How To Simplify Your Children's Bedtime Routine
Simplify your children's bedtime routine with a few simple steps! Then you can spice up your evenings with a free Game Story printable!
Our bedtime routine.
6:30 Turn off any shows the kids may be watching and send them upstairs to get ready for bed. While the big kids are brushing teeth and getting on their jammies I start getting my youngest ready. After he's cozy and ready I lather him up in lavender and coconut oil. I just started doing this with all of my kids before bed and it's been a game changer. It helps them all to calm down and has been helping my oldest with his bad dreams.
7:00 My youngest gets smothered in kisses, we pray, and then he goes to bed. He's the easiest to put down to sleep because he loves bed time. I kid you not, he actually loves it. All you have to do is tell him it's bed time, he gets his blankey, and starts to climb upstairs.
Then I go to my big kids room only to find my older kids not ready for bed yet. It doesn't matter that I asked them to get ready. They tend to be playing hide and seek or jumping on their beds (trying to stay away from the lava.) I remind them, for the countless time to get ready for bed. After a bit of help, they get ready and race into their room.
7:30 This is my kids favorite part of the night. Game story. We all pile into one of our kids beds and get our creative juices flowing. Everyone starts to jump in saying who gets to start the story. It usually ends up being my husband or myself.
Game story rules: Each person gets to tell a small portion of the story. After someone takes their turn, the next person will start off where they stopped.
Game story has become a family tradition in our house. We even include any houseguests we may have.
8:00 We tuck the kids in bed, give them kisses, turn on their clock night light, and close their door.
8:02 The kids ask for a drink of water.
8:03 The kids ask for another drink of water.
Our Bedtime Routine Essentials
Blanket / Coconut Oil / Kid's Clock / Game Story Printable
What does your bed time routine look like?
You Mean The World To Me Printable Valentine's Day Cards
Printable "You Mean The World To Me," Valentine's Day cards- FREE printable Valentine's Day cards for kids!
Check out these printable Valentine's Day cards for a budget friendly craft your kids can bring to their classroom!
Printable Valentine's Day Cards
It's that time of the year again! Valentine's Day is just a few short weeks away which means it's the perfect time to start thinking about your kid's Valentine's Day cards! Will they go with a theme? Will they make their own? Will it mean a table full of scrap paper and glue mess when it's all done?My kids have always loved picking out their Valentine's Day cards! There are so many fun choices to pick from and they like to be unique.As a multicultural family, I'm always looking for ways to put a fun spin on holidays. We tend to blend cultures within our family for the holidays and sometimes it's just plain fun to put a multicultural twist on things.
You Mean The World To Me
Whether you are a multicultural family, travel enthusiast, or simple love the world you live in these cards are perfect for you!Today, I have a simple printable to make Valentine's Day preparation easy! All you have to do is pick which design you like, or both, then print them out!What can be more simple or fun this Valentine's Day?
If you liked this you'll love our list of fun DIY Valentine's Day cards!
5 Reasons You Should Read Aloud To Your Child
5 Reasons You To Read Aloud Your Child
Promotes Communication
Reading out loud promotes communication between you and your child. As you read, you're going to be talking about the story and more. It helps to open the doors of communication which then leads to your child improving in their communication with others.
Improves Their Receptive Skills
As you read to your child, their developing their receptive skills. It takes a lot of work for a child to sit down, listen, and understand what's happening in a story. As they practice this skill they will be able to do it more often and for longer periods of time.The more you read aloud to your child, you'll notice they start doing better in school and public settings where they're expected to listen and follow instructions.
Builds A Special Bond Between You And Your Child
It means the world to your child when they see you making time for them. They see that they're a priority and thrive on your quality time together. As you read to them, it won't be easy to get distracted by your phone or your to do list either. It helps set you both up for success!As a parent, we've heard it before... They grow up before you know it! It's true. They won't always want you to sit down and read to them. Cherish this time with your children and soak it all up.
Encourages An Active Imagination
While you read to your child they will be picturing the story in their head. They'll want to follow along as they picture what the main character looks like, what their house looks like, and what how dinner smells. Their imaginations will explode with possibilities!A child with an active imagination will dream big! They'll imagine how great their lives will be and do anything they can to get there.
Exposed To New Vocabulary
Reading new books to your children each day means they're exposed to new vocabulary. Every book will introduce them to words they haven't heard before and they'll be eager to learn more. Studies have shown children that have parents reading aloud to them at home have 40 percent more vocabulary than those who don't.
Are you having a hard time keeping your child engaged while you read? Try these techniques.
Stop Frequently Throughout The Story
Be sure to stop frequently through out the story. If you read on and on for an hour, chances are they tuned you out. Stopping often helps you to make sure they're still listening and find out what they think about the book.
Ask Them Questions
As you stop, ask them questions. Ask them what they think about the scene, or who their favorite character is etc. Asking them questions help them to verbally think through the scenes and they'll be more likely to ask you questions if they don't know.
Move Your Fingers As You Read
As your children learn how to read, it's important to put your finger under the words. They see you following along with your finger and associate the words you're saying with the words on the page.
Limit Distractions
Be sure to set up a good reading space. This space should have minimal distractions so your child can focus all of their attention on the story rather than the TV in the background.
"The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you'll go."
-Dr. Seuss
Are you reading with your child every day? If so what are your tips?
DIY Valentine's Day Cards For Boys
Celebrating Valentine's Day With My Little Boys
Growing up I always loved Valentine's Day. I loved being able to make a little basket for my cards and taking time to let all my friends know how much I love them.Not to mention, making my own Valentine's Day cards! Did you love making them as much as I did?!Now my boys are old enough to start enjoying this holiday. They even asked to make their own cards! I quickly starting putting together all of our craft supplies to see what we could come up with.I tried thinking about all the fun cards they could make. We decided to look for some inspiration. Here are a few of our favorite Valentine's Day cards perfect for little boys!
DIY Valentine's Day Cards For Boys
Printable Star Wars CardsLet's Build TogetherBlow Up My Heart CardYou're One In A Melon CardI'm Wild About YouI Am Bubbling With JoyYou Make My Heart RaceYou Make My Heart BurstYou Make Me GlowI'm Beary Happy You're In My ClassI'm So Happy You're In My SchoolLollipop CardsI Think You're A-Doh-AbleYou Make My Heart SoreYou Make My Heart SpringColor My WorldSuper Valentine's DayHave A Ball This Valentine's DayEmoji Valentine's CardsCrazy Straw Valentine's DayLight Saber Valentine's CardsOf All The Fish In The Sea
Which one is your favorite?
Personalities You Can Find At A Sleepover
If you look carefully you can spot a few distinct personalities at every sleepover! Here is what they look like!
The Types Of Kids You Have At A Sleepover
There are always a few personalities you can spot at a sleepover and I feel like I can identify which one my kids are already.
The Rule Follower
The child who constantly reminds their friends of the rules. If one of their friends dares to break a rule, they will run to the closest adult to let them know about said offense. Or they take it into their own hands and try to keep everyone in line.
The Dare Devil
The child that just has to test the rules. They have to know what will actually happen if the break all the rules. If they jump on the couch from the coffee table, sneak their spaghetti onto my light colored rug, or shake up a pop bottle. Don't even think about leaving this child alone during the night!
The Silent Instigator
The child who's too scared to be naughty on their own so they try an "encourage" their friends to do all the things they wish they could. They end up flying under the radar because they don't ever get caught in the act. This is the one you have to watch out for.
The One Upper
The child that has to top everyone else's stories or things they do throughout the night. This is the kiddo that can cause a parent's night to get out of control because it's never good enough. They have to be the bravest, toughest, and coolest kid of the night.
The Crier
The child you have to watch for at the end of the night. When they start putting on their jammies and realize they truly are staying the night the tears start coming. They start asking for mom and dad. Then they start trying to figure out when they get to go home. If you're not careful this can end up with mom and dad driving to your house in the middle of the night. Distract. Distract. Distract.
The Angel
The child you wish you could keep! They listen to you all night while having fun with their friends. They tell you what a fun parent you are and beg to come to your house all the time! You may even throw in a few "well intended" comments to your own kids about how much their friend likes you and how much nicer they are to you than they are.
The Sleeper
The child that always falls asleep before everyone else. They try their hardest to stay up late with their friends, but they can't help it. They fall asleep during the movie and on the couch during the game. This is the kid that usually ends up with pictures on their face or shaving cream...
Which personality best described you at your own sleepovers as a kid?
I was definitely the rule follower. I was way too scared to break any rules, much less encourage other kids to do the same thing. Now my oldest son is exactly the same! He's the one yelling at his friends for whispering after they all go to bed and reminding them of the house rules. As his mom I'm proud of him, but as his friend I have to remind him to live a little sometimes!My husband on the other hand was the dare devil. He always had to do something crazy and dragged his friends along with him! The best was visiting his house while we were dating and going downstairs to see little holes all over the basement wall. I asked him how it happened and he said it was an air-soft gun war he had with his friends... He's definitely getting it back as a parents because our three year old is our little dare devil! He's always looking for something crazy to do!
Which personality fits you or your kids?
The King Of The Wild Things
The King of the wild things.
Over the years, I've begun to develop an interesting relationship with birthdays. On one hand you're celebrating all the accomplishments someone has had throughout the year. It's a time to encourage that person and let them know how much you care. On the other hand it means you're getting older and as a parent it can mean your little baby is one year older.A little more independent.One year more grown up.One year closer to not needing mommy and daddy as much.Oh boy. When did I become such a sap!? I sat there staring at my little Lucas all day yesterday asking myself where the time has gone. Yes, I became that parent. I fully admit it and I know I'll be in the same mood, asking myself the same question on every birthday my kids have in the future.My husband and I have gone through so much with our little boy over this last year and look at him! You'd never guess! He is one of the bravest and strongest little two year olds I know which is why his birthday theme was easy to choose.He's my little wild thing.
Where The Wild Things Are
Every night my kids and I have the same routine. I tuck them into bed, kiss them, tell them just how much I love them, and then we have an adventure. We choose one of our favorite books and go off into a different land in our imaginations. Lately, it's been the same adventure over and over again. Not that my kids mind at all. They find new things to think about and their obsession for this book grows deeper with each page.
Where The Wild Things Are.
I loved this book when it fist came out, but as a mom it's pure gold. I have three little wild things of my own and I love reading it to them. The relationship between the mom and the little boy is beautiful. The little boy runs wild throughout the beginning of the book and ends up taking it to far with his mom. She sends him to bed without his dinner and he becomes angry.He gets so angry that his room turns into a jungle and he ventures off to the land of the wild things and he becomes their king. He gets to be as wild as his heart desires and realizes it's not enough. He gets lonely and wants to go back home. He decides he's done living with the wild things and ventures back home. When he gets back to his room he's reminded just how much his momma loves him with a warm bowl of soup.The mom was angry with her son too, but at the end of the day she couldn't let him go to bed without a full belly and she wanted to show him how loved he was.There are so many times I get frustrated with my own wild things, but at the end of the day their mine. I love their wild antics and their imaginations. Especially my little two year old's imagination. Everything is so much more unique to him. He finds something fun and beautiful about everything he sees.
Our Wild Birthday Party
Yesterday, we celebrated Lucas's 2nd birthday and turned our home into the land of the wild things!I was just as excited as my boys were to come up with fun decorations for the party and see where our imaginations could take us. The piece I was most eager about was the cake. Growing up, I remember my aunt making the most adorable cakes! She even passed her skill onto her kids. I had no idea how hard it could be until I tried making my first cake!Thankfully I've learned a few things through trial and error. I want my kids to remember my cakes as they grow up and be able to say...My mom makes the best cakes! I was up to the task for Lucas's party this week! After a lot of brainstorming and scouring Pinterest for inspiration, I came up with the perfect idea.
Chocolate Curls (Tree Bark)
Combine 1 bag of chocolate chips and 1 TBS coconut oil in a microwave safe bowl. Put the bowl in the microwave for 30 seconds at a time and stir. Continue until your chocolate is completely melted.Spread the melted chocolate on a piece of parchment paper. Make sure the chocolate is spread evenly. Then roll up your parchment paper and put it in the fridge until it's cooled. When the chocolate hardens unroll it and voila. You have chocolate curls.
Assembling The Cake
Assemble your cake and ice it with chocolate frosting. Cover the outside of the cake with your chocolate curls. When the cake is covered with chocolate curls, dust it with cocoa powder.Cover the top with graham cracker crumbs. I added a bit of green food coloring to make it look like moss.
Where The Wild Things Are Party Snacks
Add a few outdoors-ey themed party snacks and your party is complete. These little smores on a stick were my favorite.
3 Things To Keep In Mind For Christmas With Little Ones
The Worst Part Of Family Vacations
We are officially home!We survived our flight with three little boys and they did great! They love flying and usually don't mind a day at the airport. This trip was a little different because they were so sad to leave my husband's side of the family! It's always the worst part of visiting family... The leaving part.The only way our boys were willing to leave their house was after promising we would Facetime every day. Thank God for technology! It makes it so nice when you miss family that lives far away.They're also extremely excited because we're only home for a few days and then we're off to see my family! Even more cousins, aunts, uncles, and a Harley riding grandpa to spoil them rotten!Since we only have a few days home we thought we'd relax on the couch and do nothing... If only!Now, we're racing around to get ready for baby Luke's 2nd birthday party, dealing with the poor little guy's ear infection, and packing for our next trip! Oh, and how could I forget decorating for Christmas!
Spreading Christmas Cheer!
One of my favorite things to put up this year is our fluffy fake snow! After moving to the Midwest I've developed a strange relationship with the snow. There's just so much here! It's not like the movies! You get snowed in, you do everything in your power to stay inside, and you try to stay under your blanket all day!Luckily my fluffy fake snow is cute and festive without the freezing temperatures!
Passing Down Christmas Traditions
How could I forget my new little nativity scene!Growing up, I counted down the days until my mom would bring out her nativity scene. She would lay down her fluffy snow and set up the whole village. One by one my brother and I would watch her set up each house and then she'd get to the stable. The best part of the whole village! It lit up and reminded us what the whole nativity scene was about.My husband knows how important my mom's nativity scene has always been to my siblings and I, but we've been worried about the kids. Nativity scenes can be pricey and I've never liked to stress about decorations. I'd rather enjoy the season than worry about my kid's touching everything.This is exactly why our tree is filled with felt ornaments, all of our decorations can be played with, and it's all about fun rather than "off limits."Then I found this! I was walking up and down the festive Target aisles, like I would do every day if I could, and found this gem! It's the perfect nativity scene for this stage in our family. The kids can play with it and we can talk about the message rather than telling them they can't play with it.I'd show you the rest of our decorations, but we just got home from vacation and the house is less than impressive!
3 Things To Keep In Mind For Christmas With Little Ones
Having three little boys under 6 has definitely taught me something. Over the years we've figured out a few things that have helped us to enjoy our holidays more!
Avoid The Breakables.
As your kids get older you can upgrade your decorations. While they're little, stick to non-breakables when you can. Look for felt ornaments and decorations that won't break if they're dropped or knocked over. It's going to relieve some of your stress and the kids won't have to worry about what they can and can't touch.
How Can The Kids Get Involved?
One of the reasons kids start touching everything is that it's all novel! They don't see these things every day and just want to play and have fun! One thing we've done over the years is get the kid's their own decorations. We have a little box and it's full of their Christmas decorations! They love it because we let them decorate however they choose. They even have their own little tree!Create your own kid's Christmas box this year! Take the kids to the store and let them pick and choose what to put inside. You can add to it each year!
Enjoy The Christmas Season!
Christmas is about so much more than the stress that can come along with it. To quote a very inspirational person..."The best way to spread Christmas cheer is singing loud for all to hear."Don't put too much on your plate and try to remember to have fun! Take time to just walk around your neighborhood with hot cocoa in hand and look at the Christmas lights. Find simple ways your family can enjoy the holiday season without all the stress.A few of our favorites are holiday movie nights, decorating pre-made sugar cookies, and listening to Christmas music all day!
What's your favorite Christmas tradition with your family?
15 Reasons I'm Grateful For My Multiracial Family
The holidays are always such a good reminder to sit down and think about what you're grateful for. This year I've been thinking about all the reasons I'm grateful for my multiracial family.Our family has been looking forward to the holidays for months now. We were excited to be with our family we don't get to see often, enjoy delicious holiday food, and spend hours laughing about silly things.One of the biggest reasons I've been counting down the days is because I selfishly wanted my family to myself. During the rest of the year I have to share them with school, work, and other daily responsibilities. The holidays are my chance to get them all to myself and I don't have to share them.Parents hear it all the time.Savor every minute with your family. Over the holidays, I plan to do just that. I want to savor everything about them. So today, I thought what better than a list of all the reasons I'm grateful for my multiracial family. There are so many reasons I fall more in love with them every day, but here are just a few.
15 Reasons I'm Grateful For My Multiracial Family
The bond between my children.
As my kids are getting older, I've been able to see a true friendship form between them. At first it was an extreme love/hate relationship, but their love for each other is something else. I love being able to see them encourage each other and stand by each other's sides!
The blessing of raising momma's boys.
I never would have expected to be raising three boys, but now that I am I wouldn't have it any other way! I love being a mom to three strong and vibrant little boys. Not to mention they're all mommas boys and beg to cuddle me! I hope they never outgrow it!
The ability to see how caring my children are.
Every parent wants their kids to care about people around them. Seeing it happen is a different thing all together. This week I witnessed my son encourage his cousin who was crying over a game. I reminded him to give his cousin space so he could calm down, but he wouldn't budge. He had to stay until his chininna was feeling ok again. I love watching this because it shows me that they actually care.
My husband is an amazing role model of what it looks like to be a great daddy.
One of the reasons my kids are the way they are is because they have a great daddy to look up to. Their daddy has shown them what it means to provide for their family, be loving, take care of them, and how to always strive to be your best. They love their daddy so much and I am so grateful to see how close they all are!
I get to help shape my boys into the little men they will grow into.
Sometimes parenting is completely overwhelming. It all adds up and you ask yourself what you're even doing! Then you realize that all the hard work you put in every day is for your kids. It all adds together to help shape your kids into the adults they're going to be. What an honor to have such a special place in their lives.
My husband and I get to teach our boys what it means to be in a loving marriage.
My husband and I are going on year seven of marriage. We are anything but perfect and have our fair share of ridiculous fights in front of our kids. In spite of our imperfections, our kids know without a doubt that we love each other. They know we'll fight to keep our marriage strong and that they can feel safe.
We get to go on adventures together.
We have been extremely blessed over the years and have been able to go on dozens of family adventures. As I write this we're cozied up in bed in Texas visiting family. I love being able to make these memories together.
We are blessed with two beautiful cultures in our family.
As a multiracial family, we get to give our kids two different cultures and help them blend together to create their own cultural identity. I love watching them process through it all and find new things to fall in love with in each culture.
My kids are healthy.
We've had some pretty big health scares this year with our youngest son. As I look at his sweet little sleeping face I'm reminded how lucky I am that he's here with me and healthy. I'm beyond grateful that I am able to say all three of my kids are strong and healthy.
We have a huge support system.
Throughout all of the hospital scares this year, I've never had to worry about my two big kids. We've had a huge support system come around and take care of us.
I have the best partner in life.
My husband is my best friend. Not many couples can say that and truly mean it. The last year has brought us closer together and I am grateful to say he's the one I get to spend my whole life with.
My kids want their parents to join in on the fun!
I know it may not always last, but as of right now my kids beg us to play with them. They want my husband and I to be apart of their little games and it makes my heart so happy.
We actually want to hang out with our kids!
As our kids get older, they're getting to some pretty fun ages! They can actually play fun group games and I have to admit... my husband and I actually want to hang out with them! I love how our family nights have become about board games and fun activities together!
Our kids teach us something each day!
I love that I can learn so much from my kids. They teach me to have patience and more love in my heart for those around me. They remind me that not everything is as big as it seems. They lovingly encourage me every day that family is what matters.
I love my little family.
At the end of the day, I am just so overwhelmingly in love with my little multiracial family. They have made my life something so much more beautiful than I ever thought possible.
What are you grateful for this year?
My Multicultural Family: Our Thanksgiving Adventure
Early flights, skipping children, and making Thanksgiving memories! Combine them all together and that's what our little almost Indian family has been doing the last few days!
My Multicultural Family: Our Thanksgiving Adventure
Our kids have been counting down to our Thanksgiving vacation to Texas for weeks! They couldn't wait to visit their Chininnas, Pinnis, Thathas, and Nanammas. They were so excited that they would even announce their upcoming trip to everyone around them while grocery shopping! Needless to say, they have been ready for a while!As excited as they were, I was worried about them the morning of the flight. We had to wake the kids up around 4 am to make it to the shuttle in time. My oldest, Liam was the first one to start walking around the hotel room.Momma, I'm the opposite of awake...He started to tell me he was going to go back to bed and take a later flight. Then his excitement got the best of him and he shot out of bed when he realized the trip he had been waiting for was finally here!They are the only kids I know that will skip down the the shuttle at 4 am!
Momma's Well Deserved First Class Upgrade!
Luckily I've been blessed with a wonderful husband who gets his wife upgraded to first class with the baby! The baby that sleeps through most flights. I wish I could say I felt bad leaving my husband and the two big kids behind in coach, but... no.I figured they all owed it to me for every pregnancy, labor, wiped nose, early morning wake up call, back rub, Indian dinner prepared, and ounce of love I've given them. Yes, I went there.The problem is that I slept through the first class meal and drinks! Ooops.I planned on staying awake, but my first class baby passenger cuddled me right to sleep!
What is your funniest traveling story?
Raising Grateful Children: Thank You For My Siblings!
Have you ever wondered if you're raising grateful children? If your children are grateful for the people they love in their lives? Here are a few things you can start doing today to make sure you're raising grateful children!
Raising Grateful ChildrenI don't know what it is, but have you ever noticed that every time you need to make an important phone call your kids go crazy?This afternoon I had to call my health insurance company. I only had an hour before they closed and I figured I would try and call while my two youngest were napping. They usually answer pretty quickly so I thought I could get it all done before my boys woke up.After about 15 minutes on hold I realized quick wasn't in the cards for today.Then my three year old woke up and thought it would be helpful to wake up his baby brother. I went up there, phone up to my ear, to grab them. Baby Luke's crib was full of toys along with a 3 year old big brother.They were both grinning ear to ear and loving their mischievousness!I ended up letting them destroy their room so I could finish my supposedly "quick" phone call. I have to admit, I love that they're getting closer.It's one of the reasons I wanted to have my kids so close together. I knew it would come with it's own set of craziness, but it would be worth it. I wanted my kids to be close.I was worried in the beginning because all my boys would do was fight! My husband and I joked about their love-hate relationship, but deep down I was worried they wouldn't be as close as I hoped. Now that they're a bit older, I'm starting to see how deep their brotherly bond really is.
They all look to each other for approval, wanting to make sure their brothers think they're doing something amazing. The best is while we sit down for meals. They start telling jokes and instantly look to make sure their brothers are laughing at them! Even Baby Lucas joins in! No one knows what he actually says, but they love that he's trying and think his' hilarious!I want them to continue getting closer as they get older.I want my kids to be best friends.
3 Ways To Ensure You're Raising Grateful Children
This month, I want my kids to take a moment to be grateful for their siblings. The more they learn what they love and value in each other, the closer they'll be.
Lead By Example
If we want to teach our kids to be grateful, we have to start by being grateful ourselves. Kids are always looking to their parents to figure out what to do. If they can see us being grateful and loving to those around us, they'll follow suit.Parents can model gratitude by verbally expressing it, sending thank you notes, and even giving little gifts.Remind your kids how important to be thankful for people they love and talk to them about it. Let them know why you're thankful for them!
Create A Habit
Instead of being grateful once a year on Thanksgiving, make it a year long routine. Create a habit in your home to talk about what your thankful for. Whether it's over dinner each night, as you tuck your kids in bed, or on the way home from a busy day.It doesn't matter when you do it, just do it. Create those conversations early on so they become normal.
Sibling Dates
As your kids watch you leading a grateful life and a let it become a habit in their own, it will quickly start to affect their relationships with their siblings.You can foster their relationships with each other more by letting them have sibling dates!Do something fun and take them to a movie! Let them choose what they want to see together and their snacks! Or let them come up with their date night on their own. Encourage them to have fun thinking up the whole night and what they're going to do.The most important thing you can do as a parent is to help your children build strong relationships with each other.These relationships are going to last for their entire lives. By helping your kids learn how to be grateful for each other, you're making sure they have a strong foundation that can last through it all.
What tips do you have for helping your kids be grateful for their siblings?
How To Stay Sane Over The Holidays
The holiday season has always been a busy time for families. Last year our family learned just how crazy it could get. Between the months of October and December we have 2 birthdays and 3 major holidays. It may not seem like too much, but keep in mind all five of these events require planning, some of them mean traveling, making elaborate meals, and parties.I feel like we're planning and hosting a part every other week!
10 Ways To Stay Sane Over The Holidays
This year my husband and I have decided to keep things simple. We want to let go of all the holiday stress and just enjoy it.
Give Group Gifts
When you're giving presents to different families, you can end up getting dozens of gifts for all the family members. Try to think bigger this year and give group gifts rather than all individual ones.
Don't Overextend Yourself
It's easy to overcommit to way too much over the holidays. You want everything to be perfect and take it all on yourself. Be sure to think about what your taking on. Is it possible with your schedule? Write it all out and decide on which tasks you can do yourself and what you can hand off to someone else.
Make A Holiday Budget
This is the perfect time to make a holiday budget. Think about any meals you may be hosting, if you have family planning to visit, presents, travel, etc. Make a realistic budget that you can try and stick to over the holidays.
Remember What It's All About
Sometimes we lose sight of what the holidays are about. We give in to the craziness and stress and forget. This year make sure you remember why you're doing it all.
Be Sure To Rest
The only way you will be able to get everything on your to do list accomplished is by taking care of yourself first. If you're only focusing on those around you and forget to rest you'll end up getting sick. Be your best this year by resting when you can.
Buy Presents Early
Plan out your gifts and purchase them early this year! If your kids are anything like mine, they already have their Christmas lists going. Take a look at the lists and buy something from it every pay check. This helps to spread it out and means you're not doing it all last minute!
Be Thankful
Take time every day to think about what you're thankful for this year. It's going to help you prioritize because you'll be thinking about what actually matters.
Take Time For Yourself
In addition to resting, take time for yourself this busy season. Find time to go out with a friend or go and get a delicious pumpkin spiced latte. Don't get so busy that you only think about those around you for the next few months.
Stay In The Moment
During the holidays a lot of us think about what's next. Instead of just focusing on the holiday at hand, we get lost in planning for the next one. Stay in the moment this year and relish in the holiday traditions, your kids, your family, and you'll be making memories that last.
Take A Deep Breath
At the end of the day, things will get crazy. Things may not go the way you planned, but it's ok. Take a deep breath and remember that no one is looking for a perfect holiday. They just want time with the people they love.
Incredibundles Is Just What You Need To Simplify The Holidays
Today I'm partnering with Incredibundles to make your holidays a little easier. They've done so much of the work for you and just want to help you find the best gifts for the littles ones in your life.Whether you're looking for a group gift for a family, a gift for a new dad in your life, or you're prepping for your holiday gifts early Incredibundles is for you!We got our first bundle last week and our kids loved it! We created our own and included age appropriate gifts for all of them! I love how many options they! They have year long subscriptions, one time bundles, essentials, and so much more!
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How Purging Toys Has Made My Kids Closer
Our Massive Purge!
I recently went through our home and did a massive purge. I've wanted to do one for a while, but continued to put it off. I'd get rid of a few things here or there, only to replace it with something else.Then I finally did it. I spent an entire weekend going through our clothes and toys. I ended up donating 10 bags to Goodwill.... I didn't even know we had accumulated so many things. Granted some of it was clothes the kids no longer fit into, but there were so many toys.Do you want to know the kicker?My kids haven't even noticed...I spent so much time trying to find toys that would help them to stay entertained, teach them important skills, and to play with their brothers that I went a little overboard.Our purge has been amazing. I spend half the time cleaning up after they're done playing and the most important thing is their imagination has exploded! Instead of dumping out all of their toys and playing with one for five minutes they grab a few and go outside!
We've been extremely blessed this year with a park in walking distance from our house. Right next to the park is a fun wooded "fort." My boys have been all about it!Now that we've gone through and donated a huge chunk of our toys, they've wanted to go to the park every day. As soon as we get there, they run to their fort. I tried following them in today but was rudely denied by a five-year-old Iron Man.
I still snuck in to snap pictures of them playing together! I love seeing how close they're getting.Having three little boys under six has been crazy at times, but I remind myself we did it for a reason. I wanted my kids close together because I wanted them to be best friends. Now, it's actually happening. They love spending time together.Yet another thing I've seen after getting rid of so many toys is that they play together more. Before, they'd all get their toys and play alone. Now, they find each other and play together!
Ok, we're almost there. This little one got kicked out of the fort for throwing dirt at his big brothers. This was his response when I asked if he was throwing things at them.He's got no shame.Try it for yourself and purge some of your kid's toys! You'll be amazed at the results!
Teaching My Multicultural Kids What's "Normal"
My Little Explorers
One of my favorites part of homeschool has been watching my kids explore. My little boys are curious about everything around them! If you look into their eyes, you can see they're always pondering something.Momma, why can't I marry you?Why can't we spend your grocery money on our toys? Aren't toys more important?Why doesn't everyone speak Telugu like daddy and me?I love hearing the questions their little minds come up with. While I may be assuming they're only thinking about the toy in their hand, they're actually processing life going on around them. They want to figure it all out.Sometimes, these questions are centered around what they want in the moment, like going toy shopping rather than grocery shopping. Other times, they're thinking about something much deeper. I'm always surprised to hear how deep their questions can become.Lately, my oldest son, Liam has been pondering the differences between him and those around him. As a biracial child, he's not new to the idea of being different than some of his friends, but he's starting to identify how they're different.
I Speak Normal
This week, we went to the store to pick up a few supplies. While we there, Liam overheard a few employees speaking in Spanish. He's fascinated with other languages because this is the first year he's had a personal desire to pick up more Telugu.He immediately started talking to me and asked if they were speaking Spanish. I said yes and he started to go off in his own version to show off for them, throwing in a few real Spanish words.He was so proud of himself. Then I became the mom that reminded him most of what he said was made up. Luckily, he just laughed and he started listing off all the Telugu words he knows.I love that he wants to explore languages, but I don't ever want him to come off as mocking someone else. I want him to know the difference between a made up language and a real language. Then he brought up one of his cousins who grew up in India.Momma, why doesn't he speak normal like me?Hun, there's not really a normal language. People across the world grow up speaking different languages and he grew up speaking Telugu. It's normal to him. Mom... Listen to me. See.. I'm speaking normal. It took some time to explain to him that normal is relative, but it got me thinking. I don't want to raise kids that think they're way is the only "normal" way. Right now, he's young and he's trying to process the world around him. I love that he's able to talk to me about everything he sees and wants to know more about.
Diversity Is Normal
I want my kids to grow up knowing diversity is what's normal. I want them to be able to look around and see the beauty in the differences between cultures.The more I can talk to my kids about the differences they see, the more normal it becomes. "Normal" is relative. It changes for everyone. However, one thing that should always be normal is a love for different cultures around the world.As my kids continue to question and figure out the world, I'm going to be right next to them. I want to help them as they figure it out.It's our role as parents to teach our kids the beauty of diversity. How can you do that? You do it by pointing out racial inequality, talking to your kids about what's going on the world, encouraging them to ask questions, and teaching them that all lives matter.Sometimes, I look at the news and for a moment, I wish I could hide it all from my kids. I don't want them to see how terrible people can be. I don't want them to know that some people are so hateful that they see their race as better than another.It's my job as their parent to talk to them about the hard things. I'd rather be the one to tell them, so I can also be the one to remind them all lives are important and diversity is what makes our world so beautiful.
Potty Training: Top Methods And Tips
Potty Training
The moment in parenthood, we all dread.Potty training means double the amount of dirty clothes, constantly keeping an eye on your child to make sure they don't pee everywhere, and frantically looking for bathrooms in public before you become "that" family...I love hearing from other parents to find out how they potty trained their children. Some parents use the same techniques all the way through and others do it different each time.I potty trained my oldest at 18 months, my middle child at 2 and a half, and my youngest... Well, I haven't gotten to it until now.I potty trained my oldest at a young age because he literally asked me to get him big boy underwear and to use the potty like daddy. By the time my second child started showing the signs that he was ready, I was pregnant with my third and tried to hold him off on the whole process. He had other plans.Now, my youngest is practically begging me to potty train him. You don't believe me? All week he has been coming up to me.. naked.. diaper in hand. Then he goes on to tell me he's poo (the word he uses for both deeds).It doesn't matter what type of outfit he's wearing. He manages to get it and his diaper off and proudly finds me to show off his accomplishment.
3 Potty Training Methods
The first step to potty training your child is to choose the method that fits your life and child best. Here are the top three methods around.
The Child Oriented Method:
This method is designed to let your child decide when they're ready. Watch for signs that they're ready to be potty trained.When you see the signs, you begin the potty training process. First start out with your child, fully clothed on the potty. Get them used to the potty without the pressure of using it. As they get more comfortable, have them sit on the potty while they're wearing a pull up. Then encourage them to sit on the potty without a pull up.As they get more comfortable with the potty, they will start to try using it when they're ready.The slow process is designed to encourage your child to take it all at their own pace. If they start to resist the process, this method suggests you take a break.While this method can provide a positive experience for your child, it also ends up taking much longer. It can last anywhere from a few weeks to a year.
The Weekend Method:
This method has become increasingly popular over the years. When you see a few signs that your chid is ready to be potty trained, find a weekend that you can completely devote to the process. Clear your schedule and get ready.This method takes about three days to complete. It's much messier than the other two, but effective.The morning of day one, start pumping your child full of fluids. You want as many opportunities to practice as possible. Then strip your child naked. It's important to keep your child naked on the first day so they can feel what it's like to need to use the potty.Take them to the potty every thirty minutes and have them try. If you catch them in an accident, immediately take them over to the potty and have them sit down. Remind them to go to the potty if they feel like they have to go.Day two is a little different. Today your child can wear underwear. The routine is still the same. Pump them full of fluids and take them to the potty on a schedule.Day three is the last structured day of the method. By this time, your child knows they need to use the potty and has has plenty of experience with it. Today, your child can wear pants and be fully dressed. Day three is more of a maintenance day. Watch out for accidents and continue the routine.My husband and I used this method for our kids. It worked for our oldest two and will be the same method we use for our third. It's crucial to completely clear your weekend. It helps to make sure you're completely focused on the process and catch accidents before or during.
The Potty Party Method:
This method is also one of the quicker ones.Get your child a doll that "goes potty." Introduce the doll to your child and explain that the doll us becoming a big kid and only uses the potty now.Spend the morning teaching the doll how to go in the potty. Make sure you let your child help teach the doll so they can understand the concept as well. Let the doll have a few "accidents" and use it as an opportunity to talk about what happened.Before your child begins their potty training, find the biggest incentive possible and use it to encourage them to use the potty. Once your child successfully uses the potty, get all of their family and a few friends to come together and celebrate.This is their moment. The party is more of a commitment they're making. They now know how to use the potty and as a family, you're committing to the process. During the party, take a moment to gather all of their diapers and throw them away. Then they can put their underwear in their drawer.The potty party is a 1-2 day process, so you will still be doing a fair bit of maintenance afterwards. However, by throwing all of the diapers away, you're locked in!
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Our Fall Family Bucket List
Our Fall Family Bucket List
The leaves are changing, the weather is getting colder, you can finally start your morning with a hot cup pumpkin spice latte... Which can only mean one thing.It's Fall!My favorite time of the year and it's just beginning! It also means my husband is home more! His work travel schedule ramps up during the summer, but starts to slow down during the fall and winter months. My boys and I have loved having him home more!Our Fall started out a bit rocky, but now we're filling it with as many fall festivities as we can!
Our Fall Family Adventure
It's only a few short weeks into Fall and we're already loving it!I asked my kids what they wanted to do this Fall and they quickly made up their lists. I thought I'd have to help them decide what they wanted to add to their Fall bucket lists, but they sat down at the table and drew it up all day!I loved seeing them so excited about Fall because it's been my favorite season since I was their age. Here are a few of the items on their lists!
Learn A New Sport
Football season has begun and my kids are now obsessed with it! As soon as my husband gets home from a trip, he's greeted with three little boys and a football. It doesn't matter what time it is, they all beg to go outside and throw it around!This is the first time I've noticed the two big kids actually interested in how to play. They're asking where to put their fingers and how to throw better. I love seeing the smile on my husband's face as he teaches them. He's so proud of them and loves being able to teach them.
Go On An Early Morning Walk
Early morning walks have always been a favorite in our house. It all changes when the weather gets cooler. We all grab our nature journals, a hot cup of hot cocoa or coffee for momma, and go on our early morning adventure.We live in a quiet little neighborhood so it's perfect for all of our stops along the way. The boys look for special rocks, sticks, and leaves as I take as many pictures of them as I can. I love seeing their little friendships bloom and change as they get older.My youngest is getting to a point where he wants to be just like his big brothers. He watches every move they make and tries to copy it all.
Make A New Halloween Treat
With three kids and a traveling husband, homemade snacks aren't always a top priority. All of that changed this year when my kids were the ones begging to make them!These little monster treats were so easy to make and required very little work for momma. All you need is white chocolate, a little coconut oil, and pretzels. Mix up your chocolate and oil then dip your pretzels. Voila. So simple. Then hand them over to your kids and let them go crazy.
Fall Family Bucket List
Here's the rest of our Fall bucket list! We've marked a few off our list, but have so many more to go! Join us for your very own Fall adventure.
Let us see what you're crossing off your bucket list by posting it and tag us #AIWTribe!
FX Better Things: Authentic Motherhood and A Giveaway!
When I was a little girl, I would dream about what it would be like to have kids. I've always loved kids. I went from babysitting all the kids in the neighborhood to working with children with autism. When I thought about having kids, I knew it would be amazing. I pictured my kids on special mommy dates, being told I'm the best mommy, and cuddling in my bed with them on Sunday mornings.Then I had three little boys and I realized what motherhood really is.
Motherhood is...
Staying up all night with a sick child. Stepping on Legos at 3 in the morning whispering every obscenity your mind comes up with. Getting spit up on repeatedly until you realize it's too much work to change your shirt and then you go around in spit up stained shirts for the next few months. Drinking cold coffee all day just to stay awake until nap time. Realizing you will never be caught up on laundry because your kids are little messy tornados. Knowing you love your new messy, chaotic, sleepless life. 
Motherhood is everything I imagined and everything I didn't. It's raw, real, and worth it.This is why I love the new Better Things show from FX. Most shows depict what we all thought motherhood would be like. Better Things shows what motherhood really is. The moments we pretend don't exist.Better Things is all about raw motherhood. They don't want to sugar coat it or make it into something it's not. It's hard, mothers everywhere are exhausted, and they love their kids more than anyone.
4 Times Better Things Showed Motherhood At It's Finest
"Get out of my room!"
There are so many times during the day where my husband finds me laying on my kid's bed. He looks at me dumfounded every time. Then he asks why I don't just hide out in our room. Probably because all three of my children congregate in their all day long!I'm constantly telling them to get out of my room, but I usually cave and go to theirs to be alone. Or the bathroom if we're going to be honest. The mother in this show, Sam tells her kids to get our of her room multiple times throughout the show! Do they listen? Of course not.
"Hide things from me! Please!"
The idea of our kids telling us everything is great. We raise them with the understanding that we're in their corner. We're here for them and they can trust us with anything. The moment it actually happens is another thing.During Better Things, Sam's daughter starts to tell her she wants to smoke pot and goes on to say she wants to tell her everything even when she wants to have sex. Sam's reaction, much like all moms, is perfect. She instantly freaks out and tells her daughter to hide things from her!The idea of an open and honest relationship with your children is beautiful, but the reality is exhausting!
"Mom. Can I ask you something?"
This is the question all moms fear. It's never good. It's never something as simple as we hope. The fact that they have to ask shows it's something they're worried for us to answer.Sam has three daughters in the show that all ask the scary question. Her face is priceless each time. She knows it's coming and waits...
"Keep your opinions to yourself."
This is one of my favorite scenes in the season premier. Sam is sitting on the mall bench with her daughter. She is losing it while Sam sits their looking at her phone. Next to her on the bench is an older woman staring and judging her relentlessly.As soon as Sam realizes what's happening she puts her phone down and stares back!"Do you want to go in and buy her the six dollar earrings she already has at home? Because that's why she's crying right now."No mother has gone without an incident like this. People tend to look in and have no idea what's going on. Instead of realizing they have no place to judge you, they judge away. I love that Sam completely calls her out on it! There are so many times I've wanted to do the same thing!!
What Are You Doing Thursdays at 10pm?
Put on your comfy sweat pants, grab a glass of wine or the whole bottle, and enjoy your new favorite show, Better Things! Take it up a notch and invite a few girlfriends over! This show is amazing and reminds you that you're killing it as a mother!
Better Things Swag Bag Giveaway!
Today, I'm partnering up with Better Things FX to give one of you the ultimate momma swag bag! You work hard every day and deserve this! This box is full of great goodies!To enter the contest, all you need to do is share a real and raw moment in motherhood that you've experienced. You can share it in the comments below!Don't forget to share the giveaway with other deserving mommas![tweetthis display_mode="box"]I just entered the #BetterThings giveaway! Enter to win your momma swag bag! #motherhood @almstindianwife [/tweetthis]The winner will receive...Ray Ban sunglasses, a Chipolo bluetooth keyring , a leather clutch , a hypoallergenic travel pillow, a lavander essential oils, a Better Things emergency bag, and a Better Things chapstick!Good luck mommas!
Don't Tell Me My Nightmare Is Normal
The Moment It All Changed
Ten months ago, my husband and I decided to take our kids to surprise my mother in law for her birthday. She lives about three hours from us and it sounded like the perfect weekend getaway. It was perfect timing too. Our youngest had been sick the week before, but he was going on two days without a fever.We loaded up the car, set the kids up with their iPads, and put a blanket on the baby. After a quick kiss for each of them and a trip to Starbucks, we were off. Our road trip went smoothly (or as smoothly as it can with two toddlers that need to pee every twenty minutes) and we were about ten minutes away.Then I heard Baby Luke. It was a cry, but a silent shriek. My stomach immediately started to turn because I knew that wasn't a normal sound he makes.I unbuckled and jumped into the back seat. I expected to see my baby had pinched a finger, but no. I'll never forget his face. He wasn't peacefully resting... He wasn't crying.... He was looking to one side and jerking his entire body.Baby?!Baby, look at momma. Baby, what's wrong?Can you look at momma?Please! Look at me! At this point, I know. Something is seriously wrong with my baby. I immediately tell my husband to pull over and call an ambulance.I started praying he was ok. I didn't know what was happening. I kept asking myself why he wouldn't look at me. Why wasn't he looking to me to help him? Why is he still jerking? Why won't it stop? Please, just stop. After we pull over, I immediately unbuckle him and that's when I notice his skin. He's burning up.My husband is the man that holds in all of his emotions in the moment to be strong for his family. He stands strong to help me stay strong. This is one of the only times I looked to him for reassurance and saw he was as scared as I was.I'll never forget how helpless I felt the moment I held my convulsing child, unsure of what was happening to him or if he would be ok.I faintly heard my husband in the background, telling them where we are. All I could do is stare at my baby. Then the convulsing stopped. Nothing happened. Silence. My husband and I stared at him waiting for him to look at us, reach out to us, need us. Nothing.Nothing.He didn't move. He looked off to the left, but wouldn't respond to anything.Just then an EMT put his hand on my shoulder and grabbed my baby. He went straight to the ambulance and laid him on a stretcher. He started asking my husband and I questions and checking my baby's vitals.It took about an hour for my baby to move and give me the most welcomed hug I've ever given my children. It was the scariest hour of my life.It turns out he wasn't over his virus. His fever had spiked while driving and it caused a febrile seizure. I'll never forget how the ER doctor explained the seizure to me.Normal.It's normal for some kids to have febrile seizures. Some kids are more prone to them, but they're normal. How was that normal? How can something so terrifying be normal?
Fast forward 9 months and one more febrile seizure later....
At this point, I knew what febrile seizures were. I understand my baby is prone to them and that he will most likely get them in the future. I feel prepared for another one.Baby Luke was sick again. He has been taking Tylenol and Ibuprofen back and forth, every three hours (as our neurologist directed) and my stomach starts to turn. He starts to have a look and I know he's about to have another seizure.I'm ready.It happens. His entire body starts to contort.Wait. This isn't supposed to happen. He's supposed to shake. What's happening? His eyes go to the side of his head, his arm goes above his head, and he's still.I yell for my brother in law to come downstairs. Then my worst nightmare comes true. He's on the phone and tells them Baby Luke's lips are blue.Oh God. I look down and he's right. His lips are dark blue. He's still not moving. My heart begins to sink.My baby. Please. Please be ok. For a moment, I didn't know if my child was alive. It was probably only a few seconds, but it felt like a lifetime. I didn't think he was breathing.After what felt like an eternity, his body relaxed. His lips turned pink and he started crying. Just then the EMTs and a Police Officer walked in my front door.
Fast-Forward Three Weeks And One MORE Seizure Later
At this point, Baby Luke has had four seizures. The neurologist and the ER doctors tell us the same thing. It's normal. The seizures aren't hurting his brain. It's a brain misfire that happens when he spikes a fever. There's nothing you can do to prevent them, not even fever medication.Baby Luke woke up with a low-grade fever. Due to his previous seizures, a fever for him is 99 degrees. I immediately gave him meds and scheduled a pediatrician appointment. We go and they tell us it's just a virus and to load him up on fluids.As soon as the appointment is over, I run to the store for Pedialyte. As soon as I leave the store and turn into an intersection, I look back and see my baby. He's seizing. I pull over immediately. I'm right in the middle of traffic, but it's as good as I can do because I need to get my baby on his side so he doesn't suffocate.I grab him and walk over to the grass. I start talking to him and let him know I'm there. While I'm waiting out the seizure, three moms pull over and ask if they can help. They call 911 and an ambulance and a Police Officer (the same Officer that came to my house before) arrive. After the seizure, we move over to the ambulance.After the seizure, we move over to the ambulance. They tell us we have to go to the ER because he still wasn't acting like himself. I had to follow behind them because I had our only vehicle with all of my kid's car seats.I speed the entire way to the hospital, run inside, lose a shoe, and ask where my baby is. When they lead me to him, he's naked. He had spiked another fever in the ambulance and went into another seizure. They're trying to cool him down.About an hour later, they try to put an IV in my baby. He starts crying. I look at him and my husband notices the look. He starts to seize again.The room fills with doctors, nurses, and they put an oxygen mask on him. My baby.I grab my husband's shirt and he holds me as tight as he can. Our baby.I hear a doctor mention intubating him and then they give him anti-seizure medication. His body finally starts to relax. I immediately go next to him and start rubbing his head. I looked at my baby and he looked so fragile. So little. So broken.I lost it. I started sobbing. I've never felt so helpless in my life. That was our seventh seizure and each time I have to stand there, watch my baby, and do nothing. There's nothing I can do to help him.
I'm his mom. I'm supposed to protect him. I'm supposed to fix it. I can't.
There are a few reasons I wanted to share this with all of you. Part of me needed to write and cry it all out. It's been such a hard year with Baby Luke. I hate hearing doctors tell us it's normal. This doesn't feel normal. It doesn't feel normal to watch my baby convulse, see his lips turn blue, and pray it stops. It's not normal. The other reason I shared my story is to tell every parent out there, you can't always fix it. You can't always fix your baby's problems. You can't always protect them from things that could hurt or scare them. What you can do is be there.I can't prevent my baby's seizures, but I can be there. I can hold his hand and tell him I'm right there. I can hug him, kiss him, and tell him how much I love him.To be honest... This is where I am in this journey. I don't know what I can do. The doctors say it's normal, but it's a nightmare. I'm trying to figure out what to do as I write this. It's a horrible feeling not knowing.The only comfort I have is knowing I can be there for my baby. I will always be there for him. It's the most I can offer and it's enough. He will always know how much I love him and I can take rest in that.
I will always be there for you Baby Luke.
How To Encourage An Easily Discouraged Child
This is his ABC notebook after one of those moods this morning. He decided he wanted to add a bit more color to his butterfly's wing and accidentally colored outside of the lines. His unna told him he accidentally colored outside of the lines and he lost it. He broke his crayon, ripped his paper, and started to cry. It took me about twenty minutes to calm him down and help him try again.When he works hard and finally understand or completes the task at hand, he's beyond happy. It means so much to him when he succeeds. The problem is that he's easily discouraged because he has to work harder than his brother. He wants to be just like his unna (big brother) and doesn't understand why it doesn't happen in an instant for him.As a homeschool mom, I want to find the best way to teach him. I want to find a way to prevent him from getting discouraged, but it's hard. It's not as easy as I thought it would be, but we've found a few things that help.
How To Encourage An Easily Discouraged Child
Listen
Take the time to find out why they're upset. It may be different than what you think. Ask them why they're sad or angry and just listen. Figure out exactly what it is so you can find out how you can help them. As you listen, they can see how much you care and may start to open up more.
Take A Deep Breath And Try Again
This has been the golden rule in our house. Whether your child is having a hard time telling you something or is upset overall, it's important to teach them coping skills. Then they can use the skill if they're with you or off with their friends. If you notice them starting to get discouraged, ask them to take a deep breath and try again. This allows them to cool off and start over. They'll be surprised how much starting over can help a situation.
Help Them To Succeed
It can be difficult for an easily discouraged child to accomplish big tasks. It can seem too big to complete and they may give up before they get close. Instead, set them up to succeed. Break the task down into simple and manageable tasks. Instead of putting all their laundry away, ask them to start off with their shirts, then their pants, and so on. The more the succeed, the more willing they will be to try in the future.
Let Them Know You Understand
It's easy for kids to think you won't understand and keep their thoughts and frustrations to themselves. Instead, let them know you do understand. After they open up and tell you something make sure you empathize. I can see how frustrating that is. That must make you mad. They need to know you're on their team and to know they're feelings matter.
Encourage ALL Progress
As a parent, you are your child's cheerleader. You are the one yelling and cheering them on over on the sidelines. They need this at home too. They need their successes to be celebrated no matter how big they may be. The more you encourage your child, the more they'll want to succeed. They like knowing they did a good job! Who doesn't!?Find out how you can encourage your child and try out a few of these. See which ones work for them and do it again and again. They need to know they can do it. Help them to know they can do anything they set their minds to.
Surviving Sleepovers With GoodNites
Surviving A Sleepover: The Bedwetting Struggle
Sleepovers can be a monumental moment in a child's life. They look forward to and may even dream about their first sleepover at a friends house. It's a sign of them getting older, becoming brave, and doing something on their own.While day dreaming about their first sleepover, they may think about the movies they'll watch, get excited about staying up all night (even though they'll likely fall asleep much sooner than they think), and all the fun they're going to have. They're eagerly awaiting the moment a friend asks them to a sleepover and until then they're going to dream up the perfect sleepover.What about the child that fears being asked for their first sleepover?Instead of daydreaming they end up getting nightmares over what could happen. All they can think about is...What happens if I wet my bed during the sleepover? What will my friends think?Nighttime bedwetting is much more common than kids realize. It's not something they can be trained out of, rather their bodies need to mature. The brain is supposed to get triggered when an individual's bladder is full. In some cases, the brain doesn't get the message which results in them wetting the bed.This can make things like a sleepover terrifying. Children that struggle with bedwetting get scared to leave the house in fear of what can happen. Instead of missing out on sleepovers until the problem is resolvedInstead of missing out on sleepovers until the problem is resolved there are a few things you can do as a parent to make your child feel confident they'll survive their first sleepover.
What Parents Can Do Before A Sleepover
Positive Reinforcement
It can get frustrating cleaning your child's sheets every morning. However, the worst thing you can do is let your kids know how frustrated you are. Bedwetting is emotionally difficult for a child and they need to know their parents are in their corner. Instead, reinforce them when they do have a dry night. Let them know how proud you are.
Develop A Routine
Help your child to develop a nighttime routine that encourages them to use the bathroom before bed. By limiting fluids after dinner and having them empty their bladder, you decrease their chances of an accident.
Encourage Your Child
When a child struggles with bedwetting they can start to feel bad about themselves. Remind them that bedwetting isn't due to them not doing something well enough. Instead, it's their brain not getting the message from their bladder. As their bodies mature, their brain will learn to get the message. It just takes time.
Sleepover Survival Tips
Talk To Your Child
Before a sleepover, ask your child what they're worried about. It's important for them to be open and let you know their fears so you can develop a plan to put them at ease.
Make A Plan
The biggest fear for a child who struggles with bedwetting is what do I do if I wet the bed? Huggies GoodNites provide confidence for children. Pack a pair of GoodNites underwear in your child's bag. Before they go to bed, they can put them on. GoodNites underwear has an absorbent layer inside that will prevent them from soiling their bed. When they wake up the next morning, they can discreetly go to the bathroom and put the underwear in the garbage.
Talk To The Child's Parents
Before the sleepover, you can discuss your child's bedwetting with their friend's parents. Then they will be able to help the child if needed. It also provides an added layer of confidence for you child because they know they will have help if they need it.
Let Them Decide If They're Ready
At the end of the day, your child has to decide if they're ready for a sleepover. Don't push them if they aren't ready. They will let you know when they feel confident enough to take the step. In the meantime, go over your plan and do your best to help them solve any issues they may have with going to their first sleepover.
Where Can I Pick Up My Child's First Set Of GoodNites?
Huggies has always been a favorite in our house. From their natural care wipes to their GoodNites underwear, they have parents covered. They want to help parents make their lives easier and also provide natural resources for our kids.
Back To School Tips For Multicultural Families
Back To School Tips For Multicultural Families
Homeschool
Gather Multicultural Resources
While collecting your supplies for the year, be sure to keep an eye out for multicultural resources. Homeschooling provides a great opportunity to focus your curriculum on what you want to teach your kids. Look around online and at local stores for multicultural pretend play items or books featuring characters from different countries.
Teach Your Children About The World
It's easy for families to center their curriculum around the cultures they're blending in their family. However, it's important to remind your kids they're global citizens. This means they should be learning about cultures around the world. Take them to different countries throughout every lesson throughout the year.
Attend Multicultural Events In Your Community
Most towns have a number of multicultural events throughout the year. Go online and find out which ones your town offers and put them on your family calendar. These events are a great way to not only learn about different cultures but experience them. Our town just through a huge celebration for India's Independence Day.
Public Schools
Meet With Your Child's Teacher
Scheduling a time to meet with your child's teacher provides an opportunity to help them get to know your family. This is the opportunity to let them know if your child speaks another language, cultures your blending at home, and answer any questions they may have. It's a good idea to be on the same page with your child's teacher. They might even incorporate different activities or have fun ideas on how to bring in your child's culture to the classroom.
Propose A Multicultural Event
Integrate your child's culture into their classroom by volunteering to help through a special event or teach them about a tradition practiced in your home. Teachers love parent volunteers! Tell them a few ideas you have on how to teach the class about a different culture.
Dual Immersion Schools
Make Sure You Value Both Languages
Your children need to know their family values both languages they're learning. Be careful not to make one seem more important. This will encourage them to figure out why they value the languages they're learning. They need to value what they're learning to be willing to put in the hard work.
Don't Make Your Child Show Off Constantly
What is your first thought when you see how much your child is learning? You want to show them off to all your friends and family! Look what she can say! Don't turn your kids into a parrot. It can embarrass them and make them less willing to learn a new language.
Be Aware Of The Challenges
Being fully immersed into a new language can hard. Your kids may deal with struggles, but it's ok. It's a normal part of the process. If you're worried, ask for a meeting with your teacher. They can let you know how your child is doing and what you can do to encourage and help them through the challenges.
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Whether you're homeschooling, putting your kids in public school, or doing a dual immersion program remember you can always put a multicultural spin on their education. You are raising a global citizen. This means it's your responsibility to excited them about other cultures and blend your culture into daily lives.