Nothing can beat the feelings you have when you first fall in love with your partner. Everything's new and you start to realize what true love really feels like. You wonder how you ever survived without this person in your life and start to picture your lives together.Then you wake up one morning and realize you've ended up in a long distance relationship.Long distance relationships are no secret to interracial couples. Many of us have fallen in love across states and different countries. The distance seems scary at first, but we want to make it work. We know we found the person we want to spend the rest of our lives with and we want to fight for it.The love you have for each other can conquer the distance between you.I'm not going to sugar coat anything for you today. It's hard. Relationships on their own require hard work, but add in a few hundred miles in between you and it's catapulted into a new level of chaos.I've been asking couples in my Multiracial Motherhood Facebook Group for some advice. I wanted to hear from all of them and find out how they made their long distance relationship work. Here are the tips they wanted to share with all of you!
Talk Regularly
Find time to talk every day. Schedules get complicated, but it's important to always make time for each other.
Schedule Date Nights
Even though you're apart, you still need date nights. Schedule a time to FaceTime over dinner and make it special.
Send Each Other Care Packages
Write each other letters and fill up little boxes to send to each other. Nothing beats getting a package from your loved one.
Remember To Talk About The Little Things
When you're far apart, it's easy to fill your phone calls with the big things. You want to make sure they know what's going on in your life, but it's easy to leave the small stuff out. Find time to talk about what you had for lunch, what you did with your friends, and the little moments of your day.
Have Fun Together
It's okay to be silly! Send funny messages, lip sync battle together, and keep your relationship fun!
Don't Keep Score
Don't make your relationship a competition by keeping track of who calls the most, who visits the most, or who does things more often. All you can do is the best you can.
Trust Each Other
Trust is huge in a long distance relationship. Keep the lines of communication open and don't let yourself constantly second guess your partner.
Start Your Day By Saying Good Morning And End It With Goodnight
Start and end every day by sending a quick message to say good morning and goodnight.
Try To Keep Your Times Together Simple
When you visit each other, you'll want to fill it with everything you miss doing together. Try not to overload your schedules for the few days you get to see each other. Try and keep it simple.
Let Yourself Feel All The Emotions
Long distance relationships are hard and it's important to allow each other to go through the emotions.
Make Trips Happen
Save as much as possible, even if it means cutting things out. Then take trips when possible.
Prepare Yourself For Criticism
People are going to make comments about your relationship and try to get you to second guess your partner. You know your partner and your relationship. That's all that matters.
Stay Positive
Your long distance relationship will be full of good moments and rough days. At the end of it all, you need to stay positive. You can make this work because you love each other.
