What Loving Day Means To My Multiracial Family
What Is Loving Day?
In 1967, the Supreme Court decided they would no longer prevent couples from marrying based on the color of their skin. This wasn't an easy decision in the 60's. Mildred and Richard Loving fought against a law they knew was wrong. After they were married, they were sentenced with one year in prison. They were madly in love and the state of Virginia didn't care. It only saw the color of their skin.The Lovings fought for their love and it's because of their perseverance and strength that multiracial families can proudly walk the streets together today.Every year on June 12th, we celebrate Loving Day to remember the Lovings and celebrate their victory, our victory. It's because of them that all couples can marry, regardless of their race.
Who Should Celebrate Loving Day?
Whether you are in an interracial marriage, have a multiracial family or not, Loving Day is for you too. It's not only for a select group of people. Loving Day stands for something bigger. It stands for racial justice and our right to marry the person we love.Without the Loving's fight, my husband and I would not be married. Our marriage would be illegal because of the color of our skin. Our children wouldn't be able to marry girls of a different race or ethnic background. The Lovings changed my life, my children's lives, and the world.Everyone should celebrate Loving Day because it affects all of us.
How Can You Celebrate Loving Day?
Find a Loving Day celebration.
There are Loving Day celebrations all over the US during this time of year. You can even go to the Loving Day website and look for your city. If you don't have one around you, start your own! Get your town into it and celebrate!
Celebrate at home.
Make a special dinner for your family and talk about the Lovings. Share their story with your spouse and/or children. Talk about the fight they had for us to marry who we love. You can even watch a movie all about it!
Spread awareness.
While the Lovings changed the world for our family, not everyone knows just how important they are. You can spread the word and share Loving Day with your friends.
What Loving Day Means For My MultiracialFamily.
While the Lovings stood against a law forbidding white and black citizens from marrying, it made a difference for my family too. My husband is East Indian and I'm white. The Lovings not only fought for their family, but for us.The Lovings fought so my husband and I could raise our kids in a world where love isn't defined by skin color.My children are young, but they know that Loving Day is important. It's because of this special day in history that my children don't know a world where mommy and daddy can't get married because of the color of their skin.
How Can You Spread Awareness For Loving Day Today?
Head over to Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram to share your story. Post a picture of your family, introduce yourself, and tell us what Loving Day means for your family.
Head over to the Multiracial Motherhood Facebook Group and see how other multiracial families are celebrating!
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My Gut Reaction To Hand Feeding
My Gut Reaction To Hand Feeding
When I first met my husband's family, I was so nervous that I didn't think about questions I should be asking him to prepare myself. I was just focused on not making a complete fool of myself!Luckily, his family is full of amazing people that made me feel comfortable right away. They even shared some cultural differences I may notice throughout our first week together. One of the first things they mentioned was that they ate Indian food with their hands.They showed the technique behind how to do it and I even ended up trying it out myself. I'll be honest, it took me a little bit to feel comfortable doing it in front of them consistently, but I learned. It became something I could do to show my husband (fiancé at the time) that I was eager to learn more about his culture and to embrace it.Over the years we've been together, it's become second nature to me. In fact, I can't remember the last time I ate Indian food with a utensil. The joke in Indian families is that food doesn't taste as good when using a utensil and I'm starting to agree!A meal isn't just about the food in Indian culture. It's about family and the love you have for each other.When my husband and I were engaged, we had a ceremony. During the evening, some of the older aunty's and uncles (older friends of the family) hand fed us sweets.At first, I was surprised and kept offering to do it myself. Then my husband gently nudged me and let me know it was part of the ceremony itself.This one took me longer to be comfortable with. The last time someone hand fed me, I was a little kid. In my mind, hand feeding was something parents did for their children who needed help. I had never seen it done in any other way.Fast forward a few years and I ran into an interesting situation with my 5-year-old, Liam. He is my child that wants to be big, now! He's not about this whole growing up business. He wants everyone to know he's mature for his age and doesn't need help. He's s spitting image of myself as a child.During one of our trips to visit my husband's family, one of Liam's Uthamas started to try and hand feed him. His instant reaction was to take it from her hand and do it himself. She offered a few more times and then stopped. My husband and I tried to explain it to him, but he wasn't having it.I'm not a baby, momma.This was the first moment I realized hand feeding was something bigger than I thought it was. It wasn't about an adult treating someone like a kid. It was about the special moment between two people who cared about each other.Uthama was hand feeding Liam because she loved him. It was just like snuggling on the couch for her. They were having a special bonding moment.
Over the years, my kids have responded to this differently. My two younger kids live for it. If they could be hand fed for every meal, they would! Liam is still a different story. He's becoming more comfortable with it, but in the back of his mind, he still pushes back.One thing we've done to try and help explain it to him is having him feed his uncle. My sister in law got married a little over a year ago. Her husband asked Liam to feed him some fruit on one of our trips. Liam started to laugh thinking he was being silly.Then he did it and it was such a special moment. He loves his uncle so much so for him I think it finally clicked in his mind. Obviously he could have fed himself, but he asked Liam to do it.Ever since then, he's been much more willing to have people hand feed him. He would still prefer to feed himself, but I don't notice him turning people down as much anymore. Now he just asks to feed them after!
A Special Bond Between Brothers
How Do You Do It?
When people find out I have three boys under 6 years old, they immediately ask me, "How do you do it!" To be honest, most days are crazy. There are always little kids climbing on couches, fighting over toys, talking about bodily functions, and it gets messy.Real messy. Like Cheerios everywhere you can imagine kind of messy.However, there is one person that helps keep me sane every day, my five year old Liam. He is a rock star. He's definitely coming into a sassy I know everything phase, but he is always helping me. In our family, he is the Unna, which means the big brother.An Unna is a very special role in Indian families. They have the responsibility of looking out for their siblings and truly coming in as a little parent. For those of you that are the oldest in your family, you know what this looks like. Indian families take it a step further though. It's not just that they look out for their siblings, they truly have a place of authority in their siblings lives.I was introduced to this when I met my brother and sister in law for the first time. It was Thanksgiving and I was still getting to know my husband's family. We had been dating for a while at this point and knew it was serious. I was anxious to see what type of relationship my husband had with his siblings.I was the oldest of all my brothers so I had an idea what it looked like to have the responsibility on your shoulders. The more I watched them interact, the more I noticed something different. His siblings truly respected him and actually listened.I tell my brothers what to do all the time and usually they do what they want in the end. I'm sure I'd be the same way if the tables were turned.My brother and sister in law had a completely different relationship with their big brother. They valued what he said and went to him like they would to their own parents.
Passing Down Traditions To Our Boys
This was always something I wanted to pass on to my kids. I loved the idea behind it. It meant my kids would always be looking after each other and what mom doesn't want that.All three of my kids know and understands what it means to be an Unna. All three of them listen to their older brother and know it's their responsibility to take care of each other. Now, I'm not saying I let them parent each other while I lounge on the couch... As much as I'd love that!The relationship they have with each other is special. They rely on each other, love each other, and they're little partner's in crime everywhere they go.Out of all of the traditions we've passed down to the boys, this special bond is one of my favorites. I love the closeness it has brought all three of them.The funny thing is now they think all families are like ours. They assume they're unnas to everyone who is younger than this. This gets fun when we have play dates because they start bossing all the little kids around! Sometimes being an Unna is an excuse to be the boss.As they get older, they're going to learn more about what the role of an Unna means and I can't wait to watch them figure it out.
40 Family Friendly Summer Activities
My kids have been counting down for summer since the pools closed last year. They love swimming and my 5 year old even started to learn how to do it on his own! Even though I tried as hard as I could to keep him from the pool altogether.In our family summer means sunshine, family vacations, visits from family all over the globe, and grilled Indian food. We all love it.Since moving to North Carolina, we feel like we're starting summer a bit early here. The weather has been amazing here lately with sunshine and heat. I know summers here get a little crazy, but we're daydreaming anyways. We even made a list of all the things we want to do this summer!
40 Family Friendly Summer Activities
1. Got To The Beach2. So Strawberry Picking3. Make Ice Cream4. Go Camping5. Make S'mores6. Read 5 Books7. Water Balloon Fight8.Collect SeaShells9. Conquer A Fear10. Try Something New11. Camp In Your BackYard12. Build A SandCastle13. Eat Watermelon14. Go On A Road trip15. Volunteer As A family16. Do A Lemonade Sale17. Have A Sleepover18. Scavenger Hunt19. Watch Fireworks20. Kids Make Dinner21. Go To The Zoo22. Go On A Kite23. Host A Dinner With Friends24. Watch a Foreign Movie25. Visit A Farmer's Market26. Attend A Parade27. Slip N Slide28. Treasure Hunt29. Homemade Pizza30. Splash Park31. Outside Movie Night32. Picnic33. Breakfast for Dinner34. Sleepover at Grandmas35. Ride a bike36. Game Night37. Make Potato Stamps38. Summer Camp39. Put On A skit40.Obstacle Course
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Let's Beat The Heat With These Summer Activities For Kids!
I'm not sure about you guys, but it's getting HOT in North Carolina. It's showing us just how crazy our summer is going to be! We've decided to share some of our favorite ways to beat the heat this summer!Here are 10 of our favorite activities from other bloggers who know exactly how to do do summer right!
1. I love this Backyard Teepee from Mamma Papa Bubba! It would be perfect for a little outdoor fort or even a little reading spot.
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2. Mini Water Blobs from Hello Wonderful. They're perfect for some outdoor slipping and sliding!
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3. This Portable Sandbox from How We Learn is perfect! You can fill it up and bring it anywhere!
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4. Squirt Gun Races from This Grandma Is Fun is a huge hit at our house! My kids love anything Nerf gun!
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5. Make your own Fairy Garden with Design Dazzle! I've always wanted to make one of these!
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6. Make Giant Bubbles with One Charming Party. Who doesn't want bubbles as big as yourself!?
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7. Build a Pool Noodle Race Track with Ramblings From Utopia.
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8. Have some cold fun by freezing your Treasure Hunt with Macaroni Kid.
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9. Do a Rock Painting Craft with What Can We Do With Paper and Glue.
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10. Enjoy some Squirt Gun Painting with Fire Flies and Mud Pies.
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I Can Finally Breathe Again
Have you ever had a moment where you realize you've been holding your breath for a long time?
A moment where you finally take a deep breath and realize things are ok? This is exactly how I felt this month, let me tell you why.My family and I are coming out of a rough season. Our youngest has been dealing with febrile seizures and it's caused us to put a lot of things on hold. It was something we needed to do.If he got sick, we would cancel all of our plans and simply stay home.If he got sick, my husband and I knew we were in for a long night of waking up every 3 hours to give him Motrin.If he got sick, we had to check his temperature every 30 minutes to make sure he wasn't spiking a fever.It became our routine. We knew what we needed to do and the moment he got sick, we'd go on autopilot. It went on like this for the last year. I didn't even realize how exhausted I was until earlier this month.We went into my son's neurologist and she said she wanted to get more tests done. She wanted to see if he was indeed dealing with febrile seizures or if it was something more. Waiting for those results were the longest few days in my life. The morning finally came and we went in to hear the results.She walked into the room and told us everything came back normal and it was indeed febrile seizures. This was the answer we were hoping and praying for because it means he'll grow out of them!
In that moment, I let out a deep breath.
What I didn't realize was that I'd been holding my breath for months. I was so scared to actually let myself breath. I didn't know when the next seizure would come... I didn't know when I would finally hit my breaking point...This year has been hard on our family, but we didn't let it ruin our year. When Luke was sick, we'd stay have to stay home all day, and we'd turn it into an adventure. We'd turn our living room upside down and we'd build the biggest fort we could.When Luke would have to stay at the hospital, family and friends would come and make sure the other kids had a little mini vacation.
Life happens.
Things don't always go as planned and that's ok. This year was incredibly stressful. No one wants to see their baby go through something they can't stop. No one wants to see that look on their baby's face post-seizure and know how scared they are.The reality is we could have taken everything that we experienced this year and let it ruin us or we could take it and grow as a family. We chose to grow. We chose to teach our kids how to respond to life when it gets hard.We learned how to depend on each other as a family. We learned how to make the best of an awful situation. We learned how to laugh even when all you want to do is cry.Now, we've learned to celebrate as a family.
Our Multiracial Family Mentors
Holidays are full of chaos and sweet memories in our family.
What can you expect when you get so many people together in one home!Easter this year was no different. As most of you know, we recently moved to North Carolina which sadly is only further away from family. We absolutely love my husband's job change, as it means he hardly ever travels anymore, but being away from family is hard.Throughout our marriage, my husband and I have always lived by one side of our families. It's changed over the years as we've moved around, but family was always there.Now, the closest family member is about 8 hours from our home. We're no strangers to road trips, so I see plenty of road trips over the summer to spend time with the kid's uthas, chininas, uncles, and nanamas.In the meantime, we definitely miss everyone. This is why Easter was so special this year. My husband's pinni, uncle, cousins, and mom came to spend the holiday weekend at our new house!We were so excited to show everything off and show them the new town and home we've fallen in love with.Our home was bustling with people all weekend and it truly made our new house feel like our home. My husband and I love having family stay with us!One of the best parts of the weekend was seeing our kids spend time with their uthas and chinina (cousins).They are being raised in a multiracial family like my kids are and I'm always so encouraged watching them. Their parents have made such a strong effort to blend Eastern and Western culture within their family. They've always been our go to family for advice on how to blend. They've been doing it for 22 years!Sometimes I lay in bed at night wondering if I'm doing it well enough.I get worried I won't be able to bring Indian culture into our family as much as I want it to be.I worry my kids won't truly understand how rich and beautiful Indian culture is.Then I see their cousins and see that it's possible. They have a deep love for both cultures. It may be shown differently, but it's there. As they get older, their pride for both cultures only gets stronger.
What are their secrets? What have they done throughout their kid's lives to make this a reality?
Travel
They have traveled to India as a family multiple times. It seems simple, but spending time in India takes what they've learned from their parents about Indian culture and takes it to the next level. There's only so much you can say and at a certain point you have to show them.Our family has yet to take our kids to India as my son is dealing with health issues, but we save every year so that we can make it a reality. We want to show our kids what it looked like for daddy to live in India.Traveling to India isn't just for the kids, it's for our marriage too. I want to see India and actually spend time there. I want to experience India with my husband.
Food
If you glance in their fridge or pantry, you'll see traditional dishes for both cultures and fusion dishes. You can look at the table and see one kid eating a samosa, one eating a mango, and one eating a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. Their kids are comfortable with both cuisines and I love it.We try and do the same with our kids. Our staple meals consist of keema curry, pasta, burgers, and chicken tikka masala. I do the best I can to make sure both cultures are represented throughout the week in my meal plan. Although if it was up to me it would be all Indian food because I'm obsessed!
Open Minds
This couple is completely open to their spouse's culture. While Pinni grew up in India, she has no problem embracing her husband's family culture. She wants him to know she values and loves his family, culture, and everything that has made him the person he is today.The same can be said about the way he treats her. He travels with her to India, he wears traditional Indian clothes, and makes sure his kids use the appropriate Indian terms for family members.The best part is that he has taught me so much about what it means to embrace Indian culture. He has been my go to person for advice so many times.Having an open mind in a multiracial family is vital. There are going to be so many times your culture will push you towards different directions. You and your partner have to be open to trying things a different way.
Do you have a multiracial family in your life that you look up to? What have they taught you?
Preparing For A Move With Kids
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Preparing For A Move With Kids
Over the last seven years, my husband and I have moved our family a total of 3 times. We've lived in four different states which means we've had to move our lives three times!We've learned quite a few things through trial and error. You know how it is when you move... You get so exhausted that you start cutting corners, only to end up at your new house with no idea where anything is. If you're not careful you end up in this predicament for much longer than expected!
Simple Tips To Follow For Your Next Move
Don't worry, I have a few tips for you that will make your next move a cinch!
Leave one small box of the kid's favorite toys out until the very last day
As you start packing up each room, be sure to leave out your kid's favorite items. In our house, this was a few stuffed animals, a building set, books for bedtime, cars, and some superheroes. It helped to reduce the mess by only having one box of toys and it was comforting for the boys. They were watching their home be packed away, but their favorite toys were by their sides.
Use plastic tubs instead of boxes
Boxes are nice, but at the end of the move, you're stuck with dozens and dozens of broken down boxes. This time around, we learned from the past and picked up a few dozen tubs. They were a bit spendier than picking up boxes, but made moving so much easier! They stacked on top of each other beautifully!
Label Label Label
The biggest headache is arriving at your new home and not being able to find anything! This is why labeling is so important. Label to the point you think you're overdoing it because I can promise you, you're not!
Stay Hydrated
The best thing you can do for your whole family while moving is to keep them hydrated! It helps keep their energy up, helps their body fight new sick bugs, and makes for much happier kiddos. Moving takes a lot out of your body so be preventative and keep them hydrated the entire time.
Put all of your essentials in the same box and label them so you can find them right away
There are always a few items you will need as soon as you get to your new home. Put all of these in 1-2 boxes and label them so you can find it easily.
Keep Hanging Clothes On The hanger
Use a garbage bag to hold all of your clothes on hangers. This way you can transport it easily without having to take them off the hangers. It means one less thing to do!
If you're breaking down furniture, keep all the pieces in one place
When you're breaking down furniture, you end up with dozens of little screws and bolts. Put the pieces for the furniture in a separate baggie. Then take all the bags you end up with and put them in a small box or container. This way there's not a way to lose pieces you need later!
Let the kids play outside
As your packing up the house, the worst thing is for the kids to get into boxes and start taking things out. Do yourself a favor and try to get them to play outside as much as you can even if that means you pick up a few cheap outside activities like chalk
Offer delicious food to people that help you move
Finding people to help you move can feel impossible. In reality, who wants to spend their whole day lifting boxes? All you need to entice them is some delicious food! Pick up some good snacks and tempting food.
Purge when you can
When you move you realize just how much junk you've acquired over the years. This is your opportunity to get rid of anything you haven't use in the last six months or can easily replace at your new house.
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Apparently I've Become A Soccer Mom
My New Proud Title, Soccer Mom!
It happened. This week I officially became a soccer mom and a football mom! Both of my older kids started up sports this month and our life has definitely changed. Our house is cluttered with sports gear every day, our backyard has cones and nets, and our kids are begging to wear their uniforms all the time!Before I had kids, I was always hearing little jokes about being a soccer mom. It was usually references to what they wore or what their hair looked like. Now that I'm here.. they can make all the jokes they want! I love it! I'll even be the mom wearing their uniforms each week! OK maybe not they're uniform, but one in my size!I love the atmosphere when you go to a kid's game. The sidelines are filled with proud parents and kids are constantly looking to see what they're parents are doing. I'm pretty sure my four year old was looking to make sure I didn't move!
My Little Soccer Star
Levi, my four year old had the most free spirited game by far. He's in a four year old instructional league. Most of them are just trying to figure our how to kick a ball down the field and which goal is theres.Our kids play different sports at home, but this is the first time there is a competitive edge. It really helps you to see what sport they're passionate about. After watching Levi play in his first soccer game, I can officially say... I have no clue if we'll do it again next year!
Most of the time he danced, pranced, or crawled around on the field. He had more fun doing that than running after the ball. Granted he wasn't the only wanderer during the game, but I think I laughed the entire game.The picture above is him hanging out in the other team's net! He had more fun observing and being silly and to be honest it was such a perfect picture of his personality. Even though his team was losing, he wasn't bothered in the slightest. He was just making everyone smile!I don't know if he is a future soccer star, but I do know he's going to have fun finding what he's passionate about!
My Little Football Champ
Now, onto the football champ. I can't get over how cute they both looked in their uniforms! Especially Liam because he uniform is so big on him! He swims in it! It's a good reminder that he's the youngest on the team. It's a 6-8 year old league, but they let you play up a year. So, even though he's 5 they let him play in the 6 year old league. I expected there to be more 5 year olds, but nope!I think he'll be fine. He can handle his own with football and it's going to teach him a lot. Plus, he has an August birthday which means he's the youngest in most things. He's used to it and didn't seem intimidated at all.
Both of the kids had games at the same time so I ended up running back and forth to take pictures of both their games. I was looking through my pictures today and almost all of them are of the kids playing with their mouth guards!I think they felt really big having them and they probably feel really weird! I couldn't imagine having to play a game with a mouth guard in my mouth the whole time. Well, they don't seem to mind at all!
Being a soccer and football mom is so much fun. I've only been in this new season of our lives for a few weeks, but I'm already loving it! I love cheering them on from the sidelines!Be sure to follow me on Instagram so you can check us out each week at the kid's games!
Toddler Approved Chores!
Are you looking for age appropriate chores for your family? This is a killer list of simple chores! Check it out and let us know your favorite!
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Trying To Keep Up With The Mess
Life with three little boys under six years old is messy to say the least. These little boys attract dirt. I don't know how they do it, but they do. They have so much energy and everything they do somehow causes a big mess.They go play in their room... dump out all the toys.They go outside to jump on the trampoline... sneak all the pillows onto it.They eat lunch... more ends up on their clothes and table than in their mouths.They go to the bathroom... somehow miss the bowl EVERY TIME... (Seriously boys are gross).You tell them to play nicely while you switch laundry over (or restart the same load in the wash)... they decide it's the perfect time to get into your makeup.I could go on and on. They live to make those messes. While it drives me crazy cleaning it up, I can't expect them to sit still all day and be mess free. The look on their faces when they build their trampoline obstacle course is priceless.I love seeing their little imaginations go, however it doesn't mean mommy and daddy have to clean it all up.
Chore Time!
After finally realizing the idea of keeping my house clean all day just wasn't possible, I knew I had to do something. I refused to spend my whole day cleaning up their monstrous messes while they watch PJ Masks on the TV.But were they ready for chores?Were they too young?No way! My husband and I sat down and made a huge list of chores that needed to get done around the house. We even took some of the bigger chores and broke them down into simple steps.If your kids are walking and talking, they can clean up a mess.You'll thank me when you're the one sitting on the couch, drinking a juice box, watching Moana as they clean up their mess in the living room.Chores are a great way to teach your children responsibility at any age. They quickly realize the messes they make need to get cleaned up in the end. Plus, no momma or daddy should be doing all the cleaning in the house.As a family, you are all responsible to to take part in keeping it up.
Our Favorite Toddler Chores
These are a few of my family's favorite chores for our kids. I have a 2, 4, and 5 year old. Over the years we've had to find chores that work well for each of them and their ages.I even stopped by my son's preschool to ask the teacher for some ideas. They were great! Not to mention it spreads the load out at home.
How do you get your kids excited about chores?
Finding age appropriate chores is one thing, but getting your kids to actually do them is another. After a lot of trial and error (and a bit of yelling) we found the solution!We picked up a chore chart! This chore chart is great because you can change them out whenever you need to.Each week they work for something else. Sometimes they doing chores to work towards a family movie and other times we let them go and choose a small toy.They love looking to their chart to see how close they are to their goal! It's a great visual reminder and positive reinforcement. Every time they do a chore, they run to the board to put up a new magnet!
What is your favorite toddler approved chore?
Celebrating Holi By Making It Colorful
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How You Can Celebrate Holi
As spring is approaching, many Indian families around the world are getting excited. It means it's almost time for Holi, the Festival of Colors! This holiday has been making its way to the US as some colleges are even starting to celebrate it on their own!It's an opportunity for people to put down their differences and have some fun! During Holi week kids play pranks, colorful powder is thrown (or a color war if you're in our house!), and people are celebrating good over evil.As multicultural families, this holiday may look different to all of us. You may not know about the religious background to the holiday and that's ok. This is a great opportunity to teach your family about the world around them.As parents, we're raising global citizens. We have the opportunity to challenge hate and racism in the world by informing our kids. We can teach our kids about different holidays, customs, and ways of life. Holi is the perfect holiday to teach your kids about!It's all about love and celebration.
Colorful Activities
Another name for Holi is the Festival of Colors so as you can imagine, it's all about color! The time of year it's celebrated alone is all about flowers blooming and life starting fresh.There are so many ways you can teach your family about the Festival of Colors. Here are a few activities my kids love doing around this time of year.
Good Food
One of my family's traditions during Holi week is to prepare a delicious batch of Indian donuts. They're super fun and easy to make with the whole family! I swear my kids have a different sense just for Indian donuts because the second they smell them cooking they come running!
Celebrate Holi With Tea India
I've joined with Tea India today to see how we can help you #makeitcolorful! Whether this is your first time celebrating Holi or your family does every year, we want to see how you're celebrating!Be sure to share your traditions and don't forget to tag us!
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6 Places Parents Can Find Refuge From Their Kids
Sometimes My Kids Drive Me A Little Crazy
Let's all take a moment and be honest with each other. Parent to parent. Sometimes you just need a break from your kids. Sometimes the, "mommy mommy MOMMY, " just gets to you. As a stay at home mom, I'm with my kids all day every day. While it is a huge blessing and I do love that I'm able to, it's hard to find a moment of solitude. Especially now that my oldest has decided he's done with naps.Our days tend to get a little chaotic to say the least.
A Little Peak At Our Day
6-7:30 am- Kids wake up and watch cartoons in mommy and daddy's bed7:30-8:30 am- Breakfast and daddy leaves8:30-12:30 Mommy does school with the kids, attempts to keep the them busy, and makes them lunch12:30-2:30 Nap for little kids and chaos for big brother2:30-4:30 Kids argue, play, argue, beg for dinner, and make a big mess4:30-5:30 Mom attempts to make dinner while kids beg for attention and food5:30-6:30 Dinner time and playing with daddy6:30-7:30 Kids get ready for bed, make a mess, clean up their mess, go to bed, and ask for a dozen drinks of waterThe next day we start it all over again.As you can see there isn't much time at all where momma gets any alone time. All day long my kids are right there next to me. Don't get me long, I love my time with my kids. I really do. The part that drives me crazy is the whining.I know you can all understand seeing as the number one show most hated by parents is Caillou. The reason behind all the hate is his whiny voice! Ahh. It just makes me cringe and it's the exact same feeling I have when my own kids whine.It's for this reason and a few others that this momma needs to find a little refuge during the day.
6 Places Parents Can Find Refuge From Their Kids
When things get a little crazy in our house I have a few places I use to get away from it all.
The Bathroom
I'm pretty sure the guys beat us to this one. No one has to get to the bathroom for that long... They know what they're doing. They're hiding from everyone in there! They grab their phone and use it as a bit of solitude.One of the best parts of this location is that there is a lock on the door. Even if your kids find you, they can't get to you!
The Kid's Room
If your kids are anything like mine, the last place they want to play is there own room. Finding them playing in their room is a miracle. If mom and dad happen to ask them to play there... they act like we're torturing them.How could you ask us to do that!?This is exactly why it's the best place to hide from them. It's the last place they'll look!
The Kitchen Floor
Sometimes, you can't manage to get anywhere else so you just plop yourself down on the kitchen floor. If you're lucky, they don't look in the actual kitchen. They usually just glance and move on. If I'm being honest, this is my go to spot when things get crazy at night.My husband has found me here more times than I'd like to admit!
The Shower
The moment I put my little monkey's to bed, I hop in the shower. First of all, it's relaxing and the perfect way to destress. Second of all, it means the hubby has to deal with the kids if they get out of bed. Momma is unavailable and daddy is the only one that can walk to them to their bed a few dozen times.Unless your husband gets wise to your plan and throws a naked baby into your shower with you...
The Car
I love car rides with my kids. They typically don't mind them and almost always fall asleep. Seriously, think about it. All the kids are strapped in and can't get into anything. If they're lucky they have something to play with to keep them busy.If all else fails, turn the music up.
Grocery Shopping
This was my go to hide out when my husband was traveling for work. He would come back from a long trip and the first thing I would do is take a drive to the grocery store. It didn't matter what I needed, I would walk up and down every aisle and just enjoy the peace.
What's your go to place you find refuge from your kids?
Screen Free Activities For The Whole Family
How To Unplug Your Family
Over the years screen time has become a normal part of our daily lives. We have our TV's on for big chunks of the day, sit on our phones, or let the kids play video games. There is a time and place for all of it, but how many hours do you spend with a screen in front of you?I challenge you to sit down for one day and track how much. You may not even realize how much it is.My biggest downfall is my phone. I may turn the TV off for the kids, but then I sit there working on my phone or scrolling through Facebook. It's nice to have a break from the chaotic day, but then reality hit me this week.My son came up to talk to me while I was on my phone. I didn't think twice about it because I was just looking through a few emails while he talked to me. Then he stormed away and I'm ashamed to say it took me a while to know he was upset.I finally noticed and went upstairs to see what he was doing. I found him pouting on his bed. I asked him what was wrong.Mom, you're not even listening to me! I was telling you something and all you cared about was your phone.It was like he punched me right in the gut. I felt terrible. The email could have waited but instead, I chose to put it first and my son felt it.As parents, we're busy all day. Whether you're at work or working in the house it gets busy. Technology has made our lives a lot easier. We have TV for entertainment, phones for pretty much everything, and so much more.The problem is that technology can get in the way of real human connection.I will be honest with all of you and admit that this isn't the first time this has happened. I have so many things on my plate and I tend to try and do it all at the same time.This year I'm challenging myself and my family to unplug.By unplugging we will be putting our relationships with each other first. I encourage you to join us! Unplugging will look different for all of us. My husband works 9-5 so during that time he has to be plugged in and that's ok. Look at your family's schedule and see where you have the ability to unplug.The kids and I try to unplug in the mornings so we can enjoy breakfast together and then do something fun. Then while they're asleep I take a bit of time to plug back in and get work done.
Screen Free Routines
Take a look at your daily routine and find opportunities to turn off the screens and unplug.
Enjoy Dinner Around The Dinner Table
Collect all the cell phones in the house and put them aside during dinner. This will mean your family actually has to talk during dinner and spend real quality time together.
Schedule Technology Free Times
Look at your schedule during the day and find a few blocks of time that you can schedule yourself to be "off the grid." Turn off the TV, set the phone down, and just enjoy time with your family.
Put The Phone Down When Talking To Your Kids
This is my biggest struggle. When your kids come up and talk to you make sure you put the phone down. The same goes for everyone else. Show people you value them by putting them first in that moment.
Screen Free Activites For The Whole Family
Family Walks
Make Dinner Together
Go On A Scavenger Hunt
Try Something New Together
Family Band!
Board Games
Treasure Hunt
Follow The Leader
What's your favorite screen-free activity?
Unusual Things I've Discovered About My Family While Moving
We're Moving... Again..
If you've known me for long, you know my family has a thing for moving around. Since my husband and I have been married we've lived in California, Washington, Illinois, and now we're about to set off on our next adventure.North Carolina!We're sad to be closing this chapter of our lives in Illinois, but excited for something new in North Carolina. Not to mention the relocation means my husband doesn't have to travel for work anywhere near as much as he did last year!The kids had mixed feelings about moving... That is until my husband told them he'd be home now and *drumroll please* we'd be getting a new dog...I'm pretty sure the marriage rulebook says you have to check with your wife BEFORE you bribe you kids with a pet of any kind.. Luckily, I love dogs and we're about to have a lot more space.Little does he know I'm planning my revenge. He may or may not come home from work one day only to be greeted by a pet of my choice that I decided to surprise him with.Hmmm.. What would I get? A kangaroo? No. A monkey! Not quite right yet. Don't worry, I'll think of one!
5 Things I've Learned While Moving
Our family is pretty used to packing up our house. Over the years we've landed on a common theme and it's that we have way too much stuff! This time around we decided to get rid of as much as we can to make things a little easier.While packing I've uncovered some unusual things about my family...
My Kids Don't Actually Need Their Toys
I did things a little backwards this time. I most of the kid's toys first. I was waiting for them to start losing their minds, but it never happened. They didn't care. I left out one of each of their favorite toys and boxed up the rest. Then something crazy happened!They started using their imaginations even more!Instead of dumping out all their toys, they run around the house playing bad guys and superheroes! It's a different theme every day but they're having fun.
I'm A Hoarder
I thought I've purged a lot over the years, but I was wrong. In the last two weeks I have done at least 6 trips to Goodwill and each time I had a full trunk. They must think I'm crazy there.How does this woman own so much!?I donate everything in the trunk and come home, only to look around and realize their is so much left!
My Kid's Have Secret Stashes Around The House
I've always known my three year old likes to keep a little secret stash. He's done this since he was little and hid his pacifiers around the house.His go to spot is under his pillow. My husband and I check it before we go to bed at night and we're always surprised! We've found scissors, permanent markers, candy, and toys. If you ask him him about it he just gives you his sly little look and says it's our present.As we've been packing up the house, I'm starting to find little stashes around the house! They're everywhere!
I Love Purging
I have fallen in love with purging! I gave myself one box to keep all of our sentimental items and then had a little routine with the rest. I made myself touch everything I own and then I asked myself if I really needed it. If I didn't need it or haven't touched it in 3 months it went straight to the donation box.I don't want to show up at our next home and have it filled with things we don't need. I want to look around and see things that bring me joy.Hopefully my kids feel the same way when we get to the new house and they see quite a few missing toys!
I May Just Keep All Of My Stuff Boxed Up
We're one day away from the moving POD coming and I feel good. We're living out of a suitcase and eating fast food, but I don't have to clean all day. There are only a few things left which means the kids play with them and bring them with them.I'm not cleaning up after them all day or doing a tower of never ending dishes.I may just tell the POD to keep all of our stuff and just drop off the furniture!
Follow us on our journey here!
What unusual things have you discovered about your family while moving?
How To Simplify Your Children's Bedtime Routine
Simplify your children's bedtime routine with a few simple steps! Then you can spice up your evenings with a free Game Story printable!
Our bedtime routine.
6:30 Turn off any shows the kids may be watching and send them upstairs to get ready for bed. While the big kids are brushing teeth and getting on their jammies I start getting my youngest ready. After he's cozy and ready I lather him up in lavender and coconut oil. I just started doing this with all of my kids before bed and it's been a game changer. It helps them all to calm down and has been helping my oldest with his bad dreams.
7:00 My youngest gets smothered in kisses, we pray, and then he goes to bed. He's the easiest to put down to sleep because he loves bed time. I kid you not, he actually loves it. All you have to do is tell him it's bed time, he gets his blankey, and starts to climb upstairs.
Then I go to my big kids room only to find my older kids not ready for bed yet. It doesn't matter that I asked them to get ready. They tend to be playing hide and seek or jumping on their beds (trying to stay away from the lava.) I remind them, for the countless time to get ready for bed. After a bit of help, they get ready and race into their room.
7:30 This is my kids favorite part of the night. Game story. We all pile into one of our kids beds and get our creative juices flowing. Everyone starts to jump in saying who gets to start the story. It usually ends up being my husband or myself.
Game story rules: Each person gets to tell a small portion of the story. After someone takes their turn, the next person will start off where they stopped.
Game story has become a family tradition in our house. We even include any houseguests we may have.
8:00 We tuck the kids in bed, give them kisses, turn on their clock night light, and close their door.
8:02 The kids ask for a drink of water.
8:03 The kids ask for another drink of water.
Our Bedtime Routine Essentials
Blanket / Coconut Oil / Kid's Clock / Game Story Printable
What does your bed time routine look like?
You Mean The World To Me Printable Valentine's Day Cards
Printable "You Mean The World To Me," Valentine's Day cards- FREE printable Valentine's Day cards for kids!
Check out these printable Valentine's Day cards for a budget friendly craft your kids can bring to their classroom!
Printable Valentine's Day Cards
It's that time of the year again! Valentine's Day is just a few short weeks away which means it's the perfect time to start thinking about your kid's Valentine's Day cards! Will they go with a theme? Will they make their own? Will it mean a table full of scrap paper and glue mess when it's all done?My kids have always loved picking out their Valentine's Day cards! There are so many fun choices to pick from and they like to be unique.As a multicultural family, I'm always looking for ways to put a fun spin on holidays. We tend to blend cultures within our family for the holidays and sometimes it's just plain fun to put a multicultural twist on things.
You Mean The World To Me
Whether you are a multicultural family, travel enthusiast, or simple love the world you live in these cards are perfect for you!Today, I have a simple printable to make Valentine's Day preparation easy! All you have to do is pick which design you like, or both, then print them out!What can be more simple or fun this Valentine's Day?
If you liked this you'll love our list of fun DIY Valentine's Day cards!
5 Reasons You Should Read Aloud To Your Child
5 Reasons You To Read Aloud Your Child
Promotes Communication
Reading out loud promotes communication between you and your child. As you read, you're going to be talking about the story and more. It helps to open the doors of communication which then leads to your child improving in their communication with others.
Improves Their Receptive Skills
As you read to your child, their developing their receptive skills. It takes a lot of work for a child to sit down, listen, and understand what's happening in a story. As they practice this skill they will be able to do it more often and for longer periods of time.The more you read aloud to your child, you'll notice they start doing better in school and public settings where they're expected to listen and follow instructions.
Builds A Special Bond Between You And Your Child
It means the world to your child when they see you making time for them. They see that they're a priority and thrive on your quality time together. As you read to them, it won't be easy to get distracted by your phone or your to do list either. It helps set you both up for success!As a parent, we've heard it before... They grow up before you know it! It's true. They won't always want you to sit down and read to them. Cherish this time with your children and soak it all up.
Encourages An Active Imagination
While you read to your child they will be picturing the story in their head. They'll want to follow along as they picture what the main character looks like, what their house looks like, and what how dinner smells. Their imaginations will explode with possibilities!A child with an active imagination will dream big! They'll imagine how great their lives will be and do anything they can to get there.
Exposed To New Vocabulary
Reading new books to your children each day means they're exposed to new vocabulary. Every book will introduce them to words they haven't heard before and they'll be eager to learn more. Studies have shown children that have parents reading aloud to them at home have 40 percent more vocabulary than those who don't.
Are you having a hard time keeping your child engaged while you read? Try these techniques.
Stop Frequently Throughout The Story
Be sure to stop frequently through out the story. If you read on and on for an hour, chances are they tuned you out. Stopping often helps you to make sure they're still listening and find out what they think about the book.
Ask Them Questions
As you stop, ask them questions. Ask them what they think about the scene, or who their favorite character is etc. Asking them questions help them to verbally think through the scenes and they'll be more likely to ask you questions if they don't know.
Move Your Fingers As You Read
As your children learn how to read, it's important to put your finger under the words. They see you following along with your finger and associate the words you're saying with the words on the page.
Limit Distractions
Be sure to set up a good reading space. This space should have minimal distractions so your child can focus all of their attention on the story rather than the TV in the background.
"The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you'll go."
-Dr. Seuss
Are you reading with your child every day? If so what are your tips?
DIY Valentine's Day Cards For Boys
Celebrating Valentine's Day With My Little Boys
Growing up I always loved Valentine's Day. I loved being able to make a little basket for my cards and taking time to let all my friends know how much I love them.Not to mention, making my own Valentine's Day cards! Did you love making them as much as I did?!Now my boys are old enough to start enjoying this holiday. They even asked to make their own cards! I quickly starting putting together all of our craft supplies to see what we could come up with.I tried thinking about all the fun cards they could make. We decided to look for some inspiration. Here are a few of our favorite Valentine's Day cards perfect for little boys!
DIY Valentine's Day Cards For Boys
Printable Star Wars CardsLet's Build TogetherBlow Up My Heart CardYou're One In A Melon CardI'm Wild About YouI Am Bubbling With JoyYou Make My Heart RaceYou Make My Heart BurstYou Make Me GlowI'm Beary Happy You're In My ClassI'm So Happy You're In My SchoolLollipop CardsI Think You're A-Doh-AbleYou Make My Heart SoreYou Make My Heart SpringColor My WorldSuper Valentine's DayHave A Ball This Valentine's DayEmoji Valentine's CardsCrazy Straw Valentine's DayLight Saber Valentine's CardsOf All The Fish In The Sea
Which one is your favorite?
The King Of The Wild Things
The King of the wild things.
Over the years, I've begun to develop an interesting relationship with birthdays. On one hand you're celebrating all the accomplishments someone has had throughout the year. It's a time to encourage that person and let them know how much you care. On the other hand it means you're getting older and as a parent it can mean your little baby is one year older.A little more independent.One year more grown up.One year closer to not needing mommy and daddy as much.Oh boy. When did I become such a sap!? I sat there staring at my little Lucas all day yesterday asking myself where the time has gone. Yes, I became that parent. I fully admit it and I know I'll be in the same mood, asking myself the same question on every birthday my kids have in the future.My husband and I have gone through so much with our little boy over this last year and look at him! You'd never guess! He is one of the bravest and strongest little two year olds I know which is why his birthday theme was easy to choose.He's my little wild thing.
Where The Wild Things Are
Every night my kids and I have the same routine. I tuck them into bed, kiss them, tell them just how much I love them, and then we have an adventure. We choose one of our favorite books and go off into a different land in our imaginations. Lately, it's been the same adventure over and over again. Not that my kids mind at all. They find new things to think about and their obsession for this book grows deeper with each page.
Where The Wild Things Are.
I loved this book when it fist came out, but as a mom it's pure gold. I have three little wild things of my own and I love reading it to them. The relationship between the mom and the little boy is beautiful. The little boy runs wild throughout the beginning of the book and ends up taking it to far with his mom. She sends him to bed without his dinner and he becomes angry.He gets so angry that his room turns into a jungle and he ventures off to the land of the wild things and he becomes their king. He gets to be as wild as his heart desires and realizes it's not enough. He gets lonely and wants to go back home. He decides he's done living with the wild things and ventures back home. When he gets back to his room he's reminded just how much his momma loves him with a warm bowl of soup.The mom was angry with her son too, but at the end of the day she couldn't let him go to bed without a full belly and she wanted to show him how loved he was.There are so many times I get frustrated with my own wild things, but at the end of the day their mine. I love their wild antics and their imaginations. Especially my little two year old's imagination. Everything is so much more unique to him. He finds something fun and beautiful about everything he sees.
Our Wild Birthday Party
Yesterday, we celebrated Lucas's 2nd birthday and turned our home into the land of the wild things!I was just as excited as my boys were to come up with fun decorations for the party and see where our imaginations could take us. The piece I was most eager about was the cake. Growing up, I remember my aunt making the most adorable cakes! She even passed her skill onto her kids. I had no idea how hard it could be until I tried making my first cake!Thankfully I've learned a few things through trial and error. I want my kids to remember my cakes as they grow up and be able to say...My mom makes the best cakes! I was up to the task for Lucas's party this week! After a lot of brainstorming and scouring Pinterest for inspiration, I came up with the perfect idea.
Chocolate Curls (Tree Bark)
Combine 1 bag of chocolate chips and 1 TBS coconut oil in a microwave safe bowl. Put the bowl in the microwave for 30 seconds at a time and stir. Continue until your chocolate is completely melted.Spread the melted chocolate on a piece of parchment paper. Make sure the chocolate is spread evenly. Then roll up your parchment paper and put it in the fridge until it's cooled. When the chocolate hardens unroll it and voila. You have chocolate curls.
Assembling The Cake
Assemble your cake and ice it with chocolate frosting. Cover the outside of the cake with your chocolate curls. When the cake is covered with chocolate curls, dust it with cocoa powder.Cover the top with graham cracker crumbs. I added a bit of green food coloring to make it look like moss.
Where The Wild Things Are Party Snacks
Add a few outdoors-ey themed party snacks and your party is complete. These little smores on a stick were my favorite.
3 Things To Keep In Mind For Christmas With Little Ones
The Worst Part Of Family Vacations
We are officially home!We survived our flight with three little boys and they did great! They love flying and usually don't mind a day at the airport. This trip was a little different because they were so sad to leave my husband's side of the family! It's always the worst part of visiting family... The leaving part.The only way our boys were willing to leave their house was after promising we would Facetime every day. Thank God for technology! It makes it so nice when you miss family that lives far away.They're also extremely excited because we're only home for a few days and then we're off to see my family! Even more cousins, aunts, uncles, and a Harley riding grandpa to spoil them rotten!Since we only have a few days home we thought we'd relax on the couch and do nothing... If only!Now, we're racing around to get ready for baby Luke's 2nd birthday party, dealing with the poor little guy's ear infection, and packing for our next trip! Oh, and how could I forget decorating for Christmas!
Spreading Christmas Cheer!
One of my favorite things to put up this year is our fluffy fake snow! After moving to the Midwest I've developed a strange relationship with the snow. There's just so much here! It's not like the movies! You get snowed in, you do everything in your power to stay inside, and you try to stay under your blanket all day!Luckily my fluffy fake snow is cute and festive without the freezing temperatures!
Passing Down Christmas Traditions
How could I forget my new little nativity scene!Growing up, I counted down the days until my mom would bring out her nativity scene. She would lay down her fluffy snow and set up the whole village. One by one my brother and I would watch her set up each house and then she'd get to the stable. The best part of the whole village! It lit up and reminded us what the whole nativity scene was about.My husband knows how important my mom's nativity scene has always been to my siblings and I, but we've been worried about the kids. Nativity scenes can be pricey and I've never liked to stress about decorations. I'd rather enjoy the season than worry about my kid's touching everything.This is exactly why our tree is filled with felt ornaments, all of our decorations can be played with, and it's all about fun rather than "off limits."Then I found this! I was walking up and down the festive Target aisles, like I would do every day if I could, and found this gem! It's the perfect nativity scene for this stage in our family. The kids can play with it and we can talk about the message rather than telling them they can't play with it.I'd show you the rest of our decorations, but we just got home from vacation and the house is less than impressive!
3 Things To Keep In Mind For Christmas With Little Ones
Having three little boys under 6 has definitely taught me something. Over the years we've figured out a few things that have helped us to enjoy our holidays more!
Avoid The Breakables.
As your kids get older you can upgrade your decorations. While they're little, stick to non-breakables when you can. Look for felt ornaments and decorations that won't break if they're dropped or knocked over. It's going to relieve some of your stress and the kids won't have to worry about what they can and can't touch.
How Can The Kids Get Involved?
One of the reasons kids start touching everything is that it's all novel! They don't see these things every day and just want to play and have fun! One thing we've done over the years is get the kid's their own decorations. We have a little box and it's full of their Christmas decorations! They love it because we let them decorate however they choose. They even have their own little tree!Create your own kid's Christmas box this year! Take the kids to the store and let them pick and choose what to put inside. You can add to it each year!
Enjoy The Christmas Season!
Christmas is about so much more than the stress that can come along with it. To quote a very inspirational person..."The best way to spread Christmas cheer is singing loud for all to hear."Don't put too much on your plate and try to remember to have fun! Take time to just walk around your neighborhood with hot cocoa in hand and look at the Christmas lights. Find simple ways your family can enjoy the holiday season without all the stress.A few of our favorites are holiday movie nights, decorating pre-made sugar cookies, and listening to Christmas music all day!