Our Favorite Movies Featuring Interracial Couples

Sometimes A Good Movie Can Fix Everything

I'll never forget the month leading up to my big Indian wedding. For the first time in my life I was experiencing things I never expected to. I was trying to blend cultures and traditions for one of the biggest days of my life.It wasn't just about a wedding dress or favors, we had to figure out which culture to let navigate through wedding preparations. We ended up with a beautiful fusion wedding and it was worth all the long hours it took to make it happen.When things would get stressful, I'd cozy up on the couch with a good movie. I found myself looking for movies with interracial couples who understood what it meant to blend cultures.Can you guess what movie I watched over and over again?My Big Fat Greek Wedding!Replace Indian for Greek and you have my life, wedding, and story! I know it sounds silly, but it feels good to watch a similar story to your own. It's comforting.If you're looking for a good movie about interracial couples, I have the perfect list for you! Cozy up with some popcorn, your loved one, and pick one of these for your movie tonight!

My Favorite Movies Starring Interracial Couples

Loving

Hitch

Away We Go

I Love You Man

Focus

Hancock

The Words

Belle

Guess Who

The Wedding Planner

Save The Last Dance

Fools Rush In

My Big Fat Greek Wedding

Which one is your favorite?

Multiracial Motherhood: How Can You Bring Families Together?

What Can We Learn From One Mother's Story?

Happy Friday!Fridays are my favorite for so many reasons. They mean my husband gets to be home all weekend with us, they mean family night, and they means another mother is joining us for Family Fridays!This series is so special to my heart because it’s a chance for mothers to come together and share their experiences with their own multiracial family. The beautiful thing is that all of our families are unique. They all have their own special qualities, unique challenges, and different experiences.Today, Larisha from We're Parents blog is joining us! She's going to share about her multiracial family and one thing she's found that can bring all families together!

Let's Meet Larisha!

Hey y'all! I'm so excited to have the opportunity to share a bit about our family with The Almost Indian Wife crew, thanks to Brittany.Let's start with a bit of a background.I'm Larisha, a Caucasian American, born and raised in the hills of West Virginia. Andrew, my fiance, is a Jamaican American, born in Brooklyn, raised in New Jersey. Together we raise our two young daughters in New Jersey, just a short drive from where he grew up, while running our website, We're Parents, together.

Now let's rewind a bit.

Andrew and I met in 2005 during a History class freshman year at West Virginia University (Go 'Eers). The chemistry was always there, but I had a boyfriend and it wasn't until 2009 that we officially started dating.  I was working on my Masters and he had just finished up his undergrad degree.  He was moving back to New Jersey and we dated long distance for 3 months, then we decided that he would move in with me (WHOA, that was fast!). A few months later, we moved to New Jersey, and the rest is history (pun intended)It's been a whirlwind of an adventure and while we could tell you the stories of people asking if the girls are biologically mine, or the looks that we've received over the years while holding hands, you've probably heard all of that before or most likely experienced it yourselves.Today, I want to focus on how we've blended our cultures together SLOWLLLYYY.  It was really important to me for his mom to like me. I knew she was hesitant about me. Andrew quickly informed me that if she wanted me to understand what she was saying, she would speak so I could understand.  If she didn't, I wouldn't. His family speaks a strong dialect of Jamaican Patois, and while 90% of the time at this point in our relationship I can understand them, this advice still holds true to this day. Luckily, he did let me know earlier on that based on how she spoke to me, he knew she liked me. 

The key -Food.  No seriously.

Alan D. Wolfelt once said,

“Food is symbolic of love when words are inadequate.”

Now let's not get ahead of ourselves too much here. I was a pretty terrible cook when we met.  Almost everything was processed, and not well seasoned, and well, it just sucked.  I could make my way around the kitchen, but it wasn't pretty. His mom on the other hand, AMAZING.  She should have her own show. It comes so easy and natural to her.  In the moments where I haven't always understood something and definitely in times where I wanted to become closer to her, there's always been food. When there's been trouble in our family, when there's been happy times, there's always been food. She's challenged my stubbornness with food (I didn't want to try ox tail, but SOOO happy I did). 

Cesar Chavez once said,

“If you really want to make a friend, go to someone’s house and eat with him… the people who give you their food give you their heart.”  

Through everything, his family has taught me about joy, togetherness, and the amazing bond that a family can having, bridging two extremely different cultures, one meal at a time. 

If I had one piece of advice for other multicultural families it would be to let food bring you together.  Ask your partner's mom (or dad, whoever cooks the most) or another prominent family cook for the family recipes.  But more than that, when you are around them and there's a food involved, try to incorporate it into what you do with them. Let food be the love that breaks the barriers.

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Multiracial Motherhood: Our Multiracial Family Through Adoption

What We Can Learn From One Mother's Story

Happy Friday! I thought we could kick off the weekend by starting up one of my favorite series again!Family Fridays!This series is so special to my heart because it's a chance for mothers to come together and share their experiences with their own multiracial family. The beautiful thing is that all of our families are unique. They all have their own special qualities, unique challenges, and different experiences.Today, my lovely and gorgeous friend Sara is sharing about her mixed race family. They have taught my family and I so much about diligence because Sara goes out of her way to make sure their lives reflect a true multiracial community. Check out more about her story below!

Let's Meet Sara

Hello, everyone! I'm Sara and I am excited to be here at The Almost Indian Wife to share a little bit about my family with you! Our situation is a bit different than the ones you may be used to reading about here, in that our family's multiracial "status" did not come about because of my husband or myself, but because of our children. And before I dive in, can I confess something? I don't always feel like we really are multicultural. Do we want to be? Yes! Are we working toward it? Yes! Do we still have lots more to learn? GOOD GRIEF, YES. And that's why I think connecting with other multi-cultural families is such a cool thing! Okay, back to the introductions...My husband, Phil, and I have been married for almost nine years now and we have two children. We lived in Ohio up until the spring of 2016 when we moved to Illinois. Phil and I were foster parents for four years in Ohio, during which we met and then adopted both our daughter and son. Russell (5 years) is African American and Claire (4.5 years) is Caucasian. Our children are not related biologically (yes, some people ask!) and have very different birth stories and foster care experiences. 

One thing my children do have in common though, (among plenty of other things, trust me) is that they have two parents who acknowledge and celebrate the things that make each of them unique. 

Speaking of unique, let's talk culture. What exactly is culture anyway? Here's one definition: "The customary beliefs, social forms, material traits of a racial, religious, or social group;" also, "the characteristic features of every day existence shared by people in a place or time." Reading those definitions reinforces a couple things to me. One: The racial majority in our family is white American. That seemed so silly to even type but there it is. And let's be real, white American culture is not one we have to make an effort to call attention to. Ya know?

Two: If we want to be truly multi-cultural -- embracing, celebrating and participating in our son's racial culture -- we have to be intentional.

Neither my husband nor I are African American. And although our son is, he's been with us since he was two months old. Our white American culture is pretty much all he knows. So we have some work to do!  What does this intentionality look like for us? Well, for starters, whenever I have the choice I choose African American. That might sound funny or off-putting but hear me out. It's not that we don't welcome and seek out other cultures. We absolutely do! But I'm here today talking specifically about my African American son and HIS culture and our desire for him to have racial mirrors in his life. If we want to raise a young man who embraces and is secure in his African American identity, he specifically needs African American people in his life. Okay, here's what I mean...Our community here in Illinois has a kids' sports program. So does the neighboring community. We're choosing to drive just a couple extra minutes to the neighboring community because it's more diverse. We figured there's a greater chance there for our son to have teammates and opponents and coaches who look like him than if he were playing on a sports team here. (Why didn't we choose to live there instead when we moved from Ohio, you ask? We wonder the same thing some times. Anyway...)When looking for a church to join, diversity was a priority for us. After Biblical teaching and gospel-centeredness, we looked for a place where our son could walk in and see people who looked like him. And not just in the pews, but on the stage speaking. In the classrooms teaching. In the small groups leading. When selecting books and toys for my kids, it's not difficult to find white baby dolls and white story characters and white action figures. In fact, if you're not purposely trying to avoid a whitewashed book and toy collection, you'll most likely end up with one. So when strolling through the store we see a giant Finn action figure  (Star Wars main character who is African American- woo hoo!!), I snatch it up. A black baby doll for Claire? Yes, please. A picture book with black main characters instead of white ones? You get the idea. Now you might find this one silly, but I'm okay with that. When checking out at a store and I have the option (if it's not an insanely packed lane versus a totally empty one) I will choose a lane with a non-white cashier. 

We take our son to a black barber.

(A no-brainer.) This choice doesn't mean just one more racial mirror for my son. Every barber and almost every client there is African American. So, it means many. It means my son gets to be the majority. And my daughter and husband and I experience what it's like to be the minority. It means sitting and talking with people who share my son's culture. People who will tease me for never having seen "The Jeffersons" and who graciously and honestly answer my hair care questions. I'm telling you, walking into that shop where we are greeted by a packed room of 100% brown and black faces makes my heart swell with joy. Because the more we can immerse ourselves in African American culture, the more our family moves toward being truly multi-cultural.  One more piece of advice. More important than all the little examples I shared above!

When seeking to embrace a culture that is not your own you have to first humbly acknowledge that you are not an expert. 

And then start sharing your life with those who are! Become friends with people who are a part of your loved one's culture. Spend time with those who can help you understand the things you don't and who will lovingly correct you when you need it. I mean, read all the history you want; build the most diverse picture book library on planet earth; learn all the cultural traditions you can...but without real relationships with real people who know this culture, you will be missing out. And there you have it. We are a multi-racial family doing our best to recognize, embrace and encourage the unique identities of the precious children we've been entrusted with. We definitely don't have it all figured out but we're taking it one day at a time and learning as we go! 

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Family Friendly Ways To Celebrate Women's History Month

Women's History Month Is For Everyone!

Women's history month has always been a special day to me. I grew up with a strong, single mother who took care of my brother and I. She made hard choices every day to make sure she was raising us the best way she could. She worked full time so we would have food on the table, made sure to be at every one of our extracurricular events, and showed us that women can do anything they set their minds to.Even now, I'm still inspired by her strength.She is a big part of why I am who I am today. She showed me that women can do anything, just how strong one person can be, and how to be an amazing mother.This is just one of many reasons Women's History Month means so much to me. We celebrate women all throughout March so the world doesn't forget what women have done throughout history.As a mother to three boys, Women's History Month looks a little different in our house. I don't have little girls to celebrate this month with and to teach them how they can be empowered by all of the strong women throughout history.Instead I have three little boys and this month is an opportunity to teach them to appreciate women. I want to raise boys that understand how to treat a woman, how to value a woman, and how to encourage other men to do the same thing.

Ways To Celebrate Women's History Month

Throughout the month of March, my family and I are finding different ways to celebrate women. We're going to dive into history and learn about strong and influential women and here are a few ways we plan on doing so and you should too.

Read Books About Powerful Women

Head to your local library or pick up a few books from Amazon that feature strong female characters. There are so many books out there right now that teach kids what women have done over the years. Mom and dad, you'll appreciate everything you learn too! Reading about these strong women will remind you exactly what this month is all about.A few of our favorite books on Women's History are Seeds Of Change, Step Stomp Stride, My Name Is Not Isabella: Just How Big A Little Girl Can Dream, Amelia and Eleanor Go For A Ride, Betsy Ross, and Susan B. Anthony.

Attend A Women's History Month Event In Your Neighborhood

Most towns will be holding different women's history events throughout the month of March. Look up on your town's website and find out the dates. These events are fun and typically free! Take the whole family and have a great time!

Talk To Your Child About Powerful Women In Their Life

Sit down with your kids over dinner and talk to them about powerful women in their lives. Tell your kids how they've inspired you. Find out who they've been inspired by and why. This is a great dialogue to have throughout the whole month.

Introduce Your Child To A New Powerful Woman In History Each Week

Take some time and choose a few women to really dive deep and learn about this month. Each week you can learn about what monumental way they contributed to history, a bit about their life, and what it means to your kids. Find out how life would have been different if they hadn't done what they did.

Watch A Movie

There are so many amazing movies out there that are talking about strong women in history. Take some time and find a few that your whole family would love. Cozy up on the couch with some popcorn and be inspired by these influential women!

Make Dinner For Mom And Say Thank You

Last, but not least, thank the influential women in your life. Or (dads this one is for YOU) make your kid's momma dinner. Remind your kids just how important their momma is and how they can appreciate her every day.

How will you be celebrating Women's History Month?

I Was A Parenting Expert Before I Had Kids

I Was A Parenting Expert Before I Had Kids

I remember the conversations I used to have with my mom and aunt before I had kids. I would tell them all of my extraordinary plans for my children and I listed off all my ideas. I assumed since I had babysat the neighbors kids since I was ten years old, I'd be a perfect parent.I'd let my kids watch whatever they wanted because they'd be fine.They would never have tantrums in the middle of a Target aisle because I'd discipline them. They'd know better.The list went on and on. To my benefit I was twenty and thought I knew everything. Then I had three kids two years apart and realized things were much different than I thought they'd be.We've all been there. We let our kids do something and think to ourselves... wow. I swore I'd never do this, but I have no shame!

Things I Never Thought I'd Do As A Parent

Let my kids stay up until I went to bed.Let my kids eat candy.Tell my kids not to eat their boogers.Ask my son not to pee on his brother.Debate with my child over whether or not he's the boss.Let my kids sleep in my bed.Let my kids eat Goldfish crackers for dinner.Be tempted to not know my kids in public when they're being TERRIBLE!Have kids that throw huge, meltdown, throw themselves on the floor tantrums while in a store.Let my kids run around the backyard naked.Sleep in a shirt covered in newborn spit up.Be able to survive on a few brief moments of sleep.Hide in the bathroom from the kids so I can hear myself think.Love going grocery shopping alone.Not be able to survive without caffeine.Go to bed at 8pm.Actually enjoy kid's movies. Oops I've always loved them.Had three kids and thought hey, I can do one more.Leave a cart full of groceries because the kids just can't keep their #@$# together.Truly think my kids are funnier than every other kid.Sleep in newborn pee covered sheets because I just didn't care enough to loose even more sleep.Eat Goldfish for dinner because I didn't want to cook.Have to explain to my son why you shouldn't pee in your own eye.Have to fish an apple out of the toilet.Have to disappoint my child when I let them know Jesus doesn't live in their belly button.Have to stop my son mid stream when I find him peeing in a gatorade bottle.Pull my kids into my bed while daddy is away on a work trip and mommy is scared.Send my kids to fight off spiders while I scream from the couch.Feel a little heartbroken when my kids choose to play with their friends over their own mom.Get completely enraged when someone tells me my son is naughty.Realize my kids can be naughtier than I thought possible.Come down to see my son covered in makeup.Yell at my kids. A lot.Quietly crawl out of my kids room because they finally fell asleep and I want to join the world of grownups.Crave adult conversations so much that I go to Target as often as possible.Try to convince my husband to see a new Disney movie rather than the new action movie. Walk around the house singing the theme song to my kid's favorite morning cartoons.

What is one thing you've done after having kids that you swore you wouldn't?

6 Places Parents Can Find Refuge From Their Kids

Sometimes My Kids Drive Me A Little Crazy

Let's all take a moment and be honest with each other. Parent to parent. Sometimes you just need a break from your kids. Sometimes the, "mommy mommy MOMMY, " just gets to you. As a stay at home mom, I'm with my kids all day every day. While it is a huge blessing and I do love that I'm able to, it's hard to find a moment of solitude. Especially now that my oldest has decided he's done with naps.Our days tend to get a little chaotic to say the least.

A Little Peak At Our Day

6-7:30 am- Kids wake up and watch cartoons in mommy and daddy's bed7:30-8:30 am- Breakfast and daddy leaves8:30-12:30 Mommy does school with the kids, attempts to keep the them busy, and makes them lunch12:30-2:30 Nap for little kids and chaos for big brother2:30-4:30 Kids argue, play, argue, beg for dinner, and make a big mess4:30-5:30 Mom attempts to make dinner while kids beg for attention and food5:30-6:30 Dinner time and playing with daddy6:30-7:30 Kids get ready for bed, make a mess, clean up their mess, go to bed, and ask for a dozen drinks of waterThe next day we start it all over again.As you can see there isn't much time at all where momma gets any alone time. All day long my kids are right there next to me. Don't get me long, I love my time with my kids. I really do. The part that drives me crazy is the whining.I know you can all understand seeing as the number one show most hated by parents is Caillou. The reason behind all the hate is his whiny voice! Ahh. It just makes me cringe and it's the exact same feeling I have when my own kids whine.It's for this reason and a few others that this momma needs to find a little refuge during the day.

6 Places Parents Can Find Refuge From Their Kids

When things get a little crazy in our house I have a few places I use to get away from it all.

The Bathroom

I'm pretty sure the guys beat us to this one. No one has to get to the bathroom for that long... They know what they're doing. They're hiding from everyone in there! They grab their phone and use it as a bit of solitude.One of the best parts of this location is that there is a lock on the door. Even if your kids find you, they can't get to you!

The Kid's Room

If your kids are anything like mine, the last place they want to play is there own room. Finding them playing in their room is a miracle. If mom and dad happen to ask them to play there... they act like we're torturing them.How could you ask us to do that!?This is exactly why it's the best place to hide from them. It's the last place they'll look!

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The Kitchen Floor

Sometimes, you can't manage to get anywhere else so you just plop yourself down on the kitchen floor. If you're lucky, they don't look in the actual kitchen. They usually just glance and move on. If I'm being honest, this is my go to spot when things get crazy at night.My husband has found me here more times than I'd like to admit!

The Shower

The moment I put my little monkey's to bed, I hop in the shower. First of all, it's relaxing and the perfect way to destress. Second of all, it means the hubby has to deal with the kids if they get out of bed. Momma is unavailable and daddy is the only one that can walk to them to their bed a few dozen times.Unless your husband gets wise to your plan and throws a naked baby into your shower with you...

The Car

I love car rides with my kids. They typically don't mind them and almost always fall asleep. Seriously, think about it. All the kids are strapped in and can't get into anything. If they're lucky they have something to play with to keep them busy.If all else fails, turn the music up.

Grocery Shopping

This was my go to hide out when my husband was traveling for work. He would come back from a long trip and the first thing I would do is take a drive to the grocery store. It didn't matter what I needed, I would walk up and down every aisle and just enjoy the peace.

What's your go to place you find refuge from your kids?

Screen Free Activities For The Whole Family

How To Unplug Your Family

Over the years screen time has become a normal part of our daily lives. We have our TV's on for big chunks of the day, sit on our phones, or let the kids play video games. There is a time and place for all of it, but how many hours do you spend with a screen in front of you?I challenge you to sit down for one day and track how much. You may not even realize how much it is.My biggest downfall is my phone. I may turn the TV off for the kids, but then I sit there working on my phone or scrolling through Facebook. It's nice to have a break from the chaotic day, but then reality hit me this week.My son came up to talk to me while I was on my phone. I didn't think twice about it because I was just looking through a few emails while he talked to me. Then he stormed away and I'm ashamed to say it took me a while to know he was upset.I finally noticed and went upstairs to see what he was doing. I found him pouting on his bed. I asked him what was wrong.Mom, you're not even listening to me! I was telling you something and all you cared about was your phone.It was like he punched me right in the gut. I felt terrible. The email could have waited but instead, I chose to put it first and my son felt it.As parents, we're busy all day. Whether you're at work or working in the house it gets busy. Technology has made our lives a lot easier. We have TV for entertainment, phones for pretty much everything, and so much more.The problem is that technology can get in the way of real human connection.I will be honest with all of you and admit that this isn't the first time this has happened. I have so many things on my plate and I tend to try and do it all at the same time.This year I'm challenging myself and my family to unplug.By unplugging we will be putting our relationships with each other first. I encourage you to join us! Unplugging will look different for all of us. My husband works 9-5 so during that time he has to be plugged in and that's ok. Look at your family's schedule and see where you have the ability to unplug.The kids and I try to unplug in the mornings so we can enjoy breakfast together and then do something fun. Then while they're asleep I take a bit of time to plug back in and get work done.

 

Screen Free Routines

Take a look at your daily routine and find opportunities to turn off the screens and unplug.

Enjoy Dinner Around The Dinner Table

Collect all the cell phones in the house and put them aside during dinner. This will mean your family actually has to talk during dinner and spend real quality time together.

Schedule Technology Free Times

Look at your schedule during the day and find a few blocks of time that you can schedule yourself to be "off the grid." Turn off the TV, set the phone down, and just enjoy time with your family.

Put The Phone Down When Talking To Your Kids

This is my biggest struggle. When your kids come up and talk to you make sure you put the phone down. The same goes for everyone else. Show people you value them by putting them first in that moment.

 

Screen Free Activites For The Whole Family

Family Walks

Leave the technology at home and take the family outside. You can go for a walk around your neighborhood or drive to a hiking trail. As your walking around, you’re creating a relaxed environment where your kids will feel comfortable to talk to you and it’s a great bonding opportunity. You can share what you love in the scenery and find interesting things along the walk.

Make Dinner Together

Schedule out a few times a month where the kids get to help a parent or make dinner on their own. By doing this you’re teaching your kids to make food on their own and they get to see the look on your face when you try their creations! You can make this a special mom and kids routine each week or let them jump in and come up with something delicious.

Go On A Scavenger Hunt

Find an outdoor scavenger hunt and explore with the family. You can even combine this with a family walk and find things while on a hiking trail. Make it simple and fun.

Try Something New Together

Try something new that either none of you have done before or someone wants to teach the rest of the family. You can go rock climbing, try a new cuisine, go golfing, go carting… The options are endless. It’s a great opportunity to let one of the family members take the lead and share something special with people they love.

Family Band!

Let each family member choose a song they like and print out lyrics! Does someone play an instrument? Let them lead the song! You may end up getting some Rihanna, Frozen Soundtrack, and more, but let people find family appropriate songs that they love. It will be fun to see everyone’s personalities in there songs they choose and it will end up getting sillier and seller as you go!

Board Games

Find age appropriate board games that everyone can play. A few good ones are Catch Phrase, Monopoly, Uno, Skip-Bo, Game Story, and War. There are so many options and you can do a new game each week!

Treasure Hunt

This one is great regardless of the weather! Send the kids or parents on a treasure hunt. You can leave clues around the house and have them end up in a specific place. The treasure can be letting them know you’re all going out to dinner and a movie or an actual treat!

Follow The Leader

Follow the leader has been a kid favorite game for years, but try it while out for a walk next time. Let your kiddo decide the route and even how you do it. You may start hopping and end up crab walking. Your child's imagination takes the game to new levels each time!

What's your favorite screen-free activity?

You Know You're A Parent If...

Being a parent is a whole new level of crazy.

It's exactly why you tend to surround yourself with other parents. You need people who just get it! You need friends that know exactly why you've worn the same shirt for three days in a row and don't judge you.

A parent is the only one who will truly understand how you feel because they've been there themselves! They instantly understand how crazy your morning is after your son decides to flush his apple down the toilet or when your kids unravel every toilet paper roll because they needed it to create a bad guy trap.

10 Feelings Every Parent Has Felt

In addition to our crazy stories there are also a few feelings every parent has experienced.

Disbelief

That moment you can't believe your kids would actually say that to you in public!

Pure Shock

You realize your house is too quiet and go into your kid's room to see what they've been doing....

Disgust

The moment your child wakes you up by putting the toilet brush in your face!

Pull Out Your Hair Frustration

When your kids decide to trash the house after you just spent the whole day cleaning!

Exhaustion

Whether you have a newborn or your kids just decide they have to wake up before the sun comes out every morning, you've felt this one!

I've Had Enough!

A parent can only listen to their kids arguing and fighting for so long!

Losing Your Mind

The feeling you get when you put your kids to bed and they ask for 100 drinks of water. "Can I have another drink? I'm so thirsty!?"

Justice

The fuzzy feeling you get after you tell your kids not to do something, they do it anyways, and realize they should have listened.

Fed Up

Spending a whole afternoon making dinner, your kids seeing what you slaved over, and refusing to eat.

Proud

The moment you realize your kids not the naughty at the park! Proud parent moment!!

You know you're a parent if... Finish the sentence in the comments!

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6 Lessons I Can Learn From My Single Self

Motherhood is beautiful and it's also one of the hardest things you'll ever do. Take a minute to learn from your younger self. 6 lessons I can learn from my single self. 

Motherhood At It's Finest

Most women talk about the beauty in motherhood.The joys in pregnancy. Baby's first steps. Baby's first word. Watching your kids win awards at school. On the other hand, most women are ashamed to talk about the ugly side.Spit up on your favorite shirt. Sleepless nights. Tantrums. Miscarriage. Infertility.Motherhood is a beautiful, yet at times thankless job. In those moments, we need to take a lesson from our single selves.

6 Lessons I Can Learn From My Single Self

Get Dressed Up

Yes, even if you're just running to the grocery store. Throw on some lipgloss, a cute tunic and some leggings. Putting a little more effort into your appearance can change your outlook on your whole day.Don't believe me? Think back to the last time you got a compliment on your appearance (especially if you went through hell and high water to leave the house). I bet that made your day right?!Need some inspiration? Blast Beyoncé's All the Single Ladies while you get dressed!

Embrace Adult Interaction

This can be especially tough for stay at home moms with little kids. There's no shame in enrolling your kids in a half day Pre-K. Every mom needs a few hours of peace!Meet your girlfriend(s) for a coffee date at Chick-Fil-A or another kid friendly place.Talking to another adult gives you a break from Bubble Guppies & Paw Patrol.

Sit Down & Eat a Meal

You're probably standing up right now! Moms are on the go 24/6.We are running older kids to sports activities & music lessons, cooking dinner & assisting with homework & who knows what else.At dinner time while everyone else enjoys a meal, moms are often the ones standing. Take a load off, sit down & enjoy a meal with your family!

Take a Workout Class

When I was single, I lived for my weekly yoga, Zumba & kickboxing classes. I kept them up with my first child, but after adding a second baby to the family, the little extra time I had was spent either sleeping or catching up on housework.I miss the extra energy a work out class gave me.Now thanks to the ability to stream TV & YouTube, I often have a workout class in my living room.

Go Shopping & Buy Something For Yourself

When you were single, payday meant time for a manicure, lunch date with a friend, or a weekend getaway.Once you become a mom, every trip to the store ends up with things for your husband or the kids.Take some time to invest in yourself. Your family will thank you.

Go On a Date With Your Husband

Remember the thrill of finding the perfect date night outfit? It can be fun again! Don't wait until your anniversary to schedule a date with your other half.Your husband will thank you.

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Unusual Things I've Discovered About My Family While Moving

We're Moving... Again..

If you've known me for long, you know my family has a thing for moving around. Since my husband and I have been married we've lived in California, Washington, Illinois, and now we're about to set off on our next adventure.North Carolina!We're sad to be closing this chapter of our lives in Illinois, but excited for something new in North Carolina. Not to mention the relocation means my husband doesn't have to travel for work anywhere near as much as he did last year!The kids had mixed feelings about moving... That is until my husband told them he'd be home now and *drumroll please* we'd be getting a new dog...I'm pretty sure the marriage rulebook says you have to check with your wife BEFORE you bribe you kids with a pet of any kind.. Luckily, I love dogs and we're about to have a lot more space.Little does he know I'm planning my revenge. He may or may not come home from work one day only to be greeted by a pet of my choice that I decided to surprise him with.Hmmm.. What would I get? A kangaroo? No. A monkey! Not quite right yet. Don't worry, I'll think of one!

5 Things I've Learned While Moving

Our family is pretty used to packing up our house. Over the years we've landed on a common theme and it's that we have way too much stuff! This time around we decided to get rid of as much as we can to make things a little easier.While packing I've uncovered some unusual things about my family...

My Kids Don't Actually Need Their Toys

I did things a little backwards this time. I most of the kid's toys first. I was waiting for them to start losing their minds, but it never happened. They didn't care. I left out one of each of their favorite toys and boxed up the rest. Then something crazy happened!They started using their imaginations even more!Instead of dumping out all their toys, they run around the house playing bad guys and superheroes! It's a different theme every day but they're having fun.

I'm A Hoarder

I thought I've purged a lot over the years, but I was wrong. In the last two weeks I have done at least 6 trips to Goodwill and each time I had a full trunk. They must think I'm crazy there.How does this woman own so much!?I donate everything in the trunk and come home, only to look around and realize their is so much left!

My Kid's Have Secret Stashes Around The House

I've always known my three year old likes to keep a little secret stash. He's done this since he was little and hid his pacifiers around the house.His go to spot is under his pillow. My husband and I check it before we go to bed at night and we're always surprised! We've found scissors, permanent markers, candy, and toys. If you ask him him about it he just gives you his sly little look and says it's our present.As we've been packing up the house, I'm starting to find little stashes around the house! They're everywhere!

I Love Purging

I have fallen in love with purging! I gave myself one box to keep all of our sentimental items and then had a little routine with the rest. I made myself touch everything I own and then I asked myself if I really needed it. If I didn't need it or haven't touched it in 3 months it went straight to the donation box.I don't want to show up at our next home and have it filled with things we don't need. I want to look around and see things that bring me joy.Hopefully my kids feel the same way when we get to the new house and they see quite a few missing toys!

I May Just Keep All Of My Stuff Boxed Up

We're one day away from the moving POD coming and I feel good. We're living out of a suitcase and eating fast food, but I don't have to clean all day. There are only a few things left which means the kids play with them and bring them with them.I'm not cleaning up after them all day or doing a tower of never ending dishes.I may just tell the POD to keep all of our stuff and just drop off the furniture!

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What unusual things have you discovered about your family while moving?

How To Simplify Your Children's Bedtime Routine

Simplify your children's bedtime routine with a few simple steps! Then you can spice up your evenings with a free Game Story printable!

Early on our bedtime routine was simple, but always something I looked forward to. My babies would nurse and then cuddle me in bed. I loved how something so simple could be so special. As my babies got older, our bedtime routine changed.Some nights, it was just about putting our kids to bed so my husband and I could sit down after a long day. Other nights, it lasted twice as long as normal because we were having so much fun spending quality time with them.As my husband's travel schedule is picking back up, we're trying to be intentional with a consistent bedtime routine. It's not always perfect, in fact it rarely is. However, we've been able to keep most of it the same.

Our bedtime routine.

6:30 Turn off any shows the kids may be watching and send them upstairs to get ready for bed. While the big kids are brushing teeth and getting on their jammies I start getting my  youngest ready. After he's cozy and ready I lather him up in lavender and coconut oil. I just started doing this with all of my kids before bed and it's been a game changer. It helps them all to calm down and has been helping my oldest with his bad dreams.

7:00 My youngest gets smothered in kisses, we pray, and then he goes to bed. He's the easiest to put down to sleep because he loves bed time. I kid you not, he actually loves it. All you have to do is tell him it's bed time, he gets his blankey, and starts to climb upstairs.

Then I go to my big kids room only to find my older kids not ready for bed yet. It doesn't matter that I asked them to get ready. They tend to be playing hide and seek or jumping on their beds (trying to stay away from the lava.) I remind them, for the countless time to get ready for bed. After a bit of help, they get ready and race into their room.

7:30 This is my kids favorite part of the night. Game story. We all pile into one of our kids beds and get our creative juices flowing. Everyone starts to jump in saying who gets to start the story. It usually ends up being my husband or myself.

Game story rules: Each person gets to tell a small portion of the story. After someone takes their turn, the next person will start off where they stopped.

Game story has become a family tradition in our house. We even include any houseguests we may have. 

8:00 We tuck the kids in bed, give them kisses, turn on their clock night light, and close their door.

8:02 The kids ask for a drink of water.

8:03 The kids ask for another drink of water.

Our Bedtime Routine Essentials

Blanket / Coconut Oil / Kid's Clock / Game Story Printable

What does your bed time routine look like?

You Mean The World To Me Printable Valentine's Day Cards

Printable "You Mean The World To Me," Valentine's Day cards- FREE printable Valentine's Day cards for kids!

Check out these printable Valentine's Day cards for a budget friendly craft your kids can bring to their classroom!

Printable Valentine's Day Cards

It's that time of the year again! Valentine's Day is just a few short weeks away which means it's the perfect time to start thinking about your kid's Valentine's Day cards! Will they go with a theme? Will they make their own? Will it mean a table full of scrap paper and glue mess when it's all done?My kids have always loved picking out their Valentine's Day cards! There are so many fun choices to pick from and they like to be unique.As a multicultural family, I'm always looking for ways to put a fun spin on holidays. We tend to blend cultures within our family for the holidays and sometimes it's just plain fun to put a multicultural twist on things.

You Mean The World To Me

Whether you are a multicultural family, travel enthusiast, or simple love the world you live in these cards are perfect for you!Today, I have a simple printable to make Valentine's Day preparation easy! All you have to do is pick which design you like, or both, then print them out!What can be more simple or fun this Valentine's Day?

If you liked this you'll love our list of fun DIY Valentine's Day cards!

 

5 Reasons You Should Read Aloud To Your Child

As a parent, you know just how quickly life gets busy. Before you know it, your days are filled up with extracurricular activities, naps, meal prep, laundry, and more. However, you should always make time for one thing... read aloud to your child.I don't just mean a quick book before bed, I mean make the time to read aloud to your child throughout your day.Go to the library and stock up on some fun books to read as a family and start tonight!

5 Reasons You To Read Aloud Your Child

Promotes Communication

Reading out loud promotes communication between you and your child. As you read, you're going to be talking about the story and more. It helps to open the doors of communication which then leads to your child improving in their communication with others.

Improves Their Receptive Skills

As you read to your child, their developing their receptive skills. It takes a lot of work for a child to sit down, listen, and understand what's happening in a story. As they practice this skill they will be able to do it more often and for longer periods of time.The more you read aloud to your child, you'll notice they start doing better in school and public settings where they're expected to listen and follow instructions.

Builds A Special Bond Between You And Your Child

It means the world to your child when they see you making time for them. They see that they're a priority and thrive on your quality time together. As you read to them, it won't be easy to get distracted by your phone or your to do list either. It helps set you both up for success!As a parent, we've heard it before... They grow up before you know it! It's true. They won't always want you to sit down and read to them. Cherish this time with your children and soak it all up.

Encourages An Active Imagination

While you read to your child they will be picturing the story in their head. They'll want to follow along as they picture what the main character looks like, what their house looks like, and what how dinner smells. Their imaginations will explode with possibilities!A child with an active imagination will dream big! They'll imagine how great their lives will be and do anything they can to get there.

Exposed To New Vocabulary

Reading new books to your children each day means they're exposed to new vocabulary. Every book will introduce them to words they haven't heard before and they'll be eager to learn more. Studies have shown children that have parents reading aloud to them at home have 40 percent more vocabulary than those who don't.

Are you having a hard time keeping your child engaged while you read? Try these techniques.

Stop Frequently Throughout The Story

Be sure to stop frequently through out the story. If you read on and on for an hour, chances are they tuned you out. Stopping often helps you to make sure they're still listening and find out what they think about the book.

Ask Them Questions

As you stop, ask them questions. Ask them what they think about the scene, or who their favorite character is etc. Asking them questions help them to verbally think through the scenes and they'll be more likely to ask you questions if they don't know.

Move Your Fingers As You Read

As your children learn how to read, it's important to put your finger under the words. They see you following along with your finger and associate the words you're saying with the words on the page.

Limit Distractions

Be sure to set up a good reading space. This space should have minimal distractions so your child can focus all of their attention on the story rather than the TV in the background.

"The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you'll go."

-Dr. Seuss

Are you reading with your child every day? If so what are your tips?

DIY Valentine's Day Cards For Boys

Celebrating Valentine's Day With My Little Boys

Growing up I always loved Valentine's Day. I loved being able to make a little basket for my cards and taking time to let all my friends know how much I love them.Not to mention, making my own Valentine's Day cards! Did you love making them as much as I did?!Now my boys are old enough to start enjoying this holiday. They even asked to make their own cards! I quickly starting putting together all of our craft supplies to see what we could come up with.I tried thinking about all the fun cards they could make. We decided to look for some inspiration. Here are a few of our favorite Valentine's Day cards perfect for little boys!

DIY Valentine's Day Cards For Boys

Printable Star Wars CardsLet's Build TogetherBlow Up My Heart CardYou're One In A Melon CardI'm Wild About YouI Am Bubbling With JoyYou Make My Heart RaceYou Make My Heart BurstYou Make Me GlowI'm Beary Happy You're In My ClassI'm So Happy You're In My SchoolLollipop CardsI Think You're A-Doh-AbleYou Make My Heart SoreYou Make My Heart SpringColor My WorldSuper Valentine's DayHave A Ball This Valentine's DayEmoji Valentine's CardsCrazy Straw Valentine's DayLight Saber Valentine's CardsOf All The Fish In The Sea

Which one is your favorite?

Start Your Day With A Mango Lassi Smoothie!

Hectic Mornings And Mango Lassi!

Growing up, I never had the title of a Morning Person. I would sleep in as long as humanly possible, giving myself the exact amount of time I needed to get ready. Every minute of sleep counted and I did everything in my power to get as many as I could!Then it all changed the day I had my first son.As a mother, mornings are a whole different ball game. You don't just have to get yourself ready every morning, you have to get all the little people in your house ready! Not to mention help your husband find everything he can't seem to find on his own...In addition to getting them dressed, reminding them to keep their clothes on, you have to make breakfast!Most mornings in our house mean cereal. It's quick and easy. Not to mention my oldest can pour his own bowl! The day he learned to do that was a huge day in our family!The problem with quick breakfasts like cereal is that it's not always the most nutritious way to start of your kid's day. They need to have a rich breakfast that will help them get the energy they need at school or to get their day going at home.I started talking to my mother in law as well as my husband's Pinnis. I asked them what they give to their kids for good and nutritious breakfasts and their idea was just what we needed!They whip up simple mango lassis!Think mango smoothie, triple the taste, and that's what you get when you make a mango lassi. It's one of my favorite little pick me ups during the day and it's so good for you!

Simplify Your Mornings With BelVita Biscuits

We started whipping these up every morning and serve it with BelVita biscuits. It's great because they give our kids everything they need to start off their mornings! My favorite part... it's as quick as cereal and way better for you!I've had Mango Lassi smoothies in the past,  but I always assumed they would be way too hard to make at home. If only I would have known how easy they were! My kids are obsessed with them! They used to associate them with their Umamma's house and now they think I'm the greatest mom for learning how to make them!Two mom points for me![amd-yrecipe-recipe:4]

Our family couldn't imagine surviving our day without BelVita breakfast biscuits! They're delicious first of all. My favorite is the cinnamon brown sugar. Don't take my word for it, go and try them for yourself! Pick them up at your local Walmart and serve it with your own mango lassi!

What is your favorite BelVita Biscuit flavor?

Personalities You Can Find At A Sleepover

If you look carefully you can spot a few distinct personalities at every sleepover! Here is what they look like! 

One of the biggest rites of passage for a child is their first sleepover. It's terrifying and exciting all at the same time. They desperately want to prove to their parents and friends that they're big and brave enough to stay somewhere else all night. All while they're inner child is begging them not to go! When they finally get brave enough to try they realize how fun sleepovers can be.As a parent we have an internal struggle of our own. We want them to have their independence and go for a night, but we see them as the little baby we held as an infant.Will the other parents know what to do if they get upset? Will they know what kind of cereal they like for breakfast?Then we finally get brave, let them go, and realize we all survived the night. Then they start having sleepovers every weekend. Some end up at a friends and some end up at yours. Sleepovers at your own house are a whole new ballgame. You no longer just have your kids that you have to take care of, but a friend lovingly entrusted you with theirs!As we've started to do more and more sleepovers at our house, I'm starting to see a trend. There are certain personalities that show up at every sleepover. If you're not careful two of these personalities can rub each other the wrong way and send your semi-crazy night into a full blown crazy house!

The Types Of Kids You Have At A Sleepover

There are always a few personalities you can spot at a sleepover and I feel like I can identify which one my kids are already.

The Rule Follower

The child who constantly reminds their friends of the rules. If one of their friends dares to break a rule, they will run to the closest adult to let them know about said offense. Or they take it into their own hands and try to keep everyone in line.

The Dare Devil

The child that just has to test the rules. They have to know what will actually happen if the break all the rules. If they jump on the couch from the coffee table, sneak their spaghetti onto my light colored rug, or shake up a pop bottle. Don't even think about leaving this child alone during the night!

The Silent Instigator

The child who's too scared to be naughty on their own so they try an "encourage" their friends to do all the things they wish they could. They end up flying under the radar because they don't ever get caught in the act. This is the one you have to watch out for.

The One Upper

The child that has to top everyone else's stories or things they do throughout the night. This is the kiddo that can cause a parent's night to get out of control because it's never good enough. They have to be the bravest, toughest, and coolest kid of the night.

The Crier

The child you have to watch for at the end of the night. When they start putting on their jammies and realize they truly are staying the night the tears start coming. They start asking for mom and dad. Then they start trying to figure out when they get to go home. If you're not careful this can end up with mom and dad driving to your house in the middle of the night. Distract. Distract. Distract.

The Angel

The child you wish you could keep! They listen to you all night while having fun with their friends. They tell you what a fun parent you are and beg to come to your house all the time! You may even throw in a few "well intended" comments to your own kids about how much their friend likes you and how much nicer they are to you than they are.

The Sleeper

The child that always falls asleep before everyone else. They try their hardest to stay up late with their friends, but they can't help it. They fall asleep during the movie and on the couch during the game. This is the kid that usually ends up with pictures on their face or shaving cream...

Which personality best described you at your own sleepovers as a kid?

I was definitely the rule follower. I was way too scared to break any rules, much less encourage other kids to do the same thing. Now my oldest son is exactly the same! He's the one yelling at his friends for whispering after they all go to bed and reminding them of the house rules. As his mom I'm proud of him, but as his friend I have to remind him to live a little sometimes!My husband on the other hand was the dare devil. He always had to do something crazy and dragged his friends along with him! The best was visiting his house while we were dating and going downstairs to see little holes all over the basement wall. I asked him how it happened and he said it was an air-soft gun war he had with his friends... He's definitely getting it back as a parents because our three year old is our little dare devil! He's always looking for something crazy to do!

Which personality fits you or your kids?

Hosting Family Over The Holidays

As we welcome the holidays we need to focus on the special moments rather than some of the stress that can come along with it all. Here are a few tips to make sure you enjoy your holidays!

Hosting Your First Christmas

Hosting family for the holidays is something we look forward to, but comes with it's own set of stressors. There are so many things to think about and the last thing you want to do is be completely stressed out during the holidays. The holidays are the time to relax and enjoy the season with your friends and family.

Prepare Something Special For Your Guests

Before your guests arrive, prepare a little gift for them. I like to make a little basket for my friends and family when they stay with me. It's full of water, something sweet, face wash, tooth paste, shampoo, and conditioner. It helps to ensure your guests have everything they need while staying in your home.

Have Extra Snacks On Hand

When you're in your own home, you're comfortable enough to raid your own kitchen looking for something to eat. It's not always the case at someone else's house. Be sure to fill your pantry with simple snacks and let your guests know about it right away. Then they can feel at home without worrying over what they can enjoy.

Keep It Simple

It's always a desire to make sure your guests enjoy themselves. You want them to have a great time and you also want to spoil them. The problem with this is that the holidays are already hectic and adding too much can make it a stressful time rather than enjoyable. Do what you can to keep your schedules simple and relaxing when you can. More often than not it's the simple things people enjoy more than the hectic and busy days.

Plan A Few Structured Events

While doing your best to keep your guests time stress free, add in a few events. Whether it's taking them to a local tourist attraction or going to see Christmas lights. Plan a few events everyone can attend and make the most of your time out!

Develop A Quick 15 Minute Clean Up Plan

Hosting a few extra people in your home means double the mess. Before they arrive, develop a quick 15 minute clean up plan. Then you will be able to sporadically tidy up the house during the day without feeling like you have to clean the whole time.Bona cleaning supplies are just what you need. You can use their dry cloths to pick up anything on the floor and then do a quick mop with their wet cloths. They're great for a quick tidy up around the house! After you're done sprucing up your floors you can spend your time enjoying the simple moments during the holidays.

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What are your tips for hosting family over the holidays?

The King Of The Wild Things

The King of the wild things.

Over the years, I've begun to develop an interesting relationship with birthdays. On one hand you're celebrating all the accomplishments someone has had throughout the year. It's a time to encourage that person and let them know how much you care. On the other hand it means you're getting older and as a parent it can mean your little baby is one year older.A little more independent.One year more grown up.One year closer to not needing mommy and daddy as much.Oh boy. When did I become such a sap!? I sat there staring at my little Lucas all day yesterday asking myself where the time has gone. Yes, I became that parent. I fully admit it and I know I'll be in the same mood, asking myself the same question on every birthday my kids have in the future.My husband and I have gone through so much with our little boy over this last year and look at him! You'd never guess! He is one of the bravest and strongest little two year olds I know which is why his birthday theme was easy to choose.He's my little wild thing.

Where The Wild Things Are

Every night my kids and I have the same routine. I tuck them into bed, kiss them, tell them just how much I love them, and then we have an adventure. We choose one of our favorite books and go off into a different land in our imaginations. Lately, it's been the same adventure over and over again. Not that my kids mind at all. They find new things to think about and their obsession for this book grows deeper with each page.

Where The Wild Things Are.

I loved this book when it fist came out, but as a mom it's pure gold. I have three little wild things of my own and I love reading it to them. The relationship between the mom and the little boy is beautiful. The little boy runs wild throughout the beginning of the book and ends up taking it to far with his mom. She sends him to bed without his dinner and he becomes angry.He gets so angry that his room turns into a jungle and he ventures off to the land of the wild things and he becomes their king. He gets to be as wild as his heart desires and realizes it's not enough. He gets lonely and wants to go back home. He decides he's done living with the wild things and ventures back home. When he gets back to his room he's reminded just how much his momma loves him with a warm bowl of soup.The mom was angry with her son too, but at the end of the day she couldn't let him go to bed without a full belly and she wanted to show him how loved he was.There are so many times I get frustrated with my own wild things, but at the end of the day their mine. I love their wild antics and their imaginations. Especially my little two year old's imagination. Everything is so much more unique to him. He finds something fun and beautiful about everything he sees.

Our Wild Birthday Party

Yesterday, we celebrated Lucas's 2nd birthday and turned our home into the land of the wild things!I was just as excited as my boys were to come up with fun decorations for the party and see where our imaginations could take us. The piece I was most eager about was the cake. Growing up, I remember my aunt making the most adorable cakes! She even passed her skill onto her kids. I had no idea how hard it could be until I tried making my first cake!Thankfully I've learned a few things through trial and error. I want my kids to remember my cakes as they grow up and be able to say...My mom makes the best cakes! I was up to the task for Lucas's party this week! After a lot of brainstorming and scouring Pinterest for inspiration, I came up with the perfect idea.

The cake was surprisingly easy to make! Here are a few steps if you'd like to recreate it for your own wild thing.

Chocolate Curls (Tree Bark)

Combine 1 bag of chocolate chips and 1 TBS coconut oil in a microwave safe bowl. Put the bowl in the microwave for 30 seconds at a time and stir. Continue until your chocolate is completely melted.Spread the melted chocolate on a piece of parchment paper. Make sure the chocolate is spread evenly. Then roll up your parchment paper and put it in the fridge until it's cooled. When the chocolate hardens unroll it and voila. You have chocolate curls.

Assembling The Cake

Assemble your cake and ice it with chocolate frosting. Cover the outside of the cake with your chocolate curls. When the cake is covered with chocolate curls, dust it with cocoa powder.Cover the top with graham cracker crumbs. I added a bit of green food coloring to make it look like moss.

Where The Wild Things Are Party Snacks

Add a few outdoors-ey themed party snacks and your party is complete. These little smores on a stick were my favorite.  

3 Things To Keep In Mind For Christmas With Little Ones

The Worst Part Of Family Vacations

We are officially home!We survived our flight with three little boys and they did great! They love flying and usually don't mind a day at the airport. This trip was a little different because they were so sad to leave my husband's side of the family! It's always the worst part of visiting family... The leaving part.The only way our boys were willing to leave their house was after promising we would Facetime every day. Thank God for technology! It makes it so nice when you miss family that lives far away.They're also extremely excited because we're only home for a few days and then we're off to see my family! Even more cousins, aunts, uncles, and a Harley riding grandpa to spoil them rotten!Since we only have a few days home we thought we'd relax on the couch and do nothing... If only!Now, we're racing around to get ready for baby Luke's 2nd birthday party, dealing with the poor little guy's ear infection, and packing for our next trip! Oh, and how could I forget decorating for Christmas!

Spreading Christmas Cheer!

One of my favorite things to put up this year is our fluffy fake snow! After moving to the Midwest I've developed a strange relationship with the snow. There's just so much here! It's not like the movies! You get snowed in, you do everything in your power to stay inside, and you try to stay under your blanket all day!Luckily my fluffy fake snow is cute and festive without the freezing temperatures!

Passing Down Christmas Traditions

How could I forget my new little nativity scene!Growing up, I counted down the days until my mom would bring out her nativity scene. She would lay down her fluffy snow and set up the whole village. One by one my brother and I would watch her set up each house and then she'd get to the stable. The best part of the whole village! It lit up and reminded us what the whole nativity scene was about.My husband knows how important my mom's nativity scene has always been to my siblings and I, but we've been worried about the kids. Nativity scenes can be pricey and I've never liked to stress about decorations. I'd rather enjoy the season than worry about my kid's touching everything.This is exactly why our tree is filled with felt ornaments, all of our decorations can be played with, and it's all about fun rather than "off limits."Then I found this! I was walking up and down the festive Target aisles, like I would do every day if I could, and found this gem! It's the perfect nativity scene for this stage in our family. The kids can play with it and we can talk about the message rather than telling them they can't play with it.I'd show you the rest of our decorations, but we just got home from vacation and the house is less than impressive!

3 Things To Keep In Mind For Christmas With Little Ones

Having three little boys under 6 has definitely taught me something. Over the years we've figured out a few things that have helped us to enjoy our holidays more!

Avoid The Breakables.

As your kids get older you can upgrade your decorations. While they're little, stick to non-breakables when you can. Look for felt ornaments and decorations that won't break if they're dropped or knocked over. It's going to relieve some of your stress and the kids won't have to worry about what they can and can't touch.

How Can The Kids Get Involved?

One of the reasons kids start touching everything is that it's all novel! They don't see these things every day and just want to play and have fun! One thing we've done over the years is get the kid's their own decorations. We have a little box and it's full of their Christmas decorations! They love it because we let them decorate however they choose. They even have their own little tree!Create your own kid's Christmas box this year! Take the kids to the store and let them pick and choose what to put inside. You can add to it each year!

Enjoy The Christmas Season!

Christmas is about so much more than the stress that can come along with it. To quote a very inspirational person..."The best way to spread Christmas cheer is singing loud for all to hear."Don't put too much on your plate and try to remember to have fun! Take time to just walk around your neighborhood with hot cocoa in hand and look at the Christmas lights. Find simple ways your family can enjoy the holiday season without all the stress.A few of our favorites are holiday movie nights, decorating pre-made sugar cookies, and listening to Christmas music all day!

What's your favorite Christmas tradition with your family?

15 Reasons I'm Grateful For My Multiracial Family

The holidays are always such a good reminder to sit down and think about what you're grateful for. This year I've been thinking about all the reasons I'm grateful for my multiracial family.Our family has been looking forward to the holidays for months now. We were excited to be with our family we don't get to see often, enjoy delicious holiday food, and spend hours laughing about silly things.One of the biggest reasons I've been counting down the days is because I selfishly wanted my family to myself. During the rest of the year I have to share them with school, work, and other daily responsibilities. The holidays are my chance to get them all to myself and I don't have to share them.Parents hear it all the time.Savor every minute with your family. Over the holidays, I plan to do just that. I want to savor everything about them. So today, I thought what better than a list of all the reasons I'm grateful for my multiracial family. There are so many reasons I fall more in love with them every day, but here are just a few.

15 Reasons I'm Grateful For My Multiracial Family

The bond between my children.

As my kids are getting older, I've been able to see a true friendship form between them. At first it was an extreme love/hate relationship, but their love for each other is something else. I love being able to see them encourage each other and stand by each other's sides!

 

The blessing of raising momma's boys.

I never would have expected to be raising three boys, but now that I am I wouldn't have it any other way! I love being a mom to three strong and vibrant little boys. Not to mention they're all mommas boys and beg to cuddle me! I hope they never outgrow it! 

The ability to see how caring my children are.

Every parent wants their kids to care about people around them. Seeing it happen is a different thing all together. This week I witnessed my son encourage his cousin who was crying over a game. I reminded him to give his cousin space so he could calm down, but he wouldn't budge. He had to stay until his chininna was feeling ok again. I love watching this because it shows me that they actually care. 

My husband is an amazing role model of what it looks like to be a great daddy.

One of the reasons my kids are the way they are is because they have a great daddy to look up to. Their daddy has shown them what it means to provide for their family, be loving, take care of them, and how to always strive to be your best. They love their daddy so much and I am so grateful to see how close they all are!

 

I get to help shape my boys into the little men they will grow into.

Sometimes parenting is completely overwhelming. It all adds up and you ask yourself what you're even doing! Then you realize that all the hard work you put in every day is for your kids. It all adds together to help shape your kids into the adults they're going to be. What an honor to have such a special place in their lives. 

My husband and I get to teach our boys what it means to be in a loving marriage.

My husband and I are going on year seven of marriage. We are anything but perfect and have our fair share of ridiculous fights in front of our kids. In spite of our imperfections, our kids know without a doubt that we love each other. They know we'll fight to keep our marriage strong and that they can feel safe. 

 

We get to go on adventures together.

We have been extremely blessed over the years and have been able to go on dozens of family adventures. As I write this we're cozied up in bed in Texas visiting family. I love being able to make these memories together.

We are blessed with two beautiful cultures in our family.

As a multiracial family, we get to give our kids two different cultures and help them blend together to create their own cultural identity. I love watching them process through it all and find new things to fall in love with in each culture.

My kids are healthy.

We've had some pretty big health scares this year with our youngest son. As I look at his sweet little sleeping face I'm reminded how lucky I am that he's here with me and healthy. I'm beyond grateful that I am able to say all three of my kids are strong and healthy. 

We have a huge support system.

Throughout all of the hospital scares this year, I've never had to worry about my two big kids. We've had a huge support system come around and take care of us. 

I have the best partner in life.

My husband is my best friend. Not many couples can say that and truly mean it. The last year has brought us closer together and I am grateful to say he's the one I get to spend my whole life with.

 

My kids want their parents to join in on the fun!

I know it may not always last, but as of right now my kids beg us to play with them. They want my husband and I to be apart of their little games and it makes my heart so happy. 

We actually want to hang out with our kids!

As our kids get older, they're getting to some pretty fun ages! They can actually play fun group games and I have to admit... my husband and I actually want to hang out with them! I love how our family nights have become about board games and fun activities together! 

Our kids teach us something each day!

I love that I can learn so much from my kids. They teach me to have patience and more love in my heart for those around me. They remind me that not everything is as big as it seems. They lovingly encourage me every day that family is what matters.

 

I love my little family.

At the end of the day, I am just so overwhelmingly in love with my little multiracial family. They have made my life something so much more beautiful than I ever thought possible.

What are you grateful for this year?