Why Are You Sorry I Have Three Kids?

If you're a kid person at all, you love babies. They're so cute! You can cuddle them, make silly sounds to them, and everything they do is adorable.When I had my first son, Liam, everyone was so encouraging! I'd walk into grocery stores and would be stopped down every aisle. They all wanted to look at the little boy with "all that hair!" They started gushing when I said he was my first. We got pregnant with Levi and most people were still thrilled. They said I was crazy to have them so close, but were still positive overall. My little Lucas, baby number three was a different story. Instead of being positive and encouraging, I got a much different response. "Wow. Are all these kids yours?""Three boys? I'm sorry."

I have heard these two statements so many times in the last month. At first I laughed. Now, it bugs me. Why are you sorry I have three boys? I'm not. 

 

I love my children. 

 

Is it always loud in my house? Yes. 

 

Do my boys have constant energy? Yes. 

 

Do they sword fight from the moment they wake up until the second the go to bed? Yes. 

 

Do they always need a bath? Yes. 

 

Do my kids require a no farting at the dinner table rule? Yes. 

 

Are they messy? Yes. 

 

Will they ever understand what an inside voice is? Probably not. 

 

Am I outnumbered by boys? Yes. 

 

Are they as sweet as can be? Yes. 

 

Does my oldest play with my hair to be sweet? Yes. 

 

Do my boys love each other deeply? Yes. 

 

Are they best friends? Most of the time, yes. 

 

Are my husband and I proud to raise all three of these boys to be strong men? Yes. 

 

Having three little boys is loud, messy, chaotic, exhausting, and a blast. I love it. I'm not sorry at all. 

What do you say when you get comments like this?

My Little Troublemaker

Oh my little Levi. He's the baby of our family for the next two months. He's sensitive, independent, loving, and the biggest handful alive. Our oldest, Liam, is extremely social. He always wants to be in the same room as you, telling you some story merely to make sure you're paying attention to him. He's also pretty easy to discipline. All you need to do is ground him from a toy, put him in timeout, or let daddy tell him no (apparently that's worse than the rest). I think we assumed Levi would be the same way. Oh, were we wrong...He couldn't be more different. He has cute curly, wispy hair. He's independent and could sit on his own and read all day long. He's impossible to discipline. He will actually go touch something he shouldn't, look at me, and then put himself in timeout or tell me to spank him. If I don't he actually yells at me. Mom, pankin!!Then of course I laugh and he wins. This adorable child wears me out everyday. I have to remind myself that he's only 20 months and is only doing it on purpose part of the time. Recently, we've been able to start having some alone time. He's about to be one of three children and I know alone time for our kids won't always be easy to facilitate. Liam goes to preschool for a few hours, twice a week. Usually, Levi and I drop him off and come home. It would be easy to focus on cleaning the house since he just wants to do his own thing. Instead, I've tried really hard to spend quality time with him the whole time. At first, he almost acted offended that I wanted to play with him. Mom, I can finally play with all of Liam's toys. Leave. Me. Alone.I think I've finally won him over. Now, he wants to play with me! One point for mom! I don't want this to end. I always want to have alone time with my kids. Will it be easier to just have them all be together all the time? Obviously. I want each of my children to know how much I love them. I want to know each of their little personalities and all about their lives. I'll always fight for my relationship with my children. How do you get in good quality time with all of your kids?