A Letter To My Younger Self
Dear younger self, There are a few things I need to tell you. You're life is going to be amazing. It's going to be so different than what you're expecting right now, but believe me... you're going to love it. To help us both out a bit, please do a few things for me us.
Watch My Big Fat Greek Wedding
Even though you will not being marrying a Greek man, this movie will give you a taste of just how chaotic it can be to blend two cultures into a family. Also, the level of comfort you'll feel while watching it during your engagement will bring you more satisfaction than you think. It'll comfort you knowing it's supposed to be this crazy and it will remind you how amazing it's going to be.
Sleep as much as you can
Sleep while you can because you're about to live off 4-6 hours a night... on a good day.
Start learning about Indian culture
This will save you many awkward situations because your husband will forget to tell you little things about his culture that will lead you to saying and doing the wrong things. Don't worry though. Your new side of the family will laugh with you... then tease you about it relentlessly.
Enjoy using the bathroom alone
While this may seem like something little... it's not. Enjoy every time you get to use the bathroom and take a shower alone. Soon, you will have little ones banging on the door every time you try and hide use the bathroom. "Momma! I want you!"Not to mention showering. Somehow, you and your spouse will end up throwing the kids into each other's showers to try and get a few minutes of alone time for yourself.
Start using a calendar
Your memory is at it's prime right now. You don't need a calendar because you'll just remember what you need to do. Well, soon your brain will no longer work properly and you're going to forget everything. You will have your children to blame for this. Get into the habit of using a calendar now because it's going to keep you sane in the future.
Use a timer while cooking
If you would like to prevent dozens a few burnt dinners... start using a timer. You're going to think you're such a good cook that you don't need one, but you're going to get distracted by everything around you.Then your husband will love tormenting you over the fiascos, while reminding you he told you to use a timer.
Don't buy nice things
It may seem like a good idea to buy nice, breakable things right now, but don't. Unless you want to see it broken, scratched, sharpied, etc. just leave it at the store.
Learn Telugu
Stop everything you're doing and learn Telugu right now. Today. You're about to get married into a family that constantly speaks Telugu and unless you want to be left guessing what's being said, learn. Otherwise, you will only know the word Thella, which is just enough to know they're talking about you!Then your children will start to learn and about one month in, will surpass you...
Learn to let the little things go
The little things may seem important in the moment, but trust me... they usually don't matter in the big picture. Give yourself a break and learn this early. The more you let the little things go, the less stressed out you will be in the future.
Your life is going to be full of sticky fingers and chaos...
and you're going to love every minute of it. Nothing can compare to the love you will have for your little family. They will become everything to you and you'll wonder how you ever lived without them.