes You Resent The People You're Comparing Yourselves To
The longer you compare yourself to other people around them, the more you start to resent them. They go from a "perfect family" you envy to a family you resent. You start to resent how seemingly perfect they are, everything that makes them threat way in your mind, and it destroys your friendship with them.Comparison may look like it's motivating .you at first, but it always leads to resentment and never feeling content with your own life.Every family is unique and has their own family culture. If you look at the families around you, you'll start to see just how different they all are. Maybe your family shares a big passion for the outdoors, maybe you like to reach out to your community, maybe you like to travel, or maybe you love cooking together.Instead of trying to conform to this picture perfect image of what you should look like or what your family should look like, try letting it all go. Let it go and celebrate what makes you different.Break down those comparisons by remembering no one is perfect. The families you admire for being everything you're not is probably a lie. They have their own problems and are most likely struggling by comparing themselves to someone as well.Stop comparing yourself to other people today. Celebrate what makes you who you are. Teach your kids to celebrate their special qualities now. Watch your family thrive as they stop trying to be something they're not.
