The Wife You Become After Having Kids

The Wife You Become After You Have Kids
The hardest part about adding kids to a marriage is learning how to balance it all. You want to be a good wife, mother, friend, daughter and the list goes on and on. Whether you work in the home as a stay at home mom, or are employed outside your home,  you know that there are some aspects of being a wife that change after having kids. I’ve highlighted just a few:

The wife whose  fashion sense suffers.

I have always loved fashion and been a fashion junkie. I subscribed to beauty boxes, read fashion magazines & followed celebrity gossip just so I could see what everyone was wearing. After a few evenings of sleep deprivation and a C-section, the last thing on my mind was what I was wearing. When it was a concern again, I struggled to find things that fit my new body. Thankfully, I have a husband who encouraged me through the process until I felt like myself again. 

The wife who runs out of things to cook. 

Balancing motherhood and being a wife gets a little tricky at dinnertime, one of the busiest times of the day. If it didn’t go in the Crockpot the evening before, or you’re too tired to run to the store, dinner tends to be a hodgepodge of what’s available at home. Sometimes it’s a great experience, and other times…well…you’re just glad everyone was fed. Your husband gets annoyed by all the time you spend on Pinterest, until you make an amazing dinner inspired by one of the recipes you actually cooked!

 The wife who craves alone time. 

Everyone mom gets this one! Being a mom and wife is fantastic; the pros definitely outweigh the cons. However, having alone time is like setting a reset button. Dealing with the everyday rush, accidents, tantrums & routines can make any sane person crazy. There’s something about a little quiet time that makes you start thinking rationally again. 

The wife whose love language may change. 

Before having kids, my love languages were acts of service & quality time. Now that I’m a mom, I’m always thinking of my family when I’m going shopping, even if the trip is supposed to be for me. So it’s a nice feeling when my husband takes the time to buy me a gift, one that I’d like for myself, but am too busy buying for my family to purchase. 

The wife who forgets her purse. 

Can I tell you how many times I left my wallet in the diaper bag? Really, I’m ashamed to admit it. It doesn’t help that I drive 80 miles a day to work. Thankfully I’ve never done that on an empty tank of gas. Even the most type A, organized mom forgets her purse (or wallet) on occasion. 

The wife who chooses sleep over sex. 

It’s not that we don’t want to have sex, it’s just that if we get more sleep, we’ll feel like having sex. The more children we have=less sleep. It’s a vicious cycle. A date night every now and then usually helps the mood. 

The wife who goes above and beyond for her family. 

Despite the craziness of family life, you love every second of it. You put yourself last to make your family a priority. Hats off to you! 

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5 Things Moms Teach Their Kids

5 Things Moms Teach Their Kids- It's easy to lose sight of just how much you do as a mom. Whether you know it or not, you are teaching your child to be a world changer just by being you and taking care of yourself.

5 Things Moms Teach Their Kids

As a mom, you're always on the go.You wake up in the morning thinking about everything that needs to get done all day, what you're going to make for dinner, the tower of laundry that needs to be folded, the doctors appointment that needs to be scheduled, and the list goes on. You have been given one of the most amazing gifts in the world. You're a mother. You've been given a beautiful child or children to raise and help become strong and powerful little people that will maybe change the world one day. 

5 Things You're Teaching Your Child

 

It's ok to lose your cool sometimes

As much as you'd like to be calm and loving at all times of the day, it's impossible. You will inevitably step on a murderous lego, have a hard day at work, or deal with a self-righteous person. Your child is going to see you lose your cool and it's ok. The most important lesson is what comes afterwards. After you lose your cool, you need to be able to rebound and move on. Kids need to see that their parent isn't perfect so they can accept their own imperfections. 

How to take care of people

Your child sees you take care of them everyday. You make them lunch (even if they don't eat it), you make sure they're safe, you tuck them in to bed at night, you help them deal with disagreements with friends... Even though they don't tell you, they know you're taking care of them. This is why you're the first one they go to when they're in trouble.You're teaching them how to take care of others just like you take care of them. 

What he or she deserves

Your child looks to you as their example for everything. They watch to see how your spouse talks to you, how the impatient driver behind you treats you, how your naive friend jokingly makes racist comments to you, and most importantly they watch to see how you respond. Your response teaches them how you let people treat you. Kids watch how their mom let people treat her to determine how they'll let people treat them. 

How to have hope in an imperfect world

As much as you'd like to prevent them from seeing all of the evil and imperfections of this world, they see it. They see how the justice system doesn't always let good guys win, they see things aren't always fair, and sometimes they see things that could make them lose hope in the world they're growing up in. You teach them to see the hope in it when you don't give up.Your child will fight for change in the world when they grow up seeing their mom making a difference.

How to love themselves

As a mom, you and your body have gone through more changes than you can count. It's easy to focus on the negatives. You look in the mirror and see stretch marks, extra weight, or imperfections you can't see past. Your child watches to see what you say about your changing body. As their body starts to change or they see how different they look in comparison to their friends, they'll look to you to see what they should think. Moms teach their kid to love their bodies, imperfections and all, when they love their own. 

A Promise To You Mom

You may not see everything you're doing for your kids and what it means when you're up to your neck in dirty dishes and laundry, but I promise you're changing their lives. You're teaching them how to be world changers by loving and taking care of yourself. It's easy to feel guilty over putting yourself first sometimes, but your kids learn more from a well taken care of mommy than a burnt out one. 

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AIW Tribe Mother's Day Gift Guide

AIW Tribe Mother's Day Gift Guide

Mother's Day is almost here! A day entirely devoted to the woman that took care of you, selflessly your whole life. They spend all of their time and energy on you, making sure you're happy and taken care of. You have one day a year to completely obsess over them and thank them for everything. Check out the AIW Tribe Mother's Day Gift Guide and pick one or a few gifts to spoil them with!

AIW Tribe Mother's Day Gift GuideFunny Gifts:

  1. "I Love How We All Know I'm Your Favorite Child" Coffee Mug
  2. "What I Love About Mom" Fill In The Blank Book
  3. "Mama Saur" Shirt
  4. "Go Away" Coffee Mug

AIWTribe Mother's Day Gift Guide

Spoil Her Gifts:

  1. Mother's Day Coloring Book
  2. Bath Bomb Set
  3. Ghirardelli Chocolate Basket
  4. Family Tree Frame
  5. Burt's Bees Set
  6. Scarf

AIWTribe Mothers Day Gift GuideBest Kid Ever Gifts

  1. Fit Bit
  2. Kindle
  3. Rebecca Minkoff Tote Bag
  4. Roomba
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A Letter To My Younger Self

snappa-1459518477Dear younger self, There are a few things I need to tell you. You're life is going to be amazing. It's going to be so different than what you're expecting right now, but believe me...  you're going to love it. To help us both out a bit, please do a few things for me us. 

Watch My Big Fat Greek Wedding

Even though you will not being marrying a Greek man, this movie will give you a taste of just how chaotic it can be to blend two cultures into a family. Also, the level of comfort you'll feel while watching it during your engagement will bring you more satisfaction than you think. It'll comfort you knowing it's supposed to be this crazy and it will remind you how amazing it's going to be. 

Sleep as much as you can

Sleep while you can because you're about to live off 4-6 hours a night... on a good day. 

Start learning about Indian culture 

This will save you many awkward situations because your husband will forget to tell you little things about his culture that will lead you to saying and doing the wrong things. Don't worry though. Your new side of the family will laugh with you... then tease you about it relentlessly. 

Enjoy using the bathroom alone

While this may seem like something little... it's not. Enjoy every time you get to use the bathroom and take a shower alone. Soon, you will have little ones banging on the door every time you try and hide use the bathroom. "Momma! I want you!"Not to mention showering. Somehow, you and your spouse will end up throwing the kids into each other's showers to try and get a few minutes of alone time for yourself. 

Start using a calendar

Your memory is at it's prime right now. You don't need a calendar because you'll just remember what you need to do. Well, soon your brain will no longer work properly and you're going to forget everything. You will have your children to blame for this. Get into the habit of using a calendar now because it's going to keep you sane in the future. 

Use a timer while cooking

If you would like to prevent dozens a few burnt dinners... start using a timer. You're going to think you're such a good cook that you don't need one, but you're going to get distracted by everything around you.Then your husband will love tormenting you over the fiascos, while reminding you he told you to use a timer. 

Don't buy nice things

It may seem like a good idea to buy nice, breakable things right now, but don't. Unless you want to see it broken, scratched, sharpied, etc. just leave it at the store. 

Learn Telugu

Stop everything you're doing and learn Telugu right now. Today. You're about to get married into a family that constantly speaks Telugu and unless you want to be left guessing what's being said, learn. Otherwise, you will only know the word Thella, which is just enough to know they're talking about you!Then your children will start to learn and about one month in, will surpass you... 

Learn to let the little things go

The little things may seem important in the moment, but trust me... they usually don't matter in the big picture. Give yourself a break and learn this early. The more you let the little things go, the less stressed out you will be in the future. 

Your life is going to be full of sticky fingers and chaos...

and you're going to love every minute of it. Nothing can compare to the love you will have for your little family. They will become everything to you and you'll wonder how you ever lived without them. 

If you could write yourself a letter, what would you tell yourself?

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