15 Reasons I'm Grateful For My Multiracial Family
The holidays are always such a good reminder to sit down and think about what you're grateful for. This year I've been thinking about all the reasons I'm grateful for my multiracial family.Our family has been looking forward to the holidays for months now. We were excited to be with our family we don't get to see often, enjoy delicious holiday food, and spend hours laughing about silly things.One of the biggest reasons I've been counting down the days is because I selfishly wanted my family to myself. During the rest of the year I have to share them with school, work, and other daily responsibilities. The holidays are my chance to get them all to myself and I don't have to share them.Parents hear it all the time.Savor every minute with your family. Over the holidays, I plan to do just that. I want to savor everything about them. So today, I thought what better than a list of all the reasons I'm grateful for my multiracial family. There are so many reasons I fall more in love with them every day, but here are just a few.
15 Reasons I'm Grateful For My Multiracial Family
The bond between my children.
As my kids are getting older, I've been able to see a true friendship form between them. At first it was an extreme love/hate relationship, but their love for each other is something else. I love being able to see them encourage each other and stand by each other's sides!
The blessing of raising momma's boys.
I never would have expected to be raising three boys, but now that I am I wouldn't have it any other way! I love being a mom to three strong and vibrant little boys. Not to mention they're all mommas boys and beg to cuddle me! I hope they never outgrow it!
The ability to see how caring my children are.
Every parent wants their kids to care about people around them. Seeing it happen is a different thing all together. This week I witnessed my son encourage his cousin who was crying over a game. I reminded him to give his cousin space so he could calm down, but he wouldn't budge. He had to stay until his chininna was feeling ok again. I love watching this because it shows me that they actually care.
My husband is an amazing role model of what it looks like to be a great daddy.
One of the reasons my kids are the way they are is because they have a great daddy to look up to. Their daddy has shown them what it means to provide for their family, be loving, take care of them, and how to always strive to be your best. They love their daddy so much and I am so grateful to see how close they all are!
I get to help shape my boys into the little men they will grow into.
Sometimes parenting is completely overwhelming. It all adds up and you ask yourself what you're even doing! Then you realize that all the hard work you put in every day is for your kids. It all adds together to help shape your kids into the adults they're going to be. What an honor to have such a special place in their lives.
My husband and I get to teach our boys what it means to be in a loving marriage.
My husband and I are going on year seven of marriage. We are anything but perfect and have our fair share of ridiculous fights in front of our kids. In spite of our imperfections, our kids know without a doubt that we love each other. They know we'll fight to keep our marriage strong and that they can feel safe.
We get to go on adventures together.
We have been extremely blessed over the years and have been able to go on dozens of family adventures. As I write this we're cozied up in bed in Texas visiting family. I love being able to make these memories together.
We are blessed with two beautiful cultures in our family.
As a multiracial family, we get to give our kids two different cultures and help them blend together to create their own cultural identity. I love watching them process through it all and find new things to fall in love with in each culture.
My kids are healthy.
We've had some pretty big health scares this year with our youngest son. As I look at his sweet little sleeping face I'm reminded how lucky I am that he's here with me and healthy. I'm beyond grateful that I am able to say all three of my kids are strong and healthy.
We have a huge support system.
Throughout all of the hospital scares this year, I've never had to worry about my two big kids. We've had a huge support system come around and take care of us.
I have the best partner in life.
My husband is my best friend. Not many couples can say that and truly mean it. The last year has brought us closer together and I am grateful to say he's the one I get to spend my whole life with.
My kids want their parents to join in on the fun!
I know it may not always last, but as of right now my kids beg us to play with them. They want my husband and I to be apart of their little games and it makes my heart so happy.
We actually want to hang out with our kids!
As our kids get older, they're getting to some pretty fun ages! They can actually play fun group games and I have to admit... my husband and I actually want to hang out with them! I love how our family nights have become about board games and fun activities together!
Our kids teach us something each day!
I love that I can learn so much from my kids. They teach me to have patience and more love in my heart for those around me. They remind me that not everything is as big as it seems. They lovingly encourage me every day that family is what matters.
I love my little family.
At the end of the day, I am just so overwhelmingly in love with my little multiracial family. They have made my life something so much more beautiful than I ever thought possible.
What are you grateful for this year?
My Multicultural Family: Our Thanksgiving Adventure
Early flights, skipping children, and making Thanksgiving memories! Combine them all together and that's what our little almost Indian family has been doing the last few days!
My Multicultural Family: Our Thanksgiving Adventure
Our kids have been counting down to our Thanksgiving vacation to Texas for weeks! They couldn't wait to visit their Chininnas, Pinnis, Thathas, and Nanammas. They were so excited that they would even announce their upcoming trip to everyone around them while grocery shopping! Needless to say, they have been ready for a while!As excited as they were, I was worried about them the morning of the flight. We had to wake the kids up around 4 am to make it to the shuttle in time. My oldest, Liam was the first one to start walking around the hotel room.Momma, I'm the opposite of awake...He started to tell me he was going to go back to bed and take a later flight. Then his excitement got the best of him and he shot out of bed when he realized the trip he had been waiting for was finally here!They are the only kids I know that will skip down the the shuttle at 4 am!
Momma's Well Deserved First Class Upgrade!
Luckily I've been blessed with a wonderful husband who gets his wife upgraded to first class with the baby! The baby that sleeps through most flights. I wish I could say I felt bad leaving my husband and the two big kids behind in coach, but... no.I figured they all owed it to me for every pregnancy, labor, wiped nose, early morning wake up call, back rub, Indian dinner prepared, and ounce of love I've given them. Yes, I went there.The problem is that I slept through the first class meal and drinks! Ooops.I planned on staying awake, but my first class baby passenger cuddled me right to sleep!
What is your funniest traveling story?
Raising Grateful Children: Thank You For My Siblings!
Have you ever wondered if you're raising grateful children? If your children are grateful for the people they love in their lives? Here are a few things you can start doing today to make sure you're raising grateful children!
Raising Grateful ChildrenI don't know what it is, but have you ever noticed that every time you need to make an important phone call your kids go crazy?This afternoon I had to call my health insurance company. I only had an hour before they closed and I figured I would try and call while my two youngest were napping. They usually answer pretty quickly so I thought I could get it all done before my boys woke up.After about 15 minutes on hold I realized quick wasn't in the cards for today.Then my three year old woke up and thought it would be helpful to wake up his baby brother. I went up there, phone up to my ear, to grab them. Baby Luke's crib was full of toys along with a 3 year old big brother.They were both grinning ear to ear and loving their mischievousness!I ended up letting them destroy their room so I could finish my supposedly "quick" phone call. I have to admit, I love that they're getting closer.It's one of the reasons I wanted to have my kids so close together. I knew it would come with it's own set of craziness, but it would be worth it. I wanted my kids to be close.I was worried in the beginning because all my boys would do was fight! My husband and I joked about their love-hate relationship, but deep down I was worried they wouldn't be as close as I hoped. Now that they're a bit older, I'm starting to see how deep their brotherly bond really is.
They all look to each other for approval, wanting to make sure their brothers think they're doing something amazing. The best is while we sit down for meals. They start telling jokes and instantly look to make sure their brothers are laughing at them! Even Baby Lucas joins in! No one knows what he actually says, but they love that he's trying and think his' hilarious!I want them to continue getting closer as they get older.I want my kids to be best friends.
3 Ways To Ensure You're Raising Grateful Children
This month, I want my kids to take a moment to be grateful for their siblings. The more they learn what they love and value in each other, the closer they'll be.
Lead By Example
If we want to teach our kids to be grateful, we have to start by being grateful ourselves. Kids are always looking to their parents to figure out what to do. If they can see us being grateful and loving to those around us, they'll follow suit.Parents can model gratitude by verbally expressing it, sending thank you notes, and even giving little gifts.Remind your kids how important to be thankful for people they love and talk to them about it. Let them know why you're thankful for them!
Create A Habit
Instead of being grateful once a year on Thanksgiving, make it a year long routine. Create a habit in your home to talk about what your thankful for. Whether it's over dinner each night, as you tuck your kids in bed, or on the way home from a busy day.It doesn't matter when you do it, just do it. Create those conversations early on so they become normal.
Sibling Dates
As your kids watch you leading a grateful life and a let it become a habit in their own, it will quickly start to affect their relationships with their siblings.You can foster their relationships with each other more by letting them have sibling dates!Do something fun and take them to a movie! Let them choose what they want to see together and their snacks! Or let them come up with their date night on their own. Encourage them to have fun thinking up the whole night and what they're going to do.The most important thing you can do as a parent is to help your children build strong relationships with each other.These relationships are going to last for their entire lives. By helping your kids learn how to be grateful for each other, you're making sure they have a strong foundation that can last through it all.
What tips do you have for helping your kids be grateful for their siblings?
Candy Thieves And An #AIWTribe Challenge
Our Little Trick Or Treaters!
I hope everyone had a Happy Halloween yesterday! This was the first year that all of our kids truly got into trick or treating!They were so excited to see all of the kids dressed up as different characters that they knew. Not to mention our neighborhood did such a good job! So many people were sitting in their driveways with little fires, handing out candy and goodies!I love seeing the neighborhood get so involved!What was your favorite house your favorite house you visited last night?
The two big kids were in heaven all night! They couldn't get to the next house quick enough!Baby Lucas was so excited to walk with his brothers to the first few houses! Then his big brothers started to leave him behind and he realized just how much work Trick or Treating was going to take.
The Morning After
The morning after Halloween is always interesting. My little candy thief, Levi always attempts to steal the Halloween candy. He usually succeeds! This year my husband and I decided to hide it so they couldn't find it. Putting it up high never works, so hiding it seemed perfect.Then we woke up at 5am to see all of our lights on...The little candy thief snuck downstairs looking for his Halloween spoils and found it!When I asked him why he would do it he said, "Mommy I thought you wanted me to have it. I'll give you one..."He tried to bribe me!Did any of you have any candy thieves this morning? I think it's becoming our little Halloween tradition!
#AIWTribe Challenge
Now that Halloween is over that means we're counting down the days until Thanksgiving!While we're all waiting for Turkey day I thought what better than an Instagram challenge! I love doing challenges with all of you so we can get to know each other better and share what's important to us!Be sure to follow me on Instagram to see the prompts each day!Also tag your pictures with #AIWTribe so we can find each other's pictures all month long!Don't forget to tell your friends!
How Purging Toys Has Made My Kids Closer
Our Massive Purge!
I recently went through our home and did a massive purge. I've wanted to do one for a while, but continued to put it off. I'd get rid of a few things here or there, only to replace it with something else.Then I finally did it. I spent an entire weekend going through our clothes and toys. I ended up donating 10 bags to Goodwill.... I didn't even know we had accumulated so many things. Granted some of it was clothes the kids no longer fit into, but there were so many toys.Do you want to know the kicker?My kids haven't even noticed...I spent so much time trying to find toys that would help them to stay entertained, teach them important skills, and to play with their brothers that I went a little overboard.Our purge has been amazing. I spend half the time cleaning up after they're done playing and the most important thing is their imagination has exploded! Instead of dumping out all of their toys and playing with one for five minutes they grab a few and go outside!
We've been extremely blessed this year with a park in walking distance from our house. Right next to the park is a fun wooded "fort." My boys have been all about it!Now that we've gone through and donated a huge chunk of our toys, they've wanted to go to the park every day. As soon as we get there, they run to their fort. I tried following them in today but was rudely denied by a five-year-old Iron Man.
I still snuck in to snap pictures of them playing together! I love seeing how close they're getting.Having three little boys under six has been crazy at times, but I remind myself we did it for a reason. I wanted my kids close together because I wanted them to be best friends. Now, it's actually happening. They love spending time together.Yet another thing I've seen after getting rid of so many toys is that they play together more. Before, they'd all get their toys and play alone. Now, they find each other and play together!
Ok, we're almost there. This little one got kicked out of the fort for throwing dirt at his big brothers. This was his response when I asked if he was throwing things at them.He's got no shame.Try it for yourself and purge some of your kid's toys! You'll be amazed at the results!
Teaching My Multicultural Kids What's "Normal"
My Little Explorers
One of my favorites part of homeschool has been watching my kids explore. My little boys are curious about everything around them! If you look into their eyes, you can see they're always pondering something.Momma, why can't I marry you?Why can't we spend your grocery money on our toys? Aren't toys more important?Why doesn't everyone speak Telugu like daddy and me?I love hearing the questions their little minds come up with. While I may be assuming they're only thinking about the toy in their hand, they're actually processing life going on around them. They want to figure it all out.Sometimes, these questions are centered around what they want in the moment, like going toy shopping rather than grocery shopping. Other times, they're thinking about something much deeper. I'm always surprised to hear how deep their questions can become.Lately, my oldest son, Liam has been pondering the differences between him and those around him. As a biracial child, he's not new to the idea of being different than some of his friends, but he's starting to identify how they're different.
I Speak Normal
This week, we went to the store to pick up a few supplies. While we there, Liam overheard a few employees speaking in Spanish. He's fascinated with other languages because this is the first year he's had a personal desire to pick up more Telugu.He immediately started talking to me and asked if they were speaking Spanish. I said yes and he started to go off in his own version to show off for them, throwing in a few real Spanish words.He was so proud of himself. Then I became the mom that reminded him most of what he said was made up. Luckily, he just laughed and he started listing off all the Telugu words he knows.I love that he wants to explore languages, but I don't ever want him to come off as mocking someone else. I want him to know the difference between a made up language and a real language. Then he brought up one of his cousins who grew up in India.Momma, why doesn't he speak normal like me?Hun, there's not really a normal language. People across the world grow up speaking different languages and he grew up speaking Telugu. It's normal to him. Mom... Listen to me. See.. I'm speaking normal. It took some time to explain to him that normal is relative, but it got me thinking. I don't want to raise kids that think they're way is the only "normal" way. Right now, he's young and he's trying to process the world around him. I love that he's able to talk to me about everything he sees and wants to know more about.
Diversity Is Normal
I want my kids to grow up knowing diversity is what's normal. I want them to be able to look around and see the beauty in the differences between cultures.The more I can talk to my kids about the differences they see, the more normal it becomes. "Normal" is relative. It changes for everyone. However, one thing that should always be normal is a love for different cultures around the world.As my kids continue to question and figure out the world, I'm going to be right next to them. I want to help them as they figure it out.It's our role as parents to teach our kids the beauty of diversity. How can you do that? You do it by pointing out racial inequality, talking to your kids about what's going on the world, encouraging them to ask questions, and teaching them that all lives matter.Sometimes, I look at the news and for a moment, I wish I could hide it all from my kids. I don't want them to see how terrible people can be. I don't want them to know that some people are so hateful that they see their race as better than another.It's my job as their parent to talk to them about the hard things. I'd rather be the one to tell them, so I can also be the one to remind them all lives are important and diversity is what makes our world so beautiful.
Potty Training: Top Methods And Tips
Potty Training
The moment in parenthood, we all dread.Potty training means double the amount of dirty clothes, constantly keeping an eye on your child to make sure they don't pee everywhere, and frantically looking for bathrooms in public before you become "that" family...I love hearing from other parents to find out how they potty trained their children. Some parents use the same techniques all the way through and others do it different each time.I potty trained my oldest at 18 months, my middle child at 2 and a half, and my youngest... Well, I haven't gotten to it until now.I potty trained my oldest at a young age because he literally asked me to get him big boy underwear and to use the potty like daddy. By the time my second child started showing the signs that he was ready, I was pregnant with my third and tried to hold him off on the whole process. He had other plans.Now, my youngest is practically begging me to potty train him. You don't believe me? All week he has been coming up to me.. naked.. diaper in hand. Then he goes on to tell me he's poo (the word he uses for both deeds).It doesn't matter what type of outfit he's wearing. He manages to get it and his diaper off and proudly finds me to show off his accomplishment.
3 Potty Training Methods
The first step to potty training your child is to choose the method that fits your life and child best. Here are the top three methods around.
The Child Oriented Method:
This method is designed to let your child decide when they're ready. Watch for signs that they're ready to be potty trained.When you see the signs, you begin the potty training process. First start out with your child, fully clothed on the potty. Get them used to the potty without the pressure of using it. As they get more comfortable, have them sit on the potty while they're wearing a pull up. Then encourage them to sit on the potty without a pull up.As they get more comfortable with the potty, they will start to try using it when they're ready.The slow process is designed to encourage your child to take it all at their own pace. If they start to resist the process, this method suggests you take a break.While this method can provide a positive experience for your child, it also ends up taking much longer. It can last anywhere from a few weeks to a year.
The Weekend Method:
This method has become increasingly popular over the years. When you see a few signs that your chid is ready to be potty trained, find a weekend that you can completely devote to the process. Clear your schedule and get ready.This method takes about three days to complete. It's much messier than the other two, but effective.The morning of day one, start pumping your child full of fluids. You want as many opportunities to practice as possible. Then strip your child naked. It's important to keep your child naked on the first day so they can feel what it's like to need to use the potty.Take them to the potty every thirty minutes and have them try. If you catch them in an accident, immediately take them over to the potty and have them sit down. Remind them to go to the potty if they feel like they have to go.Day two is a little different. Today your child can wear underwear. The routine is still the same. Pump them full of fluids and take them to the potty on a schedule.Day three is the last structured day of the method. By this time, your child knows they need to use the potty and has has plenty of experience with it. Today, your child can wear pants and be fully dressed. Day three is more of a maintenance day. Watch out for accidents and continue the routine.My husband and I used this method for our kids. It worked for our oldest two and will be the same method we use for our third. It's crucial to completely clear your weekend. It helps to make sure you're completely focused on the process and catch accidents before or during.
The Potty Party Method:
This method is also one of the quicker ones.Get your child a doll that "goes potty." Introduce the doll to your child and explain that the doll us becoming a big kid and only uses the potty now.Spend the morning teaching the doll how to go in the potty. Make sure you let your child help teach the doll so they can understand the concept as well. Let the doll have a few "accidents" and use it as an opportunity to talk about what happened.Before your child begins their potty training, find the biggest incentive possible and use it to encourage them to use the potty. Once your child successfully uses the potty, get all of their family and a few friends to come together and celebrate.This is their moment. The party is more of a commitment they're making. They now know how to use the potty and as a family, you're committing to the process. During the party, take a moment to gather all of their diapers and throw them away. Then they can put their underwear in their drawer.The potty party is a 1-2 day process, so you will still be doing a fair bit of maintenance afterwards. However, by throwing all of the diapers away, you're locked in!
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Our Fall Family Bucket List
Our Fall Family Bucket List
The leaves are changing, the weather is getting colder, you can finally start your morning with a hot cup pumpkin spice latte... Which can only mean one thing.It's Fall!My favorite time of the year and it's just beginning! It also means my husband is home more! His work travel schedule ramps up during the summer, but starts to slow down during the fall and winter months. My boys and I have loved having him home more!Our Fall started out a bit rocky, but now we're filling it with as many fall festivities as we can!
Our Fall Family Adventure
It's only a few short weeks into Fall and we're already loving it!I asked my kids what they wanted to do this Fall and they quickly made up their lists. I thought I'd have to help them decide what they wanted to add to their Fall bucket lists, but they sat down at the table and drew it up all day!I loved seeing them so excited about Fall because it's been my favorite season since I was their age. Here are a few of the items on their lists!
Learn A New Sport
Football season has begun and my kids are now obsessed with it! As soon as my husband gets home from a trip, he's greeted with three little boys and a football. It doesn't matter what time it is, they all beg to go outside and throw it around!This is the first time I've noticed the two big kids actually interested in how to play. They're asking where to put their fingers and how to throw better. I love seeing the smile on my husband's face as he teaches them. He's so proud of them and loves being able to teach them.
Go On An Early Morning Walk
Early morning walks have always been a favorite in our house. It all changes when the weather gets cooler. We all grab our nature journals, a hot cup of hot cocoa or coffee for momma, and go on our early morning adventure.We live in a quiet little neighborhood so it's perfect for all of our stops along the way. The boys look for special rocks, sticks, and leaves as I take as many pictures of them as I can. I love seeing their little friendships bloom and change as they get older.My youngest is getting to a point where he wants to be just like his big brothers. He watches every move they make and tries to copy it all.
Make A New Halloween Treat
With three kids and a traveling husband, homemade snacks aren't always a top priority. All of that changed this year when my kids were the ones begging to make them!These little monster treats were so easy to make and required very little work for momma. All you need is white chocolate, a little coconut oil, and pretzels. Mix up your chocolate and oil then dip your pretzels. Voila. So simple. Then hand them over to your kids and let them go crazy.
Fall Family Bucket List
Here's the rest of our Fall bucket list! We've marked a few off our list, but have so many more to go! Join us for your very own Fall adventure.
Let us see what you're crossing off your bucket list by posting it and tag us #AIWTribe!
My Multicultural Family: The Olympic Summer Games
The 2016 Olympic Summer Games are right around the corner. It's a huge opportunity to teach your family about the world!Multicultural Kid Blogs just came out with their Summer Games Activity Pack! This pack is truly in a league of its own. It's 100 pages of history and activities! When your kids have finished going through their Summer Games Activity Pack they'll know about the nations with the most medals, famous Olympians, Olympic sports, delicious recipes, and so much more!This year we decided to throw the Olympic Games into our homeschool routine. This activity pack has been a huge resource for us because it's fun for all three of my kids. I don't know about you, but I struggle to find activities that work well for all their ages. This activity pack is great for any age!
This week we pulled it out and started to learn about the different nations. While my kids were coloring the maps, I read through the history portion. At first, I thought it was more for my sake. They get to color and I get to think they're learning about the world. I was greatly surprised when my five and three-year-olds continued to stop me while I was reading to ask questions. They were so intrigued to hear more about popular sports and find out what the Olympic games are all about.Whether you're homeschooling your kids like us or you want to teach your kids about the world, the Summer Games Activity Pack is perfect! Here is a little recap of all the things it offers!
What To Expect In Your Summer Games Activity Pack
History Of The OlympicsInformation On The Olympic GamesOlympic Medal TrackerColoring PagesRecipes For Each NationActivity PagesYou can even take it up a notch and host your own Olympic Games at home! Take what you learn from the packet and make your summer one to remember!
Get your Summer Games Activity Pack here!
My Multicultural Family: A Letter To My 5 Year Old
Dear Baby Boy,
Today is the day you've been counting down for. You're 5! You're 5 years old! My little baby is 5 whole years old. Even though you're so excited to be one year older today, momma wishes I could slow it down a little more.
Every night while we're praying, I pray God will make you stay my little boy forever and ever. You stop me every time and remind me God won't listen, with your little frantic voice. You want to be big so bad. You want to skip it all and be a big kid.
I hate to break it to you Baby Boy, but you will always be my little baby in my eyes. Even as you get bigger and don't need to depend on your momma as just as much. I'll always see you as the little baby that changed my entire life. I waited my entire life to be able to hold you in my arms.
You made my little world so much bigger.
You showed me what it means to love someone so much it hurts.
You taught me to see the best in everyone like you do.
You showed me what it means to be a loving unna (big brother).
Baby Boy you are teaching all of us more than you know. Your little brothers look up to you and I do too. You have such an innocent little heart and remind me every day to love people more. You love everyone around you and would do anything for them.
I can't wait to see the young man you grow into. You're going to be a world changer. All you have to do is be you because you are enough. You are such a blessing to everyone around you.
xo Momma
I was recently inspired by another blogger over at Baby Making Machine about the importance of making memories. She interviewed her little girl on her 6th birthday to remember it all and I'm doing that today too!
5 Year Old Birthday Interview
What's your favorite color? BlueWhat's your favorite food? Mac N CheeseWhat's your favorite thing to do? Camping OutWho's your favorite superhero? ThorWhat do you want to be when you grow up? A Grown UpHow many kids do you want to have when you grow up? ThreeWhat do you think makes someone a good daddy?Being nice.What kind of daddy are you going to be? Just like my daddy.
My Multicultural Family: What I've Learned From My Traveling Spouse
While most families are packing up to head out of town for the summer, my family is getting ready for some epic staycations! My husband, Joel travels for work and summers tend to be one of his busiest times of the year for him.As I'm sure you can already imagine, having a traveling spouse is hard. I'd love to say I handle it all perfectly and that things run smoothly while he's gone... but no. That's definitely not the case. Instead the dishes pile up, the house gets cluttered, clean clothes end up in my closet full of other clean clothes (not folded, but piled nicely in the corner), dinner consists of chicken nuggets or cereal, and bed time is strictly at 7 every night so momma can get a break.It's not all bad.
Having a traveling spouse has taught me a lot.
It's taught me to be more comfortable with myself.
My husband and I got married when we were really young. I was only twenty! The reason I will never forget how old I was is that we went on a cruise to the Bahamas and I was so excited there wasn't a drinking age there!Ahh, the little things that bring us pleasure.I quickly learned to depend on my husband. He's an amazing man and has always taken care of our family, even when that consisted of the two of us. I have always been more comfortable with him by my side. It was really hard when he started traveling because I just wanted to stay home. I didn't want to go to events or get togethers with out him. I felt uncomfortable being alone.Then I realized how wrong that was. I didn't want to be so dependent on my spouse that I couldn't do things without him. He was always encouraging me to go and one day I finally listened. Sure, it was uncomfortable at first, but then I gained a new sense of pride and independence.My husband will always bring out the best in me, but that doesn't mean I'm not my best when he's not there. I will always be me whether he's there or not. Having him travel so much has taught me to challenge and love myself more.
It's ok to not be supermom every day.
While my husband is away for work I'm doing a lot. I have to help my three year old cope with daddy being gone (he struggles the most), take care of the house, take care of the dog, do everything needed to be done for the kids, make three meals a day, keep everything organized, fix broken things around the house, take on things my husband normally does, try to live frugally while he's away, and try to find time for myself.Doing it all isn't just hard, it's impossible.I've tried. I've tried doing everything at 100 percent and I broke down. I felt like a failure because I could barely get things done and the things I did do weren't done well. Then a very wise friend asked me a very wise question.Why are you trying to be supermom?I wanted to do everything perfectly and let everyone know I could do it. I could be an amazing mom while my husband was away and I didn't need help from anyone. Instead I found out just how much my family was suffering from my own pride.No one expected me to do everything. No one expected everything to be perfect. It was me. I was the one that wanted to do it all.My family became so much healthier when I stopped trying to be supermom. Now, I'm honest when I can't do something. I spend every morning looking at my to do list and ask myself what actually needs to get done today.This has lead to a closet full of unfolded clean clothes, chicken nuggets for dinner more often than not, sticking closer to the house to avoid getting everyone ready, and me asking for a lot of help. Guess what... It's also made for a much happier family.Now, my family talks about how to make things easier while daddy is away. We've landed on chore charts for the kids, snack boxes so snacks are figured out ahead of time, simple schedules, and mommy time.
All my kids really want is for momma to make time for them
My kids really don't care if I fill up our days with crazy adventures, perfectly clean houses, extravagant meals, and that I do it all on my own. All they really want is quality time. They would rather me make more time for them than to spend more time cleaning or stressing out about things around then house.My husband has talked to them a lot about how much faster things go when everyone contributes. Now, we make it a big game at night. We spend fifteen minutes and see who can clean up the most. Then we have more time to read books together and chat about our day.It's crazy how long it took for me to realize this. It helps me give myself a break on the hard days. All my kids really want is me.
Does your spouse travel? What has it taught you?
Simple Ways To Save Money This Summer
Simple Ways You Can Save Money This Summer
Organize Your Kid's Clothes By Season
Take the day to go through your kid's clothes. Then sort them by season and put the clothes you don't need in storage. As a parent, you know how quickly clothes can get lost. By sorting them, you can know exactly what you have available. I can't tell you how many times I end up heading to the store to pick up items, only to find them in my kids closet the next day.Organizing your kid's clothes can also help you get a little extra money by taking clothes that don't fit your kiddos to a local consignment shop.
Buy Snacks In Bulk
The most tempting thing over the summer is to buy snacks in individual wrappers for your kids. It makes it quick and easy to grab while you're out all day, but it's not as nice on your wallet. Instead, head to your local grocery store or a Sam's Club and buy your snacks in bulk.We started using a snack box a few months ago and it's save me a lot of money! My kids know exactly where they can look for snacks and I tell them to put snacks in their back packs before we leave the house. All you need to do is take you snacks and put them in individual and reusable containers. The containers even save you money because you can rinse them out and use them again when you're done.
Label Anything Your Kids Bring Out Of The House
How many times have your brought containers to a friends house or to a local splash pad and mixed them up? I've done it so many times! Then you don't want to be that parent and fight with someone over a container!Well, worry no more! You can start labeling items you bring our of the house! These labels are amazing! Your kids can customize them and you can choose what they say. They don't wash off in the dishwasher and you can choose the size! They have labels for inside your shoes, the tags on your clothes, and items like cups.Labels are a way better idea than using a sharpie because they don't wear off over time.
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How are you saving money this summer?
Spice Up Your Summer With Bollwood Gak
Summer is here!Which means parents are looking for ways to spend their summer with their families. Not to mention, keep their kids busy!How are you going to spend your summer?
My family will be spending our summer....
SwimmingEnjoying backyard barbecuesCrafting with the kidsSpending time with friendsIndulging in delicious Indian feasts Going on family vacationsPlaying with our homemade sensory activities
One of our favorite things to do while we're at home with the kids is to make gak. Now, this isn't your normal every day gak. It's Bollywood Gak! Which means bright colors and glitter!Our kids love it because they can cut it up, mold it into fun shapes, let it run through their fingers, and put it all back together.
Bollywood Gak Recipe:
1 4 ounce Bottle of Glue1 tsp Borax1 cup of Warm WaterFood ColoringGlitter (optional)Two BowlsThe most important thing you need in order to make Bollywood Gak is a little helper!In one of your bowls, mix the warm water and borax. In a separate bowl, mix your glue and food coloring. If you want your Bollywood Gak to be bright you can use neon food coloring. Otherwise you'll end up needing to use an entire tube of food coloring.Add a spoon full of warm water to your glue mixture and mix well. If you're going to add glitter, now is the time to do so.
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10 Tips For Great Family Pictures
The Perfect Family Picture
Getting the perfect family picture is similar to... seeing a shooting star, while riding a unicorn, during a snowstorm in July. It just doesn't happen.We recently got our family pictures taken by one of our family friends. He was incredibly patient and took over one hundred pictures. My husband and I were more than excited to sit down and look through them to find the family picture. We started looking for perfection and quickly realized our idea of perfect looks like has changed since we had kids.Prior to kids we look for perfect smiles, perfect poses, and perfect lighting.After kids, we look for the picture that represents our family best. A family picture isn't supposed to perfect. You want to be able to hang it up in your house and have a picture that truly represents every personality in your family. 
10 Tips For Great Family Pictures
Make sure your kids are well rested.
Often times, photographers like to do sessions in the morning because the lighting is the best. While it works incredibly well for the photographer, kids may not be as happy. If your kids are like mine, they may take a while to wake up and a photography session will be the last thing they want to do.Be sure they have a good nights sleep and a good breakfast before hand. This is going to help them be in the best mood possible as well as have the energy they need throughout.
Make it fun.
The best part about taking a picture is that it captures a moment in your child's life. Make your photography session fun and capture real smiles, real giggles, and their wonderful personalities will shine through.
Bring toys and books.
Be sure to pack up a bag of toys and books. Your photographer is going to be taking multiple photos which means your child won't be in every one. If they're left to themselves for too long they're either going to get dirty or worse... get bored. Bored kids turn into cranky kids and cranky kids turn into full blown meltdown kids. Save yourself and keep them entertained the best you can.
Don't be above bribery.
Bribe. Your. Kids. It's as simple as that. Bring some goodies that you can bring in your times of need. If you start losing your kids to a bad attitude, bring out a piece of delicious candy! Another option is to plan something fun at the end. Remind them if they can finish the session well they can get A or B.
Bring water and mess free snacks.
Aside from the candy, be sure to bring snacks. One problem families run into is they bring snacks that make a mess. Then their outfits suffer. Bring mess free snacks like granola bars and water. They'll help if their bellies start to growl.
Bring extra clothes.
Life happens. There's no way you can prevent every mess out there. Especially, if your photography session is at a location other than your house. The best option is to bring everyone a second set of clothes for the "just in case."
Be flexible.
You're going to go into your photography session with ideas. You've probably scoured pinterest boards and decided on great poses. However, you have to be open and flexible. When you get to the location you need to be open to what naturally happens. Trust in your photographer's judgment too.
Comfort is key.
Dressing up your kids in uncomfortable clothes is just asking for problems. Do your best to make them comfortable. Is their shirt as itchy as our boy's Indian clothes were? Put a comfortable shirt underneath it.
Bring wet wipes.
Messes will happen. Bring wet wipes and I can guarantee they're going to come in handy.
Leave the cheese at home.
One thing I've heard from many family photographers is how frustrating it is when parents yell "CHEESE" at their kids throughout the entire session. Instead, make them laugh! Remember to make it fun so you don't end up with dozens of pictures with fake smiles.
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Lies About Traveling With Kids Revealed!
Lies About Traveling With Kids Revealed
If you keep your child up or miss a nap before a flight, they'll sleep the whole time.
While this may seem like a great idea, it'll backfire on you more often than not. Instead of bringing a well rested child onto an airplane, you'll bring your child's evil twin. Flights are exciting and the seats aren't as comfortable as their bed. It's not as easy for them to fall asleep while flying, so it's better to set them up for success by bringing them to the airport well rested.
You will never be the parent with the crying child.
My husband and I promised we would never be those parents... Until, it happened to us. Our baby cried for the whole three hour flight. Flights and little ears are not a good mix. If you're not really careful and have your child suck on a bottle or nurse while taking off and landing, their ears will get extremely irritated. Even if you do it all right, their ears could rebel against them and cause the screaming you feared. It's ok. We've all been there and people around you can suck it up and deal or get off the plane... Wait, I guess they just have to suck it up and deal.
You can prevent your child from kicking the seat in front of you.
Kids are squirmy by nature. Think about how wiggly they are at home. It's difficult to get them to sit still for dinner or even their favorite cartoon. How can you expect them to sit still in a little, itty bitty airplane seat for a few hours? You can have them try and keep their feet down or sit with their legs crossed, but it's inevitable. They will kick the seat in front of them at least a few times. All you can do is audibly talk to them about how they wouldn't like someone kicking their seat and hope for an empty seat in front of you.
You packed everything you'll need.
You're going to spend hours thinking about what to bring, making checklists, asking people to run you through lists, asking your kids if they packed x, but you'll forget something. You'll forget to plan for your child's inconvenient bloody nose on the plane, their blow out diaper in the terminal, or their un-washable marker fiasco. You're not a mind reader and kids are chaos at all times.
You'll never judge a fellow parent traveler.
You've probably promised you'd never be the parent to judge another fellow parent. Lie. The moment will happen when all of your children are quiet on the plane (even if just for a brief moment) and you'll hear another child. They will be freaking out or crying and your first thought will be, "Can you shut your child up!" You just got yours quiet and don't want anyone messing with your groove. Then it's going to bite you in the bum because as soon as theirs go quiet, yours will start up. Then you'll feel bad you ever judged another person...maybe... or you'll blame them for your misfortune.
You'll sleep on the plane.
I don't even think I really need to debunk this one. If you actually think you'll sleep on the plane with your child you're either crazy or in denial. I support you either way, but come on. Really? If you fall asleep you're just asking for trouble. Your sweet and innocent little child could slip out of their chair while you're asleep and cause complete chaos or completely embarrass you on the plane. For real, everyone already knows you're the one with the kids... Do you really want anymore attention on yourself? Just keep one eye open. --Traveling with kids can be straight up exhausting, but I'll leave you with one truth... You and your caffeinated self will get through it.. eventually.
Share your crazy travel stories with us in the comments!
Kids Say The Darndest Things
Kids Say The Darndest Things... Every Day Of Their Lives
Living in a house full of little boys is chaotic to say the least. I spend my days sword fighting, wrestling, telling my children to stop picking their noses, fishing toys out of the toilet, catching my three year old peeing in trash cans that are right next to the toilet, being told I'm not very good at video games, and so much more. I love having people over and seeing the look on their faces when they enter into our chaos. It's loud, crazy, full of energy, and I love it. I've grown accustomed to all of it and while I thrive on a few minutes of peace and quiet at the end of the night...I love it.
Here are some of the things I've heard my kids say this week...
I was reading my kids one of the new Bharat Babies books and my son saw the momma had on a bindi. "Momma! Was she shot!?""Blah blee do utha ca see do." When I asked my son why he was saying that he told me he was speaking in Spanish like his friends at the gym...
"Momma, one day you'll be good at video games, but for now I think you should stop playing and just get me dada.""Momma why do you get to marry dada and not me? It's not fair!""You have poopy eyes like dinosaurs!" "He's peeing in the garbage!!""He's hitting me!" Then I told Levi he was in trouble for hitting his brother. "Mom, it's ok! I liked him hitting me. He's not in trouble now.""How dare you!" My son's response after I told him he was in trouble for coloring on the walls.
I know I'm not the only with with a crazy life that I completely adore. Comment and share some of the crazy things your kids have said or done this week!
A Letter To My Son
Today is my son's third birthday. I'm overwhelmed with joy and sadness as he grows up. In my nostalgia, I've decided to write my baby boy a letter. 
Dear baby boy, Momma loves you so much. I've loved you from the moment I felt you in my belly. Feeling you grow and get bigger with every kick. Even in my womb, you had a mind of your own. You were always kicking in the middle of the night, just because you could. Then the day came and I met you face to face. There is nothing to express the joy I felt, holding you in my arms. I sat there for two full days staring at you, kissing you, and falling more and more in love. I didn't know how it would be possible to love someone as much as I love you and your brothers. You make every day worth it. You're sensitive heart shows me just how big it really is. You're heart is so big already, even at three. You are always there for your brothers, daddy, and myself. You're always looking to help people and make sure they know you are their helper. You're impulsive and it shows me you will be adventurous. You'll always look for things that excite you and you're passionate about. You'll always put your heart into everything you do because of that passion. You fight off the "bad guys" to protect us during all of your battles. It shows me you will always be there to take care of those around you. You aren't always a fan of being in the spot light. This shows me you're humble and put others before yourself. 
As I sit here, on your third birthday, my mind is full of thoughts of the man you will become. I wonder where your life will lead you.Will you travel the world like your daddy?What will you be passionate about? Baby boy, I can't wait to see the man you will grow into. I want to make you a promise. I promise to always be there for you, always be there to comfort your when you're sad or discouraged, always be there to hold your hand through tough times. and do my best to never criticize you, but to encourage you as you learn. I'm no where near a perfect mom. I'll make mistakes, but I promise to always try and be the best mom I can be for you. You are an amazing little boy and I know you will grow into a strong and loving man. xo Momma
The Almost Indian Family Memories of 2015
This year has been full of memories. Some are hilarious and make me laugh just thinking about them and others bring tears to my eyes. My family and I joke that 2015 has been the worst year EVER. While it has had some extremely hard moments, like bringing our son to the hospital after having his first seizure, I don't think it's fair to the rest of the memories if we deem it an awful year. Instead, I want to focus on the great things that happened this year. Today, I want to share some of my favorite and crazy memories with all of you and I hope you will share some of yours with me!
The moment my two year old looked under the bathroom stall next to us!
I don't know what it is, but their is some deep desire in my son to embarrass me as often as he can. Whether this means yelling about his bathroom habits in the store or looking under the stall next to us! Not just a peak either... He full on looked under the stall next to us and started talking to his new friend!!! By new friend I mean person we had NEVER met before. Luckily, she had some humor over the whole thing... Some.. While I wanted to run away he was introducing himself...
My son turned four.
My oldest little baby turned four this year! He is getting so big. I still see him as my baby, but the more I see him grow in front of me, the more I realize he is changing. Changing into a little man. He wants to play video games now, talk to me about his day, ask how I am, and tell me knock knock jokes.Come on, you're dying to hear one...Knock knock.Who's there?The Interrupting cow.The int...MOOOOOOOOO!!I know my kids can sense me telling this joke and are off giggling somewhere as I type this.
My baby is healthy.
After such a health scare with my little guy, I count every day he is healthy as a great day. He is growing into his own little person. He is always going over to his siblings, trying to get them to let him play. He tries to wrestle with them. He even laughs when they laugh, just to feel included! Which OF COURSE makes them all bust up.
My baby started crawling.
He even started crawling this year! Granted, that's as far as I'll let him get... I refuse to let him walk. I even got a walker so he could feel like he's walking without actually learning. Hey, he's my baby. I want him to stay that way.
I'm not pregnant.
Woo hoo!!!! Anyone that has had multiple kids so close together can feel me on this one. Woo hoo!!
My sister in law got married.
My beautiful sister married the man of her dreams, The Almost Indian Husband! He is amazing and fits into the family so well. He is even showing off and learning Hindi!! This was such a beautiful day. My husband even officiating the wedding!
We moved to Chicago.
We made a big step this year and moved across the world! Ok. Not across the world, but across the US. It was a very scary step for me, but I'm so grateful I did it. My kids are learning Telugu and getting to know their family here so well. We all love being so close to my husband's family. Then, of course, let's not forget the food in Chicago!
My cousin got married.
We had two weddings this year! My cousin also got married! He married his soul mate and she is absolutely PERFECT for him. I love seeing them grow together. Even though my oldest thinks we were married at the wedding... He tells me every day, "Mom, remember when we got married?" Why, yes. Yes, I do.
We started homeschooling.
We started homeschooling our oldest this year! It was the perfect time to start because pre-k isn't as difficult as it will be later. It's been so much fun teaching my kids at home. Next year, we will be starting Classical Conversations and I can't wait! Have any of you heard of it or maybe do it too?
My kids got to play in the snow!
Let's not forget the snow! My kids have been waiting for the snow! We may have told them Chicago is a snowy winter wonderland! They had a blast. I heard we're going back to the snow too!Wether this year has been difficult or full or great memories, I want to challenge you all. Don't focus on what's made it hard. Let's focus on all of the good memories and what you've learned!
What are some of your favorite memories of 2015? Share them in the comments!
The Almost Indian Wife December Instagram Challenge!
Can you guys believe that it's almost Christmas? This time of year always flies by for me. We have so many birthdays, holidays, and trips packed into November and December. I love it all! The holidays have always been huge in my family and I love that my kids are getting old enough to share it with them! This year we're going to make homemade ornaments, sip hot chocolate, and attempt to build gingerbread houses.
December Instagram Challenge
I've been looking for something fun to do with all of you during the holiday season! I'd love to get to know all of you better and what better way than with an Instagram Challenge!? Whether you are a blogger or someone that loves Instagram, this challenge will be a great way to build your followers, meet other amazing people, and share how you're getting ready for the holidays!
How To Join In The Challenge
Step One
Follow me on Instagram, so you can see how I follow each prompt! I'll also be reposting some of your pictures from the challenge each day!
Step Two
I've provided a prompt for each day. I'm excited to see how creative everyone will be with these. All you need to do is post a great picture inspired by the daily prompt.
Step Three
Be sure to use the #aiwtribe. This hashtag will make it possible for everyone participating in the challenge to find you and for you to find everyone else! By using the hashtag, you will also be giving me permission to repost your picture on my Instagram page.
Step Four
Meet new people! After you post your own picture, search the hashtag and comment on someone's photo! Who doesn't love meeting new people!This is also a HUGE step for fellow bloggers. This is how you will make connections with fellow bloggers and potential readers.
Step Five
If you'd like some more exposure for your Instagram posts or would like to get to know some more fellow Instagramers, join my AIW Instagram Challenge group.
See how simple it is! I hope that all of you will join in starting December 1st! [tweetthis twitter_handles="@almstindianwife" display_mode="box"]I'm joining the #aiwtribe December Instagram Challenge! Join me! [/tweetthis]
The Danger In Teaching Your Children Independence
As a mom, I've always been a big supporter of my kids gaining their independence. I assumed all moms would feel the same way. The more they can do on their own, the easier it is on me! Right? Nope. I've actually gotten a lot of people challenging me on this mindset.
My Fiercely Independent Child
My kids are used to my husband and I encouraging them to be independent. We praise them as they learn new skills and are always looking for opportunities to teach them how to do things on their own. Now, this doesn't mean we're telling them they can walk to the store by themselves at two and four, but we do think they can learn to put their own dirty dishes in the sink. My oldest son, Liam prides himself on his independence. He never wants help doing anything he thinks he could do on his own. If he doesn't know how, he asks you to teach him so he can do it the next time. While we were visiting my husband's family a year or so ago, we encountered a little situation. An auntie was trying to hand feed Liam. Now, hand feeding is done with adults and kids. It by no means says anything about you being a child or incapable of being able to do it on your own. It's a sign of endearment from someone. That's definitely not how he saw it. He tried to tell the auntie he could do it himself, but she lovingly insisted. He relented and took the food. The next day, he ran to me crying. I asked him what was wrong and his response was eye opening. Everyone is treating me like a baby and I'm not a baby! I'm big!I gave him a big mama bear hug and had to explain that people love him so much, they like to help him.
The Danger In Teaching Children Independence
I realized something in that moment. I realized that while I was teaching my kids independence, I forgot to teach them humility. The moment Liam came to me crying was an opportunity to teach him that even though he is big and can do so many things, it doesn't mean he always has to. He has to let people help him sometimes. Whether it's because he is indeed to small to do something, someone wants to help him because they love him, or just because they moment requires someone else to do something. Now, we still encourage our kids to be independent. I still think it's a valuable skill to teach them, but we also teach them that just because they can do something on their own doesn't always mean they need to. It's a balancing act for them to learn.My son still tries to convince me he is big and that he knows how to do it all, but he's starting to see how good it can make people feel to help him sometimes. I love his fiercely independent spirit! I don't think it will ever be natural for him to have people help him, but the fact that he is trying is good enough for me. 